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How to tell your friend she is annoying without hurting her feelings?

she cries every time I tell her, and I get in trouble please help!

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Every time you tell her? How many times have you had to tell her? Honestly if its that bad I would sit her down and explain what it is she's doing to be so annoying and suggest way to not act like that. Talk to her before she acts like that, be nice and make it seem like you are trying to give helpful advice. Telling her afterwards probably doesn't help if all she does is cry and do it again later.

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ok thx you helped.
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just be honest. say you just want a little time apart

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I have done that before but then the next day she starts crying and says are we friends.
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If she's your friend! You don't hurt her feelings.

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she acts like a 2 year old!
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Okay that's your opinion That she acts like a two year old, If you're her friend why don't you love her for who she is.
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she thought on the first day of school we were friends!
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Obviously before the first day of school You let her think you were friends,
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she brags all the time!
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So what if she brags all the time.
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She probably thinks you're still her friend, Just tell her how you're feeling.
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ok I will but if she dis likes me forever I will blame it on you.
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Okay get a grip on life,how are you going to blame it on me, you ask a question and I gave you my opinion.
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never mind
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sure take the easy way out
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what!!!
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"She cries every time I tell her." Does this mean she annoys you often? Why are you still friends which someone who it sounds like you don't like being with very much?
If there's something specific that's bothersome, tell her. Avoid starting a sentence with "you" and stay away from words like "always" and "never." So, something like "It really bugs me when you ...." or "I wish you wouldn't say ...." If it's something she really can't change, then you're going to have to decide to just put up with it or move on from this friendship.

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its hard to do that.
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Yes, it is hard to tell someone something they do is annoying. However, if this is a friend you want to stay friends with and the behavior is getting in the way of the friendship, you need to find a way to say so.
When I was in high school, my best friend and I use to have what we called "confession sessions." It wasn't to talk about who we "liked" or anything like that. We used those times for saying stuff that needed to be said without being afraid of hurting one another's feelings. Perhaps if you proposed such a conversation with your friend and let her go first, telling you something that bugs her, you might be on more equal footing and she might feel less "attacked." Otherwise, the annoying behavior will continue.
So suck it up and either speak up or accept it.
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well that's a little rude!
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Well, there you go - something bugged you and you had no problem telling me about it! I get that we're strangers and this is on-line. But the point is that you spoke up and said what you thought in an appropriate way. You spoke to the behavior instead of making it a personal attack ("You're rude!"). This is exactly what you need to do with your friend.
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Whoa every time you tell her? Wow how old are you guys?.. I personally think that you should sit her down and try to talk to her about how she is acting. Tell her that in some situations she need to be serious and (rarely) can she act like a two year old. If that doesn't work then you should get something to distract her or find her a friend with the same personality (she'll get tired at some point). Or maybe, just maybe you guys aren't meant to be friends right now and if its that case then you should see her less often until she matures.

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ok thx P.S I'm in middle school!
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oh haha me too!
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cool!
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haha =)
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ignore her. if she gets u in trouble when u say it and she annoys u a lot whats the point of listening to her or even being her friend!

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ok
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your welcome!
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