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What is a good website to learn about aspergers?

I want to write a book about a teenage girl growing up with Aspergers, but I can't find a website with information on difficulties for children as they're growing older and daily difficulties, does anyone know of one?

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I'd just read a ton of sites here are a few:
http://www.autism.org.uk/about-autism/autism-and-asperger-syndrome-an-introduction/what-is-asperger-syndrome.aspx
http://www.ninds.nih.gov/disorders/asperger/asperger.htm
http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/

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good luck on it i would love to read it

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^^ It's a Liam fanfic (I'll tell you about it, your the first to know about it)

_____ Malik is Zayn Malik's little sister. When Zayn asks her to go on your with him, she immediately agrees. But ____ has Aspergers Syndrome, making it hard for her to communicate in social situations, so how will she handle being on a seven month tour with four guys she doesn't know? And how does she end up falling for a certain Wolverhampton lad?

The ____'s are because I'm not sure about the name yet :) Hope you'll read it (but I understand if you don't)
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Here! This might help :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aspergers
Hope it's useful!

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If you have any specific questions for someone with Aspergers, I'd be happy to answer any.

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Can i ask? Do u have it or know someone who does? I have questions and concerns about my teen daughter.
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I'm a teenage girl with Aspergers. Ask whatever you want. What concerns are you having?
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OKay, great. Well, I know that he spectrum is pretty broad. My daughter has had something called "selective Mutism" since she was 5. It's also social anxiety but it's very debilitating. As her mom, I've tried to get all the help I can for her over the years. I became increasingly concered over th past year when her behaviors seem to be reverting back to when she was in kindergarten. Such as, when she is around people, she won't look at them and she turns her back from people. This is quite inappropriate, especially, when she turns her back and faces a wall. I have her in counseling. She has difficulty making friends and I couldn't get her to call friends over the school year or summer. (except maybe the 1 or 2 frieds she has known since birth) I got her to be accepted into the Big Sister program so she could have a Big Sister. It took 4 months to find her one but then, my daughter told them, "no" over the phone. So, they canceled it stating that she has to agree to it. She excludes herself from everything. My husband and are strong christians, too, and have wanted her involved in sunday school or youth group, but this is the worse thing and she can't handle being aroundc crowds at all. I mentioned what happened with the Big Sister to her counselor a week or so ago and she made a statement that my daughter has all the same exactly behaviors as her kids who have autism. (or at least in the spectrum) She was going to call a Dr. for me but I have not heard back from her and it's been about 2 weeks now. I, also, mentioned this to her primary Dr. and she told me that it's impossible to get my daughter in to see a specialist for this at her age. (15) Dr.s will only take them as a youngester. I'm shocked with all this after all these years and this is the first time anyone has brought this up. Since you are someone with aspergers, are your behaviors this way? and, what helps you?
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i will be happy to answer as well i have pdd-nos
or pod-nos another form and i worked with kids with autiusm before i was dignosed and i babysit kids with it
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so email me at Graciegirl628@hotmail.com
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and im 15
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Oh, wow...did you read what I wrote, Liam?
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Skillet, umm...did I write too much?
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My behaviors are very similar. Making friends, and and scheduling plans with the few friends I have isn't easy. Going places alone gives me some anxiety, but I can handle it better when I am with my family. As a teenager (also 15), I have been trying to be more independent.

A major issue is self-confidence. All of the stress and anxiety that comes with getting older brought back some of my issues as well. One I've always had is pacing back and forth. Does she appear to be lonely? Low self-confidence can make you feel as though you have to be lonely (as if your not good enough to have friends or do things that people would normally be able to do, ya know?).

Something that helped me with self-confidence is learning stuff I had interest in and worked to get better at. If she likes music (I do, that's for sure!), try teaching her how to play an instrument. If she likes visual art, try finding some kind of online art program. It will show her she CAN do things. Then, you could try getting her involed in groups or clubs also of her interest.
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Skillet: What are some every day struggles that you have?


Liam: I'm pretty sure you would REALLY love it because its a Liam Payne fanfic on wattpad. If you want I can give you the details and how to find the book :)
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Skillet, yes, my daughter does struggle with self esteem. She has always been this way since as long as I can remember. She never wanted to stand out. Would refuse to wear a new pair of shoes, even in kindergarten. One day she finally told me it was bc she didn't want someone to give her the attention and say, "Cool shoes." This all falls under the Selective Mutism, but the counselor said that SM goes along with autism. My daughter is beautiful (seriously...drop dead goregous...and has always gotten compliments on her looks) but she wears alot of makeup. Since going to this counselor, I learned that maybe the make-up is a coverup and hiding of herself. I know she doesn't like her freckles and covers them up with foundation.
And, of course, I have tried and tried and tried, over the years to get her involved in something but she refused everything. I wanted to make it mandatory for her to be involved in something in HS. I love music, and I would love it if they were interested in it, but they haven't been. My husband is a musician...and trust me..I wish they would have learned to pick up an instrument. It's good you have found your niche and can flourish in that. Remember that God made you just the way you are, and you are very special. And..try to not live your life comparing yourself with others. It never helps our self esteem. :)
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@libean517: With Autism your obsessions turn into worries and your worries turn into obsessions. My mom is always telling me to stop thinking so much about things. Also, it's not very easy to get things done that involve interacting with other people sometimes, because while you are just focused on what you are doing the person helping you may have something else going on (emotionally). See how it might be hard to accomplish that task in a situation like that, when you have trouble understanding their emotions, behaviors, body language, etc.? I had a teacher like that. He always seemed to be irritable, and I needed his help a lot for that class. I knew he could tell something was "different" about me, but he didn't know what.

@lololoves: Usually I also try to avoid attention. Ironically, my shyness makes me stand out.

I don't play an instrument. I learned how to play guitar, but I never had much time to practice. The things I love, and have worked hard for is driving (I have my permit), and keeping my grades up. You should talk to your daughter about her interests, and how you two can make some goals.

I remember wishing to be "normal". It took me awhile to realize it, but this is normal. I have been this way since I was born. That's why I can't be "fixed". I'm not broken; I just was made this way. Autistic beings develop and bloom if their spirits, talents, and self-esteem are not destroyed by prejudice and being forced to be "normal".
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www.autismspeaks.org
Or you can ask me, I teach children with autism.

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You mean you teach students who have Autism?
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What age do you teach them? Do you mind reading my long coment under SkilletFan and telling me your thoughts or suggestions? I've been feeling very desperate the past week with my daughter starting HS .....
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may i ask you what classes she takes. i dont have mine bad i have the lowest one pdd-nos, but i have a friend who has an aide walk around with him i nit in any classes with him anymore his is higher on the chart, a kid i babysit is homeschooled because it easier for him but sometimes then it makes the kid not want to do well
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My daughter definitely has an IEP and has special ed classes. Homeschooling is not an option and not good for her socially.
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i am on an iep and has helped me through my years
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Actually, homeschooling made a major difference for me. I was in Special Ed. until I was homeschooled for the last half of 3rd grade and part of 4th grade. I was taken out of all the Special Ed. classes by 5th grade. My middle school grades were good, and I'm working as hard as I can now that I'm in high school. There's so many things wrong with the public school education system. Everyone in middle school (students and teachers) had so much negativity about everything, I wasn't surprised no one was learning very well.
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@jenspdc77, no offense when it comes to the complaints about teachers. I had very good Special Ed. teachers. I just think there are big flaws with the way middle schools work. Especially, with the teachers I had.
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My specific questions arent about school but about the "behaviors and social aspect" of people with aspergers. Is it typical to not be able to make friends easily? To turn your back or walk away when around people, or new people? Not be able to look at people?
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I found it intetesting that the counselor said my daughter is identicle to her autistic kids. She only mentioned this in passing. So...i just wanted to ask others who also suffer from it. What r your weaknesses? Do u think my daughtet can be suffering from this with the little bit iv mentioned?
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Yes, yes, and yes. I don't have an issue with eye contact (except awkward eye contact moments when you accidentally make eye contact with the same person multiple times or you make eye contact with someone for too long). All of those things are major parts of Aspergers.

Also, you may have interest in this website: http://www.aspiescentral.com/forum.php It's for people with Aspergers, HFA, and their family members. I'm J. Ann.
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i dont have bad eye contact but with my anger and how i deal with it and always blamming people and yeah i do tend to have trouble making friends
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@lololoves: Has your daughter ever had any sensory issues? Like, having trouble handling loud noises, strong smells, bright lights, etc.?
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Skillet, I'm sorry you had issues in middle school. Fortunately, my daughter had been at the same school since kindergarten through 8th grade and the middle school was very, small. (only 4 teachers) This was helpful for her to keep the small group setting and having all the same teachers. (and same special ed folks since kindergarten) This is why I was concerned for HS...being in a different school and much bigger. I had talked with the person at the HS in charge of special ed last spring and went down to the school before school started. She assured me it would be okay for my daughter. But, I need to stay on top of her. I mentioned to my daughter that if school didn't work out for her, she may have to homeschool and she absolutley did not want to at all. Socially, I know it's all for the best for her to be around people. Although, if she truly falls into the autism spectrum, there is a different special ed teacher for that at her HS for that, alone. I'm frustrated that dr's won't see kids at this age for autism. (oh..she is actually, 14, not 15) She doesn't seem to have anger issues, she is very quiet and hides away and doesn't like drama. She use to have issues with bright lights, but not something I have noticed recently. I'm very aware of sensory issue things because my other daughter (age 12) has definitely always had sensory issues. No Dr. has diagnosed her, either with autism (aspergers); however, I have talked with other mom's who have a child similar to her (my 12 yr old) that "have" been diagnosed with it. She does deal with anger (and just being moody) issues, and making friends, too. sigh. I have 2 girls that have issues but completely different types. lol
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Liam...I'm sorry, everything I am writing to Skillet, is meant for you, too. :) The anger issues, etc. is alot like my younger daughter. (aged 12) She has never been diagnosed with Aspergers. Yet, she has had disabilities that started around age 3-4. No dianosis ever given yet, other moms, have had kids similiar and diagnosed with the Aspergers. I have taken her to specialists over the years (phychologists, phychiatrists) and have tried her on different medications but no one has ever diagnosed her yet, they see, she is very moody and angers easily. (and has always had sensory dysfunctions)
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Well, I think the website I gave you will really help. You can talk to other people on the spectrum and with parents who are raising children with Autism. They are all very friendly, and I'm sure they would also love to help you guys out.

All you can do to when it comes to getting your daughter a diagnosis, is continue taking her to any doctor you can until someone will listen.
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Lilibean, Your question has helped me find people with aspergers. he he I wonder why you are choosing to write a book about this? Do you happen to know someone with aspergers?

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I don't know anyone with Aspergers, and I've never seen one before so I thought, "Why not? Aspergers is a problem and not many people are well educated on it, so maybe it will help people want to make a difference?" And, when I get old enough, I want to help kids with Autism and Aspergers :)
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Oh, that is awesome. Yes, my kids have issues that I think fall into that spectrum. And, as a mom, I get judged for why my kids have the behaviors they do. (people have no idea) And, that's even within the extended family. Parents who have "normal" kids get all the credit for being "such good parents" but parents get blamed for the kids who don't behave normally. You should include this in your book, too. ha ha
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Thank you, lilbean517. You really are making a deference by helping share awareness. People are not as aware of High-Functioning Autism. It makes it much more difficult for the person with Autism and others around them.

@lololoves: It really can be hard for the parents. People will see a child crying and yelling, and they will automatically blame the parents. When really, they are witnessing a child with Autism who heard a noise he/she didn't like.
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Oh, goodness... U have no idea the countless looks I get ... Still today. I had to learn to ignore and not take things personal. My younger daughter has always made a scene everywhere we go and doesn't seem to care about her surroundings.
Sometimes you have to laugh, tho. U think the funniest thing (which at the time made me want to hide under a table) ... We were at some people house we had just met that day. They had 3 girks. All the kids were playing upstairs and the mom invited me to sit in her dining room for some tea. My daughter yelled from the top of the stairs at the top of her voice," Mom, they don't believe in GOOOOOD!!!!!! They are going to hell!!!!!!".
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Wow. That sounds like something any child might say. Sometimes I look back on embarrassing or offensive things I said when I was a child, and think "Did I really say that?". haha
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yes thank you
as well i used to not like saying i had it but now i feel comfetable
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that sort of things happen to me as well
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