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How do I boost my self esteem?

I can't stop calling my self a loser or thinking it at least. I'm a nerd with glasses, bad social skills and it takes extra effort to start a conversation. I only have about two friends. Most people don't remember my name or even notice me. Even though I want to be social it's an automatic reaction to shy away at times. I feel like wall paper sometimes just background. When there is a guy I have a crush on I see other girls and always think I'm not good enough there are so many better choices than me why even try? So many negatives bring my spirit down every day and I don't know what to do. :(

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You are a gift. You were chosen to be placed on this planet. When you walk, walk confidently with your head up, and never look down at the ground. Smile often. Laugh loudly and pleasantly. Tell the world you are a lover of life by being a confident, happy person. You're a beautiful person. I know this because every girl is beautiful, some just don't know it. Some don't have an attractive face, but they don't know that a smile makes your face a thousand times more appealing. Some don't have a nice body, but they don't know that if you walk confidently in that body, it becomes a million times more attractive. Get up right now and look in the mirror, and smile. You deserve to.

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I felt the same way when I was in school. I actually wanted to talk to people, but I was so different it was easier to just keep to myself. The only way you'll ever be able to change how you feel is to realize that every single person on the planet has a purpose in life. No one is a loser unless they choose to be. I'm sure you have gifts or talents or even a hobby that you really enjoy; focus on that and let it bring some light to your life. Start to open up more - this you will have to force yourself to do, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Lastly, remember all the good things about you so you know and are aware of all the good things you have to offer people. Good Luck :)

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I used to feel that way to. What I did is I tried to get more confidence. You don't have to go to school or work and start acting super social (cause lets face it. It's hard to act confident around people you know or at least see daily) Just do what I did. The next time you go to a movie or bank make a little small talk with the employees. Just joke or compliment them, besides its not like they can tell you to get lost and it's not like you'll ever see them again. Just start of small and slowly work your way up. Trust me if you get more confident around others then you'll have way more self esteem.

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God made you as a special individual and you were created for a reason. There is no one better than you and you are not better than anyone else. Think of something you like about yourself...your eyes, your smile, the way you laugh...anything. Focus on the goodness of your heart and of being a good person....that will receive more of the good attention than those with flashy clothes, etc.....you are one of a kind and created special. Learn to love yourself and others will love you as well!

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Talk to a family.

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me to but you know what you should do. You should join clubs of riseing your self esteem also talk to your family about it because they should know. Hope i helped

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Exactly me. What I do is think about how I'm great at math than most people.

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Martial Arts can help a lot.

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Find things to do that you can succeed at. As you see yourself achieving these things, your confidence in yourself will grow.

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You are not a loser! Life is what we make of it! Do me a favour when you get up in the morning look at yourself in the mirror & see if you need a makeover, go to a hairstylist get your hair done a different way, try to dress like most do in school, think of yourself as I am unique & in time people will notice you! Put your head up high and believe in yourself you are a somebody & you're worth it! Help others with homework if they need it & that will appreciate it! You have to love yourself before others do! I went through a lot as a teenager as well! Now that I am 44 & have changed people don't recognize me from high school & my looks have changed dramatically.

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No matter what people think of you, you need to love yourself & others will love you back! Some kids/teenagers can be cruel to others but stay positive have faith & hope you will overcome this as I did & many others have! As mentioned from others join a gym or go to events start socializing with others at your own pace & you will see that YOU ARE A SOMEBODY!
Always talk to your parents & family they love you for who you are & can guide you & help you! Best of luck to you!
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Hi , my dear friends , do not think about yourself like that . I feel the same when I at school , I usually written "I am a loser " in my note book . Believe yourself , future you will become a success .

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I once was shy and wasn't very confident until I realized something. I have a voice. So speak out! When you know an answer say it and say it proudly. Don't be afraid of anything or what others think of you. Be proud of yourself. Try something new, attempt to be outgoing don't just be a shut in. I'm a sophomore in high school now and I'm in Speech&Debate, FFA, FBLA, Student Council, NHS, and volunteer at the Raptor Center. I have faith in myself and so should you. Don't let anything drag you down or hurt you. Just try. Admit that you like Warriors, find something that you enjoy, do something. Like I said, be brave and try.

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Trying to be someone you are not will not make you happy. What will make you happy is to embrace who you are. You need to discover this. If you are an introvert you need to invest 19 minutes and see this video "the power of introverts". This video had a profound effect on me. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
Susan Cain's other related video talks were also very helpful.
(If you are not an introvert please disregard my suggestion. Only you know if you are. I just suggest.)

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I am 65, I never learned. GOOD LUCK

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Well heres what you are going to do first, see yourself in a different way! I know a girl in my class who has nerd glasses but TOTALLY pulls them off! I give her compliments on them everyday because of how much she rocks them. Tell yourself your worth it and wake up every day with a smile on your face. I haven't even met you but I will tell you straight up, your are GORGEOUS! I'm not only saying this about your looks I'm saying it about your personality and your actions. You seem to be a wonderful person. I know you are thinking I am some crazy stalker person right now but in general, I'm just a teenage girl who wakes up every day with a smile on my face and walks with confidence. And if I can do it, you can to! So work it girl because if anybody can pull it off you can! Be bold and bubbly and outgoing and crazy. Life is waaaayy to short to be sitting around saying that crap about yourself. You only get one chance at life, make it worth it! Don't care about girls who might be prettier than you or other girls who might be going after your man. Go for it! Walking with your head held high and a smile on your face can really change the way others, and yourself, look at you!:)

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