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I'm in a relationship, and this other guy won't leave me alone. Help?

i have a boyfriend. and this other guy who i am friends with has tried to make me like him before. He'd take me out and ask to hang out all the time. I thought we were just friends until one night earlier this year, he kissed me. i pulled away from him for a bit so we could maintain our friendship, but we gradually went back to hanging out. We're so similar. He's a year below me, but we studied a lot together because we were in the same major. He's also a lot more outgoing than my boyfriend, which is sort of what first attracted me to him as friend, but he obviously desires a bit more than that. Anyway, we're pretty good friends again, and he's texting me now saying he misses me, and sending me sexual pictures. i don't really know what to do anymore. my boyfriend has had it with him, though my boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch right now. Ultimately, I value my friendship with this guy, but he's adding more strain to my relationship. help?

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Sending pictures like that? Drop him. He's being disrespectful to you and your relationship. He knows that you're taken and he's trying to get in between you two. He's NOT being a good friend. If you want someone that you can talk to more often and hang out with, go out with some girlfriends. Your relationship is in a rough patch, you don't need this guy adding any additional stress. I suggest that you stop talking to him completely.

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Dont you ever sleep?
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I slept for like 10 hours actually :D
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Your kidding, seems like I was just talking to you lol
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lol yeah we're both on here a lot :)
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Tell him no without saying no you must. Be persistent you must. He may not understand that you are in a relationship.

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If he's sending you pix like that then he's crossed the line. Tell him you're offended and that he's on the verge of losing you as a friend. And if that doesn't work, have your Dad explain it to him, that ALWAYS works! haha

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Yeah it does!
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we're 21 and 22. what's my father going to do about it? haha
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Never underestimate a father when it concerns his baby girl.
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im a guy. awkard. lol
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Tell him to back off or you will sever your friendship with him, your relationship needs protectors, not marauders.

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Be frank. Tell him your new position and keep distancing yourself from him. For example, refuse to pick his calls and he will soon get the message.

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Call 911

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What do you expect people to say? If he hits on you you are not really friends. You're a dope, by the way.

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He's being forceful. There is not a friendship but one linked by the both of you, and he won't respect your relationship for his own selfish reasons. Stop hangin out with him

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Yup!
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Yarp!
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Yarple.
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Can you NO? When he asks you out, say NO. When he wants to hang out, say NO. When someone tried to butt in further than is appropriate, they are NOT your friend.

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Tell him he is in the friend zone and thats where he is staying, let him know if he keeps acting like a perverted idiot he wont even have that.

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yikes. that sounds mean. maybe I'll try that. in a nicer way.
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You may be right, but sometimes you have to be a little mean, im not saying this is that case, that is something for you to decide
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yeah, you're probably right. thanks!
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Anytime
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You're NOT MARRIED.
Until you are, you're single, fair game, & NOT "taken".
I can't blame a guy for having a big pair of balls & working hard to win you.
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PS: what do you think about the gal's question immediately below yours?

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That is just ridiculous he shouldn't be sending pictures like that to you! He is supposed to be a friend... a it doesn't look like he is being a good one you need to tell him to stop sending stuff like that or do not text you at all//& talk at all to you. Tell him you are taken already and he needs to back off before your boyfriend kicks his butt. I'd stop texting him though until he doesn't send weird stuff and until he talks like a friend would

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If he doesn't respect your relationship with the other guy he obviously isn't a good friend. Having guy friends while your in a relationship is okay until it comes to this where he wants more than a friendship. If you dont do something about it your gonna lose the guy your with

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OHHHH NOOOO Pictures of the pickle um Yahh need to tell him to stop Happend. to me before a lot Smh

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