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Am I being emotionally abused? My parents run to me and say how much they hate each other and how lousy the other is After they have fought

This has been going on for 20 years. I'm only 13. I need help.

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Your parents need to get counseling, now! Rather than burden you, their child, with their arguments they need a professional. Please don't feel that you must listen to any more. This is not your job. As mentioned, they're making quite a big mistake by doing this- it's not helping their marriage and certainly not helping you. Be strong. Refuse to listen to any more complaints from either of them. Tell them that you love each of them, but you are not going to allow them to upset you this way anymore. If they start, leave the room. Until you refuse to listen, they're going to continue with this. Keep telling them to go see a counselor and stop talking to you about their marital problems. Good luck!

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You're welcome, Sweetie.
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Well, they are looking to see who is right because they both want to be the victor since they have been emotionally hurt from their fight. So they look to the closest person for an opinion, which is you. Unless they are degrading you or making you feel really bad or (if extreme) physically hurting you, then I don't think it's emotional abuse towards you. Whether or not you interpret it like that, idk

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I wouldn't call it abuse. They are just making big parental mistake. You have to communicate your feelings and don't let them talk to you about that stuff. It's not your job to take sides between your parents, and they shouldn't ask you to referee. That's just weird.

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I suggest going to your school councilor about that. I can't tell how serious it is, but if they are yelling a lot, then yea go see your councilor.

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You're not the one being emotionally abused, your parents are abusing each other behind the other's back.

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Yes, your are being emotionally abused. They are making you part of a situation that you as yet have no ability to effectively and emotionally deal with.

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Not directly I would say no.

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I have the same problem, its rally driving me away from both of my parents and i feel like crying, they are always fighting threatening to move out and everything and then come to my brother and i and complain about the other and how their life sucks. i try to tune them out or deal with it...its kind of comforting to know that im not alone though... and yes i say you are being abused.

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