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My Boyfriend&I have have been together over a year.He definitely shows me he cares for me, but we have yet to say I love you. Be concerned?

we get along great, the sex is awesome! our daughters get along great with each other. everything seems great. He has no problem telling his family he loves them so I know he can express himself, but with me he has a hard time expressing himself with words.

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as long as he is doing right by you, don't fret

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Thanks :) I really don't feel the woman should say it first and I want him to set the pace, but at the same time I don't want to wait too long.
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Why don't u say it first if u love him

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Because I feel it is important that he sets the pace. As women we tend to move faster than men and I am in no hurry. I'm enjoying this relationship. I guess I just want advice from guys in how they feel on the subject.
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Why make things so complicated? Nothing better than always knowing where one stands in a relationship! Forget that bs of not knowing how a person feels for you.. They either do or don't.. They don't have to mention the love word if they don't want to, but at least tell person you're interested and like them, otherwise, don't waste time and leave the space open for someone else that doesn't need to play the hot potato game
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Maybe he's a man of actions and few words, that's how i am, i find it hard to say those 4 words too because i think they're best said with actions maybe he thinks the same way.

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He is definitely like that. With someone like him I feel like I may have to be the one to say it first, but then again I want for him to set the pace. I don't want to be "the girl" and rush things. Things are good. I just don't want to know if this relationship is living forward and not standing still yknow?
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Give him some time, he will say it, but not now, once he feels he's ready he will, happened to me even though it was in vain but that's a very long story, you just do your best to keep the relationship and let him do his part, good luck.
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@sean--4 words ? Thought I like or love you is just 3 words?
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Thanks SeanOnyx. I think that's a good plan...
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yea i typed 4 by mistake sorry lol
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Well just tell him u love him and tell him if he loves u and if he says yes tell him too say I love u if he means it

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Well honestly you should never. *tell* someone or force them to tell you how they feel. Too much pressure. Especially when it comes to I love you. No one should feel they have to reply the same thing back. I am fully prepared to not hear those words back right away. I just want to see if we are moving forward in our relationship and our feelings.
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That's funny.. You're right.. For some people though, especially if they are disagreeing on something like for example you send him email and he responded it was bizarre or something so your next move would be to tell him, yeah - I luv ya too! In that scenario, guy should then ask the girl, what did you mean by that? We're you being sarcastic? Or did you mean anything by it? Nothing better than clarification to avoid misinterpretations or making fool out of oneself.. That's just my opinion..
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You should say it to him first.

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You don't feel the man should set the pace? I personally have never said it first & I have only said those words to three people in my life. One of those was my ex-husband.
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The old school part of me says yes, but then reality sets on. I did say it to my wife first, but everybody is different.
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Red Sox ... Aww that's sweet.. I remember an old friend I had that said it to me kinda first too but he was never direct about it, he'd hide the word in other sentences so I'd have to go fetch the whole convo or sentence to find the words.. Puleez.. For example, would have a ph convo where we cldv been arguing about something in early afternoon and then after he was done being mad about whatever, he thought it was cute to end convo with "and the only reason I'm yelling at you is cause I luv you" .. Oh my goodness.. I never paid attn to him when he got into those moods, and perhaps I should've stayed as such cause when I started being nice to him, he decided to stop talking to me.. All that drama for that?
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Some people can't always say how they feel, I know about that. But as I have gotten older, I have gotten better, about it.
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You did not tell us about his nature?

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He is a very private person in general although he shares a lot with me. He has told me that actions speak a lot louder than words on many occasions. He is a very cautious person. He is slowly starting to express himself verbally with me in recent weeks so I am being very patient with him hoping he'll tell me how he feels soon. I just want to do a "relationship check" and see if we are both moving forward with our feelings and our relationship.
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Don't ask us---do it.

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Are you a man or woman? I ask b/c I would take advice like that more seriously from a guy. Only because women by nature are more expressive. And because I'm a woman I am not surprised that my feelings may be progressing faster than his.
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Actions speak louder than words.

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I totally agree, but as a woman I like to hear it as well. To me when you say something out loud it makes it real. That's why I feel he has a hard time expressing himself verbally. Just a theory
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A lot of men find it hard to express their love to a woman.
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Ravin makes a good point!
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Thanks, Bill.
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There really is never any reason not to state your feelings. If tomorrow never comes would he know how much you loved him? Remember to say thank you each time he does something that you don't have to do. You may never get all the warm fuzzis you think you need. His personality makes him show love.
Showing love through his actions is more honest than any word.
But I get why you want to hear it.
Stop questioning and just make sure you are showing and telling him.
Who knows, he may be wondering if you even love him.
It's not about who says it first.
Just tell him tonight in case tomorrow never comes.
My husband died suddenly on valentines night waiting for me at a restaurant.
I wish I had called rather than sent a text saying I was running late.
Be happy in your own kind of love not a scene from a romance novel.

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That is so honest and sweet. Thank you for the kind words. I feel the same. I too have lost people in my life suddenly and I believe in expressing yourself every single day. I guess my concern is because it is the first time telling him. Once you say those words things change and I don't want to rush things.
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You are not rushing- it's been a year.
Things change?
Yes I guess he won't be wondering
And neither will you be stressed.
If he does not say it back--Do not pout and cry!!!
Or ask him why.....Just know you did your part.
Mr. Man of Few Words will step up soon
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I dont think you should worry about it,if it bothers you tell him you love him, it doesnt matter who says it first.

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I knw what it feels...before almost my situation is like that.
.he dont like to say I love you to me.. (we are not same country either nationality...) so what I do is talk to him heart to heart...and I ask why you dont like to say I love you or I love you too? "he answered me, , because im not used to it...my life before is sucks, no love no cares ect... whatever" so I tell him that now wer married things is different right now do you think I dnt feel hurt if u dnt response my I love you? then he started to say I love you thats why im with you...and I only spend my love life, happiness to you until my last breath..."now he always(I mean atleast once or twice a day) say to me that he love me" ..I hope you can take some idea...try to say that u love him...try to talk to him heart to heart. ..dont feel scared of telling the truth coz he will feel what you fell if u start to talk..good luck and have a nice day:-)

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Sometimes its hard for others to say "I love you" to each other. Just give it awhile im sure he will say it eventually.

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