When you pick him up you are teaching him he can trust you to meet his need for love and comfort. Birth to three is a very important timespans for brain development that carries all the way over to our adult life. Trust vs. mistrust is a big one. Help your little guy remember the world is a friendly place.
They're only little like that for such a short time. What does it hurt to spoil them with love when they're that little. Time enough to worry about that when they're old enough to understand. Enjoy them while they are still sweet and cuddly. The other phases will come soon enough.
My older daughter isn't/wasn't spoiled, but it took wayyyy longer to get her to sleep by herself than it should have. I learned from the experience and was much smarter with my second daughter ;)
During the day, there is no harm in going to your child if they are crying. I think it's actually more harmful to let them cry. If he's crying when you're trying to put him to bed, eventually you might just have to let him cry :(
If you are loving and indulgent, within reason, I don't think you can spoil an infant or toddler.
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Dear Let-It-Be, No...it is just so definitely NOT true that you will 'spoil' your beautiful son by giving him your attention and your loving touch when he cries. You will contribute to his physical, mental, and emotional health by doing so...and you will make the whole world a better place in the process.
If you are so inclined, get one of those slings that goes across your chest and carry him with you constantly as you go about your day, as much as possible. Play with him, laugh with him; show him constantly through the language of touch, his most meaningful language right now, that you love him unconditionally and unremittingly.
If you enjoy reading, you might check into a book titled THE CONTINUUM CONCEPT by Jean Liedloff.