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My daughters dad did not call her for her birthday and she's 6 years old she is very upset we do live in the same town how do I handle this?

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She's 6, you could tell her little lie and make excuse. Or call his butt up and ask him what's the deal.

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be kind to him

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What a deadbeat, comfort her and let her know her father loves her, somehow.

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I hope you yourself didn't mention his not calling. Try to underplay this if you can. Then when it's convenient, tell him how it hurt his daughter to not hear from him. Let HIM come up with explanations to her.

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Good idea
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Call him and find out why. Let him know how she felt. Hopefully there's a reason, but you'll never know until you ask.

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might of forgot. remind him it was his daughters sixth b-day.

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He's a man!!! Everyone knows most men don't rembember b-days. My husband doesn't remember our girls b-days if I ask him.

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Ur husband seems to care the least bit about u
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That's farthest from the truth!!! Men just don't remember details the way women do.
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Call up tomorrow and convey your concerns in a civil manner. He may have truly forgotten, unforeseen circumstances, Life, etc. Might be a build up of a lot of unneeded stress. Safe Journey

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True but his mother called and his sister
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The above still holds true. Safe Journey
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Well
I suggest buying her a card
And signing her dads name -
And leave it in the door
For her to find -
If its important to you, next time ,
Remind him the day before -
He should remember , however
I cannot remember my mothers , so
She hints to me a few weeks before-

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True but everyone in his family knew it was her birthday
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@Sheldon that is one of the most sweetest kindest things a mother could do in her position. Not only does it protect her babies heart but in a way it really makes him look like more of a "poopoo head" excuse my language. But seriously that is an awesome suggestion. If I could give you another star I would.
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Thank you -
Sometime I amaze myself - heh - heh
But really - that's what I would do -
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Reassure her that he loves her, make some excuse. Then call the B*d, tell him how much it hurt her not to hear from him.

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Exactly!!!
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I agree with everyone else that you should reassure her that he loves her. My son started having to deal with the absence of his mother at a similar age. She began spiraling down into alcoholism. At first she would forget/avoid events like his dance recitals. Then it turned into her not calling on his birthday and holidays. He is now 10 and she is still not part of his life in any predictable way. I still reassure him that she loves him with all he heart. We talk about her not being around and I try to comfort him, but this absence causes a pain inside of him that he can not understand. Every time she calls, out of the blue ever 4 months or so for 2 minutes, he ends up getting in trouble the following days at school. People have told me that I need to cut her out of his life at this point. I sometimes agree.
Maybe you should have him read this, or if you know an older man that he respects talk to him and let him know how hurtful his actions are to a little girl. It is sad that a "man" would have such a lack of concern for his child's happiness.

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Deal with it like a parent and get offline.

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