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danielle1712

Do i take the safe option and get out now before everyone gets hurt or trust that i can stay true to my boyfriend?

i met this guy just over a month ago now, the night i met him was at his bestfriends party. i was quite drunk and he was sober.. and we ended up hooking up that night for quite a long time. everything was great we just instantly clicked and within a week we were going out. at this time i had a thing with a guy who treated me really badly, he never spoke to me infront of his friends, or hardly at all really. so i decided to end that and see where this new relationship took me. its been going great he is a lovely guy and so sweet, but lately i have been hanging out with the guy i used to have a thing with alot, just as friends, but im juts so attracted to him, physically and mentally, in a way that i am not with my boyfriend. i just dont know what to do i dont want to hurt anyone but i just dont really trust myself, and especially with leavers coming up and i just dont know what to do ugh.. please help me, someone.

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Child: why are you lying to yourself? You're NOT ready for monogamous commitment yet.
My suggestion: don't commit yourself to a "BF/GF" relationship with anyone. Date around. Date both of these guys ... & anyone else that comes along & asks you out. You'll be much happier enjoying your youth & single status!
You don't need to choose "one" guy yet... good thing; you're not ready.

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bradahh
Star as usual smitty.
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Nice way to start the morning, eh?
She wants to be "true" to her BF but is lying to herself!
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I think you need to hang out with the guy that you love most. However, you need to also talk to your other friend and tell him the truth so that he cannot be hurt when he finds out that you don't love him much as you love the other guy.

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break up with him. sounds like he deserves better.

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Well if you have feelings for both of them but, you have more feelings for the guy you used to have feelings for I mean I would go to the one that your you around them. I know how you feel but, you need to go to the guy that you really like and love and you just have to tell him how you feel and hope it takes the right way.....

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chose who you love the most. in your heart you know who you really want. but also remember your mind is a powerful thing and sometimes it will trick you, so you have to figure out not just who you live more, but who will be the guy you love not just in the present but what it will be like in the future.

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Break up with the one guy... He doesn't deserve to be strung along.... You can't help that you like someone else... Tho you may have a bumpy ride with the old boyfriend...

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This is proof girls like the bad guys best--the ones that don't treat you good. Go with the old bf. the new one deserves better.

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bradahh

Smitty hit the nail on the head. Sounds like you have no idea what to look for in monogamous relationship. You should not commit to anyone until you know what you want. Better break it off with your boyfriend. No one deserves to be strung along. How would it make you feel?

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What if you would did tell a boy how you liked him and even sent him a birthday card saying same and you never heard back from them?

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Then he was never that into you, never was, never will be... Save your love for someone who truly deserves it and will know what to do with it.
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angelwolf

Yep, get out take the safe option and don't hurt that nice guy.

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