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Why can't I get a boyfriend? :(

Well, I'm 16, about to turn 17 soon, and for some reason, I just can't get a boyfriend. And I don't want to sound needy or anything, it's just that I've NEVER, and yes I mean never, even since 1st grade, had a boyfriend, or even a guy who liked or had a crush on me, or told me that they like me. And it just brings me down every time I think about it. And yes, I have my good friends and family surrounded with me. But I still feel that empty spot in me. I'm pretty out-going and I can talk with anyone. Even most of my friends have a boyfriend they love dearly. And I'm just that girl in the corner who's a loner. And yes, I am saying I am jealous. It's just heartbreaking to have no one tell you that they like you. Is it because I'm ugly or I'm missing something? I don't even know what to do.

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I never had a boyfriend in high school. At my first reunion 3 guys told me they had crushes on me but I intimidated them. However once I left high school and I met more mature guys, everything turned around. Hang in there. I promise it gets better.

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Because you are a cat, perhaps.
That creepy lady is following you too.
She is following over fourteen thousand members. I think she's nuts

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Haha hilarious
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It just takes time to find someone sometimes. Just continue to be yourself and I promise when you least expect it you'll fins the right guy for you...

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Also it seems like when your looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend you can never find one, but as soon as you stop looking WHAM!! Love just smacks you in the face..... I'm sure your not ugly. Maybe try new things. Go out an experience the world, open up to new experiences. And maybe when you start increasing your world you will open it up the door for the right guy.
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My first kiss was at 17 years-old, my first boyfriend 18 years-old. Is there something wrong with me? I was confident with myself and I would rather have someone genuine, than a high school bf that only likes my looks and something else. But if you are 40, and never had a boyfriend, Houston we have an issue!

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Because you aren't confident you will find one. You don't just see a boy and automatically want him to be your boyfriend. You'll know, and I haven't had a boyfriend in forever.

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dont worry:) you have described me EXACTLY. there are alot of trashy slutty girls out there and alot of shallow guys. your not ugly its just that u arent easy. at our age guys go for girls that are easy. this is actually great for you because this means you can enjoy your teen years without worrying about guys or how to deal with them. wait for the guy who is absolutely worth it. i know that its difficult because we just want to be normal and everyone else has or had a boyfriend. but u arent alone and its perfectly fine NOT to have a boyfriend. look at it this way. you havent done anything with a guy so when you get married u can honestly tell him that you are his one and only:) it will be great because you wont be able to compare him to past boyfriends. dont go looking for a boyfriend because the perfect guy will come and get you. just wait for him and think about him every time you get lonely.

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Aww sweetie. I promise that it's not a "problem" with you.

Dating isn't just liking the guy over there and being attracted and making up cutesy nicknames for each other. A dating relationship should be a friendship, but closer. It's not a "bad" thing to not have a boyfriend and it's not a "good" thing to always have a boyfriend. What makes it "bad" or "good" is the quality of the relationship itself. If you haven't found that guy to build such a relationship with, there's no shame in refusing to settle. :)

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You don't need a relationship at 16 or 17. When the time is right, you will find that special someone and he will find you. There is no age limit on love. Enjoy your time with family and friends and I assure you, one day you will meet the man of your dreams :)

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Ask someone out! Be brave and just ask them and if they turn you down, just take a deep breath and walk away. I've never had a boyfriend either and I'm 15. I've asked someone to a dance and got turned down. I didn't take it hard. It's easy! Just be brave!!!! I hope this helps you!

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What's your hurry? Many girls who have boyfriends who they love dearly in high school have kids they love dearly in high school. You know how you find so many things when your looking for car keys... it's kinda like that. You rarely find what your looking for when that's your focus. Focus on just a couple of things more important and before you know it you'll find something you forgot you were looking for.

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