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i have a crush on this girl and i already have a girlfriend?

alright so im 14 and i already taken and i fell in love with this asian girl in my school, she reminds me of my old girlfriend in May. How do i make friends with her or maybe ask her out. and is having a crush on someone when you have a girlfriend wrong? I had 3 girlfriends this year by the way.

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1.) you did not fall in love. It's just a crush.
2.) if you already had 3 girlfriends, why not wait till this new girl becomes your fourth?
3.) It is not wrong to have a crush when you are dating, unless of course you pull a "stacy's mom" type deal.
4.) why do you keep getting new girlfriends? You are fourteen, concentrate on your school and education, focus on your brain, and not the one under your gut.
5.) Don't succumb to the high school drama, you are better than that, just stay out of drama and leave all the partying until 12th grade, because honestly, I nearly cry whenever I see a sophomore or freshman at a party.

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Having a crush on someone when you are already in a relationship with another is not bad; acting on that crush is what is wrong. If you love your current girlfriend, you shouldn't even be thinking of befriending this other girl. Choose one and be sure to stick to that one.

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There is nothing wrong with having a crush. Because crush happens instantly and it is not in your control. Going for it however when you have someone is wrong no matter what. The most gentleman way is to leave your girlfriend and try your chances with your crush. But before that you would like to be sure about the intentions of the new girl and there the moral line gets thinner. Just find a way to spend some "friend time" with her when you can to see her feelings. If positive leave your girlfriend and ask her out.

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You are young, you should be dating more then one person. Just tell your gf that you do not want to be in a relationship. You are not ready to settle down, not should you be.

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At your age, it's fine & "normal" to be dating a lot of different girls. When I was 14, I had a new boyfriend just about every week. Being "in love" at that age is likely just infatuation, but who knows... you just might marry one of these girls... ;)
Considering you've already had 3 girlfriends, you should know how to "make friends with her." Just talk to her the same way you talked to the other girlfriends you've had. If she likes you too, you may have a 4th girlfriend.
I hope your current girlfriend won't be too upset if/when you start dating another girl; be sure to break up with her as gently & nicely as possible. :)

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What the hell is going with kids today girlfriend? This kid is 14 and not only has a girlfriend, has a crush and members are speaking about being in 'love'... Shaking my head albeit I am not blind to the changing of our youth and our world but seriously? Enjoy your day girlfriend... Another rainy, stormy day here... Another headache... Ha!
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Well... "back in my day" (har-har).... having a boyfriend, being a "couple" consisted of: holding hands when we'd walk the halls between classes, sitting together at lunch, talking on the phone after school, writing our names in hearts on my paper bag book covers (haha)... & that's about it.
These "loving relationships" would last anywhere from a couple days to a few weeks... during which time, we'd be absolutely, madly in love with each other, ha!
I met my 1st "real" boyfriend at age 15, he was 15, too. That was much more of a relationship; it lasted about a year 1/2. We've been in touch over the years, his mom & I still exchange X-mas cards every year. she was devastated when I broke up with him.... 27 yrs. ago, wow! I haven't spoken with him in a few years, so he's due to call any time now... ;)
I broke up with him when I was 16 so I could date the guy I ended up being with for 10 years. Started living together when I was 18, I was engaged at 19, married at 25. Although it didn't "last forever," it was quite a long relationship considering we were so young when it began. I've been divorced since I was 26 -- the time were were actually married was reeaally short! 8)

Sorry your head's hurting, it could be the weather. Stormy weather can give me nasty headaches, right behind my eyeballs/eyebrows. If that's the sort you have, try taking Sudafed, an OTC pain reliever of your choice, coffee (for the caffeine), and ice your eyes. That helps my "weather headaches," my mom gets those too.
If it's a migraine, sleep it off, if you can. I rarely get migraines, but when I do, that's all that helps -- sleep. Hope you're feeling better soon... :)
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Have both of them for GFs see how that works for ya ;) no just teasing, I wouldn't recommend it

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Seriously? You are 14... Do you take her on dates? Do you go out for lunch and pay for her meal? Kids need to slow it down today... A crush is a crush and that's fine however, three girlfriend's at the tender age of 14? It's time to concentrate on your education, sports, etc. and stop worrying about if you have a girlfriend and have a crush, yada, yada, yada... Oh how the world has changed..

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