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earreola1001

Please help. My cousin is obsessed with me. What should I do.

Ok me and her are the same age but she's 2 months older then me. A while ago she admitted to me that she likes me. I said you're kidding are you. She said no I'm serious and she kissed me on the cheek. Then she keeps visiting my house uninvited. If I refuse to let her in then she would cry. All she does at my house is hug me and kiss me on the cheek like over 50 times a day. Sometimes she would invite me to hang out with her which would only be me and her. If I refuse then she would cry too. She keeps telling me that she wants to marry me and have babies with me one day. Once she asked me to marry her. I said no then she got so upset she cried wrapped her arms around me and hugged me tiet. I told her I only love her as a family but still she wants to marry me real badly. I have talk to my parents and her parents about her behavior towards me but they never did a thing about it and she continues to throw herself at me. Her room is full of pictures of me. I told her to stop and how wrong it is for cousins to date and marry each other many times but she won't listen. Seriously why me. I'm freaking out right now and don't know what else to do. THIS IS ALL PLAIN WRONG.

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She definitely needs to stop. It would be way too weird if anything like marrying and babies happened between cousins... But I seriously have no advice for that kind of thing. What ages are you around? If you're around 13-14+ then tell her you're too old to joke around like that (even if she's not kidding...). If you guys are still a bit young, I think it's okay for some cousinly love. As long as nothing bad happens...

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how close of a cousin is she? i think if shes farther than your third cousin its ok, but its still weird

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Please don't condone incest.
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no, not supporting it just saying, i think thats the law. third cousin or further, nobody cares
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Uhm. Tell her to stop being a wuss, that you are not interested. If she asks why, tell her you're not interested in dating and having children with your own family member. If she cries again, give her the silent treatment. Also, go get her some counseling. And tell her parents or your parents.

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Your cousin is probably going through I fad with some crazy hormones. Just wait like a month, and if they become crazier, tell them ur gay :)

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Ummm. I think telling her she was gay would only incite more of her behavior.
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If she is cute then just let her love you dude. You don't have to marry her but love is rare :)

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Is she hot

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Uhh... Who judges family?
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I would think about it if a relative was in to me.
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tell her nicely that you don't like and don't let her in if she is invited

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Stop talking to her and seeing her, or get the banjo out and learn how to play "Here Comes The Bride". It's your choice, dude.

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here in NC, it is legal for cousins to marry. come to NC and get hitched.

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Haha lol
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not true...gotta be 2nd cousins
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wrong, not here in NC
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unless the law was changed and I don't know about it
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Well, you have four options, (I prefer the first three) tell her you aren't into incest and dating your family, wait for her to grow out of this phase, avoid her, or (and I strongly say do not do this one) you can kiss her and see where it goes. (the further down the line you are the less likely it is for any birth defects) besides, that may spark a reaction from your parents.

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just have fun with her be happy that you live close to your cousin

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FUN... What do you mean by that?
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have fun??!! Do you realize this situation?
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Tell her to watch Deliverance and see if she's still hip to the idea of kids with crooked green teeth that play the banjo.

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That is the freakiest movie.
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Honestly, I would tell her how you feel and if your afraid she might cry email, say it over phone, or write her a letter. If you know a friend of hers, or if she has a sibling tell them and they might be able to help.

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ewww...just ewww

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You're being too nice to her. Tell her to stop it and mean it. Try to stay away from her. Strongly complain to her parents and yours. You said you tried, but you need to let them know she makes you uncomfortable. If she comes over, try to leave or go in your room and don't let her in. Hopefully, she'll turn her attentions elsewhere.

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let her cry tell her your family :/
( and you misspelled " tiet "
its tight just saying :/

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Do something to freak her out like pin her and Tickle her for a loooong time.

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Seems like she'd take that as flirting lol
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No offense rshackleford, but a tickle fest would not end this.
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What are you both like 7 years old?

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That's what I was thinking.
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For immediate relief dude, I would just tell her that if she really likes you (ooof that was weird to type) then she needs to respect your decisions. Dating is a two way deal bro. You can't have a relationship with anyone if only one person dominate the relationship. You have to uplift and support each other which is not what she's doing. If your description is accurate and not exaggerated then this is not love, it is lust. Honestly if your parents don't do anything you need to find someone else. As in someone to help you. i don't know if you're christian but a youth minister is not a bad choice. This situation is not ok. Also why are you affected by her crying? If she cries when she doesn't get you LET HER CRY!!! If your parents force you to invite her in, and refuse to take your opinion seriously get out of that situation immediately. Lock yourself in your room or take your bike and spend the day away from the house. If you really want this to stop you need to make it stop. Your parents will punish you? I never want to tell someone to disregard their parents but seriously punishment vs cousin. You pick.

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Psycho....there's your problem, but you're not a psychiatrist.

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depending on how old your cousin is,It may just be the fact she has just discovered boys....and you are the one boy who IS in fact perfect to her,I mean, you have fun together,she trusts you,known each other for ever etc.....you need to sit her down and explain LIFE,HORMONES etc and tell her how uncomfortable her behaviour makes you feel, and that if it does not stop,that you may have to avoid her all together......treat her as an adult,and you should be able to over come this....BUT keep an eye out for her,cause she obviously feels the need to be loved,and other boys Will take advantage of this..

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try to get her jealous

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