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I feel ignored and abandoned, any help out there?

Don't get me wrong, I have a great family and good friends and I'm not depressed but long story short: when it comes to relationships and talking about it I feel like I'm off the radar completely. I know God has plans for my life but I sometimes don't understand it and feel forgotten and unimportant to society. I'm always the uplifting happy kid who makes people smile and such but it's like my problems don't matter to anyone. Its like the world is one big movie and I'm just an extra who has no lines and is just there. I could really use some great wisdom, if any. I'm Christian by the way.

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Your problems don't matter to anyone. But they matter to God. He came down to die just for you so that you will find Him when noone else is to be found. You keep going to the wrong source to validate you, people. They never will. Only God truly cares. Follow Jesus example he left for you. His best friends deserted him and left him to die. He was mistreated, he was made fun of and was crusified by his creation. Put your trust in Him that is what the Christian walk is all about.

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Thank you for this
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His plan is that you find him. Jeremiah 29:11.
If you keep going to people you never will find Him. Jeremiah 17:5 He is waiting. Go talk to Him now. You don't even need an appointment.
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Will do, thanks again :)
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:) of course
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I know exactly how you feel but what would be one of your problems? Sorry it's hard to help without knowing =) no offense

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Thank you. Well I may seem happy all the time and I'm trying to accept that I'm always gonna be single but I just can't get over the feeling that I might be destined to walk alone. And no one seems to care I always have to help them. I mean to sound whining if I am
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sounds as if you have no problems for anyone to be concerned with, be having a great family and good friends

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Yeah but I usually hide my problems so is to not bother anyone but when I do they don't care. But thanks for responding and knowing you on ask: just seeing your profile name pop up made me laugh (in a good way of course :)
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hmmmmmm........my real name made you laugh? well, glad to hear that my name can make someone laugh for a minute or two. if have problems, speak your mind.
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Lol well is just that I remember reading some of your previous answers and they were pretty funny. My problems usually just deal with "why I'm not with a girl" and "does anyone care" Ugh just typically self drama of a first year adult
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well, prolly like me why you ain't with a gal, no benjamins. I know for a fact that is what the deal is with me.
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Yeah I lot of girls these days just wants $$$ but the good one are rare, especially in a small town. We'll get through
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have going on 15 years now, but I be a ol' goat now and been there, done that with gals.
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You must be one tough cookie
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lol, over baked
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Haha but not burnt out
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still got fire in the stove
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Slow cooked to perfection
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lol
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Keith.. You have a name you have ro live up to or else.. You will quickly get nicknames... Right?
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all kind of a.k.a. all up in here
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I'm Christian too and sometimes I feel that way too. Honestly it's just something that's going to happen on and off because of stress and things in your life. Just surround yourself with good people, friends, and pray. Tell Him what's going on and thank Him. It's what always helps me so I hope of does the same with you, good luck (:

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Thank you so much, I will
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I feel the same way. And never doubt that God has wonderful plans for your life. He allows us to go through hard times to teach us lessons and to build our strength and faith. He also tests our faith. He will humble us so that we trust in Him and not in ourselves, also so that we have compassion and understanding for other people. God knows everything that you're going through and He cares right down to the last detail. Thats great that you know how to make people smile and you encourage people. You have an amazing God-given gift and trust me, God won't let it go to waste :)

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Thank you I really needed to hear that
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Your welcome :)
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play a board game or pictionary game so u can be included

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Perhaps... I love Monopoly
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Be realistic. Everyone feels left out from time to time. Unless you've fallen out with, or upset your love ones somehow, being left out this time is unlikely to be a regular occurrence. The worst response to this type of situation is to feel sorry for yourself and to sit tight waiting for someone else to solve your sorrow. White knights don't charge in to mop up self-pity; only you can do that.

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Thank you, I'll try to remember that
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Good. :)
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I feel like I wrote this question and I feel very close to you because of what you say. For me, I feel like I'm in a desert and an oasis is in front of me but I can never reach it.

God is testing you and me right now I believe so do not fail Him. Turn away from all sin! Who knows how long the test might last, but do not falter!

Love and blessings to you. I pray that you do not get tempted and that you remain in the father's love forever and ever. Amen.

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Awesome, thank you so much. And I get what you're saying too. I always felt as if I'm walking or running down a sidewalk through think fog which causes me to wonder when I'll ever reach out of the fog and into sunlight. Thanks again :)
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Seems an odd comment coming from someone who calls himself "Merciless Cretan"...just thinkin
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Sometimes looks can be deceiving and don't judge a book by its cover...sound familiar?
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Just know that God has a plan for all of us.. And we are never completely alone, just follow the path ur on and God will provide

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Thank you for the support
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Ur welcome.. And stay strong
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Stay positive and the forces of the universe will work for u let go of weakness that's your plan that's what u came here to do clam your dignity

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Thank you, this helped
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Don't you feel sorry for yourself, no way! Instead join a charity group to help out those less fortunate then yourself. You will meet with other generous people who you will have something in common with. We feel like the world owes us something and nothing could be further from he truth. The world owes us nothing! Everyone is in the same boat. You came into the world alone and you are going to leave the world alone. Get used to it. Napoleon once said, "A man is mightiest when he is alone." You are a mighty individual. You have the answers in yourself. It might take a place like ASK.Com to get you motivated. Develop a hobby like a drama class, art school, bowling, singing class and the like to establish friendships with people. Join the military, as the soldiers end up being in a brotherhood because of their experiences together. Learn MMA to establish friends there. Your church might have something for you in terms of friends. Helping those less fortunate is very rewarding in that it takes you outside of yourself. If you dwell on yourself too much, you may depress yourself, because you feel like everybody else has a better life then you. They don't! A man may have fine jewelry on and a fine car, but he maybe living paycheck to paycheck and is one payment away from having his car and/or house repossessed. So he is not any better then you or I, prolly worse. Anyway, by helping out those less fortunate then yourself, you'll learn that there are others that have less then you do! You'll begin to feel blessed because they won't have what you have. 90% of humanity is living in despair. In India, there are people sleeping in the street, and are lucky to find a rock comfortable enough to use as a pillow. In China, there are people still living in caves. In some countries there are slaves in labor camps or women forced into prostitution at gun point. There, we just mentioned some worthy battles for you to fight, to give meaning to your life. So don't tell me you have a rotten life man. Stop feeling bad about your situation and start doing something about it. Go forth and conquer your fears and problems. Good luck!

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Thank you so much. This really got me thinking. I'm a lot better now or trying to be. I do have lots of interests and hope to make something of myself to benefit others around
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That's the best thing I have heard on ASK.com do far. You're helping me too because, I was where you were and it took me a long time to figure things out. I had no one to give me advice and languished in mental pain to my very soul. I didn't have ASK.com and so I frittered my life away drinking and dying a slow death. I didn't want to die and I realized that no one gave a shit about me, and therefore it was up to me to give a shit about me! So now, I don't have a perfect life, but it's not so bad either. Good luck and keep conquering your fears and insecurities and keep creating yourself, and creating things, (art, music, poetry, literature, science, and so on) such that you will leave something of yourself that others will remember you for, that will be valuable to them, will make society a better place, and will allow you to live forever, leaving a legacy that will be there long after you are gone. Good luck to you!
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You say: I feel abandoned: " He says;
" Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."! ( Hebrews 13:5) New International Bible. You just need to stay in contact with him by prayer. And believe in him, he is always available, you will never get a busy signal from him. Pray about your feeling of abandonment, until you feel better. And, keep on praying don't stop, when other issues come up. Remember God never tempts us to do bad, or makes us feel bad. "Let no one say when he is tempted, I am tempted by God". For God cannot be tempted with evil and he himself tempts no one;"( James 1:13). RSB

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