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Why do people view modesty as bad, boring, etc.?

I was never actually 'taught' to be modest, but I was raised around women who dressed very elegantly, but simple. Some wore pants, most wore skirts that came down to the calve. I never saw a problem with it. These days, if you don't dress provocatively you get accused of not keeping up with the times and being too uptight. It just seems odd to me. One guy told me that he would never even talk to a girl who didn't show him what she was "working with". That just seems like objectification to me, but what do I know? What bothers people so much about modesty?

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Well that one guy was a jerk, there's nothing wrong with modesty,

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So true !
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sounds like they're just shallow. you shouldn't have to wear a mid-drift & daisy dukes to be considered "stylish"

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Some people want things "easy." That guy who spoke to you is a prime example. He's also not worth a second glance. There are a lot of obnoxious people out there, and they are welcome to keep each other company in their pettiness. Meanwhile there are an equal number of people out there who share your feelings and would be turned OFF by others' exhibitions.

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Because it is easy to approach a "person with open arms". Of course in a perfect world "open arms" would mean "friendly" but in this case it means "easy".
Man will look at you from the outside and "Yeah, she is gorgeous but I don't really know what she would like, I should get to know her."
Man will look at those girls "Yeah, wanna have some fun?"
And as you are experiencing, there are far less men to choose the first one over the second.

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