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What are some remedies to put a toddler to sleep?

My 14 month old son has been keeping me up all night lately. He cries and screams until I pick him up. But I can't hold him all night and he refuses to sleep. What are some good remedies to help him go to sleep?

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Lol, I told you. It's the night time that gets you. You could try music or a sound machine that plays white noise. I don't know why babies find white noise soothing, maybe it's reminiscent of the womb. It's hard to let a baby cry, but he'll be all right. If you've got the time (and the patience), you could darken the room completely and sit beside the crib where hopefully he can't see you. Then when he cries, you gently shake the crib to sooth him. It's imperative he not know you're there for the crib rocking to work.... I only did this out of sheer desperation, when everything else didn't work.

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interesting really! Mothers seem to be engineers also! "WHITE NOISE"
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I'd put on my serenity face and try to look old and wise, but I'm not embarrassed to admit I had the same problem with my older daughter. *^^* Okay, maybe a little embarrassed.

The real remedy is to be smarter with your next kid and let him/her cry for just a few moments at night. It was much easier for both of us!
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I Agree. Experience is the best teacher.
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Let him cry and scream even if you go ballistic! It teaches him that every time he cries you wont go in there, so he will stop at one point. Just let him go crazy, until he stops. eventually he will know that when he cries, nothing will happen but silent treatment. Just make sure you have a light or a sound, something to distract him

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First you make sure he's not wet or hungry, that he's been burped after feeding. Gas pains is the worst the baby can have. There are natural over the counter ointments you put on the tummy for gas pains. When the baby sleeps MAKE SURE HEAD IS HIGHER THAN STOMACH, so they don't choke on their stomach liquids. Play with the child so he gets tired and go to sleep.

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soft classical music

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read for them and then out some dolls on their bed sometimes they play the story till they get so tired they sleep

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you have to keep them active in the daytime, take the child to the park and at night he will be so tired he will sleep well.

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With my sister GRACIE LYNN they user some remedies from www.toddlersremedy4sleep.com worked great good luck

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I had the same problem with my child last year i tried this steps...give them a warm bath about half an hour before they are going to bed. about 10 minutes after they get out of the bath give them a cup of hot cocoa or warm milk. when they are going to bed read them a short story with just a little bit of light in the room. they should be just about ready to fall asleep by then. as your walking out of the room turn the light off unless they have a fear of the dark. i hope these steps work for you. thye sure worked for me!!

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The white noise theory above is great! If your toddler is really distressed during the night you may want to buy him a specially shaped pillow that feels like his mothers arms, with this he will feel comfort as if he really is in your arms. Another option would be to ensure that you feed him warm milk every night before he sleeps. Good luck :)

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nursery ryhmes

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Classical music is the best 7 minute sleep aid for babies give it a try

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Try keeping him up as much as you can in the day time. Put him in a stroller after supper to get fresh air go for a walk in a busy area like the park or in your area where it's busy so that it keeps him awake & busy then when you get home give him a warm bath to relax him. Put some soft music on while you're feeding him his last bottle make sure that he burps many times while feeding him before bedtime & put him in his crib, always make sure that his diaper is changed & he is fed so that wouldn't be an issue for him to stay awake. If he cries let him be if he is teething then get some orajel for babies for his gums it numbs the gums a little to ease the pain. Always make sure that you nor anyone else picks him up when he starts crying cause then he will know that when he cries he gets attention. Never let a baby cry till he screams then can't catch his breath.
Cover his body with a warm baby blanket mostly around his belly cause if he has trapped air/gas he will pass it as the warmth of the blanket helps tummy aches. I use to put my son's baby blanket in the dryer for a couple of minutes before putting him to bed..
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All of the above ;___;

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sing to them or either take him for a ride in the car

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I'm not a parent but I babysit all the time so I have put a ton of kids to bed. Anyway, I think you just have to get them worn out during the day. And everything above. But playing lots during the day helps. Good luck!

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Watch the child's diet, exercise and physical activities and limit exposure to tv and video games.

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bed time should be same exact time each night because that is the first thing. Secondly I would give the child a warm milk and just a touch of cinnamon and sugar. Read the bedtime story and have a night light on in the bedroom. Make sure your child has had a filling meal at supper and avoid a long nap at the afternoon.

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make sure not hungry, and the baby is not wet. try some calm music

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ignore the toddler.

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I would first try to sing a lullaby

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warm milk not to cold not to hot it work when i was at my nanny's

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try it
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Put on an old black and white movie.

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whiter move

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lay him in bed and sit in the room with him...give him something to snack on like animal crackers...it relaxes them

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Establish a consistent bedtime routine. Things we do that we found helpful:
Set the same bedtime and honor that every night.
20 minutes before bedtime, ask if there is anything else your toddler wants to eat or drink. 10-15 minutes before bedtime, ask what your child wants to do for for their short 10-15 min before-bed-activity. We let our child pick the "activity" (Uno, dominos, read a book--anything low-action, low excitement. (The beauty is that even the most painful activity (Candy Land for me), you'll only be playing it for 10 minutes. Also, the child sees you trust him to pick the activity and that helpless victim and/or passive aggressor feeling is gone b/c you're letting him make choices (snack, activity, etc).
When we ask those two questions at the same times every night our kids transitioned into "bed-sleep-me-next."
Transition is CRUCIAL for YOUR survival in the toddler years!
To explain transition, I asked my husband if he was in the middle of reading a book, watching an exciting game on TV, and then a giant walks into the room and picked you up, carried you out of the room to put you in bed to end your day. Might you protest (scream)?





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Another thing we do is pray with our child, and then have "2 minutes". Our oldest wanted us to stay in her room until she fell asleep. We'd say, OK, time for prayers and 2 minutes. Again, I think that is another form of transition.
Just to mention: our family really eats most of our calories at lunch. So, when the bedtime stall, "I'm hungry" or "I'm thirsty" came up, we'd remind them of their snack.
My kids are not big eaters, but they know if it's after the offered snack time they can only have bread and water. I think that offer has only been accepted 1-2 times in the last 10 years.
***When our kids do get out of bed, we silently walk over, take her hand, and propel her back to bed. Only a few times of that was enough for our kids to realize, that attempt will not work.****
When our child was still in the crib, we would set a chair about one foot away from the crib. Again, once you put the child down, pray, hug, kiss, say goodnight, and then sit. Look straight ahead and don't engage or speak with the child. Every night the chair is a little bit farther away from the crib until it's out the door.
Finally, consistency is crucial. I cannot stress that enough. A lot of the protests might be fear-based. When kids are secure in knowing what the world is going to do next, they often comply with minimal or no protests. Also, you gain their trust because they'll see you follow through with every thing you say. (Also, don't tell white lies or make up false excuses they know aren't real. You have to teach honesty so you'll get honesty from your kids when they're older. So, don't cave! :)
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This was all very helpful! Ha I will definitely be taking all of your advice into mind during these exciting years as a parent! :-) Thank you.
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rocking chair and music. its so much easier to shut down from busy baby minds with closeness and soothing music it take just a few minutes, 3-4 songs does it for my favorite baby boy.

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Aww your baby looks adorable!..... I WANT HIM...play with him/her during the day so he sleeps alot a night time!good luck and my prayers go to you! ^.^

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Thank you! :-) He's very adorable Ha
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Your welcome and correction SUPER ADORALBLE!!!
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Im a triplet so just imagine us getting to sleep!most of the time we got drove around to get to sleep but idk

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Try a bed time story, a prayer and then some music. What seems to be upsetting him? Where is his mother?

Give him extra activity during the day and attention so that he will get tired and go to sleep. How about taking him to a park and letting him run around, go down slides and stuff?

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Rock your baby to sleep..This time you have with your baby will go by so fast it will be over before you know it . You can't get it back. There are no do overs. I am sure by bedtime for him you are more ready than he is . have a night night bed time routine . do it in steps to prepare him for it.you can help him to look forward to this as special time for you and him..Treasure this time you have with your baby. let him pick out 2 or 3 little books and his pjs ,then give him a quick warm bath , brush his teeth then have him get his books get in the rocking chair read only the books you said he could pick out .If he is still awake .sing to him or play music [Hope you don't get so relaxed you fall asleep] until he falls a sleep.This sounds like a lot It doesn't have to be a long drawn out process . once you get in a routine .It's much quicker and easier than what you most likely are going through right now.you can get it down to less than 30 mins.It will get easier in time.he knows its quiet time but he still gets to do something he likes with his mommy

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