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Really confused, and i dont know what to do? my boyfriend cant have kids

me and my boyfriend were talking about family, and i told him i want kids, then he came out and told me he can't have any....im really confused and i dont know what to do or say to him...this is pretty much braking us apart

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HeatherSyl

He is either infertile, or had a vasectomy performed

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He probably has something wrong with him or doesn't want to, you need to just say I understand and appreciate everything he does do for you and thank him for his honesty.

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Im sorry :( How did he seem to look when he said he cant ? Try having a talk with him..maybe hes trans. o.o

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no hes not trans
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Okay x'D
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Adopt . ?

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angelwolf

Listen, if you want kids someday then break it off clean and let him find someone like himself who don't want kids either.

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Why is adoption or a sperm donor not an option. And ignore anyone that says you should marry first or pass judgment on you. Its your life not theirs.

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Cant as in doesnt want to or can handle the responsibility, or cant as in he is not able to provide his part that is necessary for children, because there are solutions for this second "cant", maybe go to a sperm bank, or adopt

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the doctor said he cant
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Then go to a sperm bank and use that donated sperm. Or adoption if you prefer or dont feel comfortable with sperm donation
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He probably has a health condition where he literally can't have any. I feel like if he just didn't want any, he wouldn't word it like that. You can always adopt, or get a sperm donor. Best of luck to the two of you.

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Before you can figure out what he meant, you need more information. Ask him why he can't have kids and then discuss it. If it is a physical problem, then discuss options of getting a sperm donor or doing an adoption. If it was a vasectomy, those can be undone, if he is willing. If it is emotional, he may need counselling. Talk to him to find out what is going on and then you can work from there. Good luck.

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will not adopt n i dont wanna get pregnant by some sperm donor......
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This is why you need to discuss it with him and talk about your options, you need to find out what you both want. Good luck.
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if that is breaking you up...

then you two should not be together

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It should break you apart if you want them and he doesn't. The only reason for it not to break you up is if he wants to adopt

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