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what advice can I give to my friend(read below)?

She has a bf who studies alot(nerd),he is always busy not talking to her and she feels so sad.She told me yesterday that she is hanging out with someone only in the University! But she feels much important with this new guy cz he got time for her even when he had exams he set with her while studying. She didn't do anything wrong,right? Is it right for me to tell her to choose the new guy?

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It's her choice! Does she want to be happy or sad? Not a real hard decision I'd think.

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the problem is that she still love her bf.
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Well then she needs to be over the bf before she can move on to the new guy. She needs to have a serious talk with her bf and tell him how she feels.
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ok,thanks!
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Hi, K. I've been supposed to tell you that Sandra is okay. She's just taking some time off of here for a while, but she will be emailing you when she gets things straightened out. She's just got a lot of things going on right now. I'm glad I finally found you.
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You're so welcome, Creation. You're a very good friend to care so much!
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Oh, I'm sorry. You were talking to kkeifer. She gives great advice. I'm so sorry!!!! I'm a ditz!!!
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@sissy,lol it's ok hunny:)
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Thanks. ROFL I can just be soooo STUPID!!!
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HI Sistermom!
HI Kay! It is an ask family reunion! Glad Sandra is doing well. We all miss her!
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no!! Don't be hard on yourself! Happens to everyone :)
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Hi, Sister! Yes, it is and I LUV family reunions! We do so miss Sandra, though.
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@ Creation. Betcha it happens to me more than most people, my darlin'!
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Thanks sissymom, she has emailed me and told me the same thing. I think I emailed her a lot so she finally wrote me so I stop worrying. Thanks for letting me know. I haven't been on here much because I'm getting ready for my son to graduate from bootcamp
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Hello Reina!! Still praying for your truck!!!'
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@Kay, thank you so much. We feel your prayers. :0)
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Whoop whoop!! I'm so glad Reina!!
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Not at all, she should do what makes her happy, not someone else happy

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She needs to break up with the nerd. He isn't making her happy and that is no way to live. She can feel free to spend time with whomever she chooses.

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Hi, Creation. No, I don't think she did anything wrong by just sitting with the other guy while she was studying. But if this new guy is interested in dating her, I do think her old boyfriend needs to know about him, and I think it would be a good idea for you to talk with her if you-all are that close and tell her she's wasting her time with the old guy. She's too young to be spending time with someone who has no time for her now. One of the main things in a relationship is having time for each other. I think you should talk with her in a way where she wouldn't get defensive and could see where you're coming from.

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(((((smiles and hugs)))))
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Right back atcha, Sis'er! (((Smiles & Hugs))) !!!!
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sometimes I feel sad, then I'm all woah, you need to be happy, so tell that to your friend.

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just let her decide for herself, it's best to stay out of other peoples business, especially is it's a relationship situation

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Tell her to have intimate relations with the guy that is pretending to be only a friend and make a cuckold of her boyfriend.

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cuckold?!
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It's a term usually used in relation to a woman that is unfaithful to her husband. The husband is called a cuckold. Obviously I'm kidding around with my answer. Here is a little more considered reply:

You have to know her intent to know whether or not she did something wrong by spending time with the new guy. If the encounters with the new guy started innocently with no expectation or desire to pursue anything more than a platonic relationship, then she has done no wrong. If she has developed an interest in the new guy that has gone beyond platonic, she must tell her boyfriend or she will have broken trust with him and exhibited disloyalty. She has to talk with her BF and try to resolve the problem that is coming between them, tolerate the way he acts or get out of the relationship.

There is nothing wrong with you giving her your opinion.
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ok,thank u:)
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no
every thing in the univers have eqal and oppsite reaction
thall be all right

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I think it is sad she is "hanging out" with another while her bf is obviously studying hard so he can be successful someday. I personally do not think she deserves such a great bf.

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But he doesn't study for her,right?! And talking about priorities, she must be more important to him.
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My husband is in school studying and I take the backseat often because I know he is doing it for me and his kids. I do not complain when he is studying or doing homework and not spending time with me. His priorities are right on. We will reap the benefits of his hard work soon enough. I get "lonely" but I certainly DO NOT start hanging out with another man!
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But he doesn't study for her,right?! And talking about priorities, she must be more important to him.
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He is ur husband not ur bf!
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OK, think what you want. I am a special kind of woman obviously. When I think of good men I see the glass half FULL! Keep seeing the glass half empty and see where your relationships go. I have almost 18 years of experience with my relationship. I think I MUST be doing something right. Have a blessed life. :0)
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ok Last one!! I really got to go!! star!!!
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