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Why do you think so many people find the idea of platonic mixed gender relationships so difficult to understand?

I'm asking this not because I really need an answer, but because I need to put it out of my mind for a bit. (Been buzzing in my head all morning)

Many people seem to... just not get the concept of a mixed gender platonic friendships. They tend to treat them as a time bomb that will either lead to heartbreak or romance. I figure it has something to do with the formation of their views on gender (Maybe. I'm not psychologist. Or sociologist. Or ologist of any sort.) So I decided to examine my own development.

I have a timeline of my development as I can remember it written up. To save character space, I will simply condense it to my major point.

In childhood, I progressed from thinking girls where yucky, to seeing them as worthy opponents, to seeing certain girls as true friends.
My preteens where spent coming to terms with sexual attraction, the difference between attraction and love, and the difference between love of a friend (of either gender) and love of a Girl Friend. I think this is probably where most people start to develop their major opinions and prejudices when it comes to gender and relationships.

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I don't know exactly what you're asking... but the way we act towards specific genders, for the most part, is what our society has created. It's called "Gender Roles". We expect woman to act a certain way, and for others to treat them a certain way. We expect men to act a certain way and for people to treat them a certain way. It's all about this society that we've created that we now must raise our children in. Personally I don't like it at all. As a child I played with GI Joes, not barbies. I didn't like dresses, but I wore them on occasion. Most of my friends were boys and my first crush was a girl. I'm still attracted to men as well, but I feel that by my parents raising me in a gender-neutral environment I was more able to explore and express my sexuality better. If I was raised in a home with strict gender roles then I may never have found out or come to terms with that I'm bis3xual.

I hope that answers your question.

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People who find the idea of platonic mixed gender relationships so difficult to understand are basically not open minded. People who get into platonic relationships just need to clearly understand the specific conditions to avoid getting hurt.

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I don't think many people don't understand what these relationships are. That part is simple. A boy and a girl like each other absent sexual relations between them. What some people find hard to believe is that sex will never enter into such a relationship. I've always liked girls, even at the age when I was supposed to think they were yucky. So, I've had a number of platonic relationships. From puberty on, these relationships have almost always had a one level or another of sexual tension in them. A few times love bloomed from the relationship. A couple of times the relationship died entirely because love bloomed for only one. The issue is not one of understanding what the relationship is. It is, for some people, understanding why it's worth the complications.

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