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what could be going on with my relationship?

me andy bf have been together for 4 months. ive randomly been getting the feeling that idk of i wanna be with him or not. so we are on a break for a few days to see. Im lonely without him but im scared if i get back with him it will happen again. Like you dont understand when i say how much i care aboit him. Ive never cared about a boy so much. And he really loves me. And i seriously have never felt so wantedloved. I wanna keep him around so bad like i really love everything about him. Hes the ony person who can make me laugh when im crying and hes the only person who makes me feel like a princess. I really wanna keep him around i just want these feelings to be gone. I dont wanna get them anymore. Im scared to get back with him cause im scared it will happen again but i feel like i need him. What do i do? could it just be a phase?

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This is why you kids need to learn how to date around first before getting into a relationship. Stay single and just go out on dates. You don't "need" him, you need to focus on your education for now and when you're a highly educated, gainfully employed woman you'll have your pick of the guys.

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I tend to disagree with you on that, I don't like dating around. Seems like it's a waste of time. I think the problem lies in the fact that children are taught that love is an emotion now, and as a result, they fail to use their brains and get caught up into a toxic relationship really fast.
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If she dates around and never pays, doesn't that make her a prost*tute?
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Amen tony. Kids are always in such a hurry to grow up.
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Prep, but if you go straight into a relationship without dating other people first, it almost always ends in heartbreak and is the reason why we have a 50% divorce rate. Through dating you discover what you want in a partner and you find the best person for you.
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Brendan, um, no. If she sleeps with every guy she goes out on a date with on the first date maybe, but not for dating around and getting to know what she likes in a man.
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Brad, exactly right, it's like they're more concerned with having a status symbol on their arm than an actual relationship.
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alright Tony, I think I understand where you're coming from on this one. Good answer by the way.
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Thanks Prep
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I have to agree with Tony also, it more about a status and being able to kids show off the fact that they're in a relationship, sadly at that point in their lives they have no true idea of what a relationship should be. Date around isn't the same as sleep around. Meet people, spend times together and realize there's more than one type of guy out there.
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if you didnt really love him u wouldnt have wrote this u obviously like each other my guess Ur just nervous from anxiety Ur scared just take a breath think about it then go back to him and say what u have to say

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God, you are annoying. It's just hormones, chill.

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Lol well said!
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If you truly loved him, you wouldn't be asking this question, you'd know without a doubt. You did not form love in your relationship, only codependency, I say back off and wait for your codependency to end and try to find a new guy.

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Look...the simple fact is you are young. You will both be completely Different people in 10 years. There's really no point in getting all bent out of shape about it right now. Just focus on being a kid and have fun.

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Good advice, now if only they'd listen!
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The feelings you are having generally result from being around the person too much you need to get out and go spend time with some girl friends or something even going to a movie and a meal alone would help. The best way to quell these feelings is to hang with friends and tell them that you don't want to talk about him and that its not because you are angry it is to help clear your mind. once you have spent a period without him It will help you think clearly and it will let you know how you really feel about him. I recommend a time of separation 1 day a week it will help a lot with both your thoughts and your relationship. even people who love each-other to death need time apart.

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You truly love him but you're letting your anxiety get the best of you, it could be hormones though, in such case it will clear away overtime but really, stay with that guy you really love each other and your anxiety is normal, nothing out of this world, find a way to calm down and control your anxiety then you will be able to reduce the intensity of those feelings, as they are natural for such relationship you can't eliminate them but you can control them. Another fact here is, the relationship is 4 months, it's still young so this is only a start, just find a way to control your anxiety and you'll be fine, the rest, you're going to need to use your brain and maybe some advise from an adult, preferably a family member who's married, like your parents for example (if you have contact with them).

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So whats the problem! Stay make it work relations are not easy you just have to work on them!

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