Be friendly. Walk up to someone and say hi. Hi always starts a conversation. But don't pause for a long period of time after the hi. Say So what's up? or I love your shirt! Where did you get it? There's one thing to remember. Always be yourself! Don't try to hard, or get a sense of humor. Not everyone's strong suit is in humor. It could be honestly, loyalty, or just being kind. :) Don't pretend to be someone ells for others to like you. They will like you for who you are not for who you are not...
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...Just answered another of your Q's, it's making more sense to me now... Is the fact that you're having trouble making/keeping friends what makes you think there's something wrong with you? (Your other Q I just answered.) What exactly do you mean by.... or... how is it you think/feel you're pushing your friends away? Do you ignore them, such as -- don't answer calls, texts, etc., when they want to talk to you? I don't know what it is that you're doing, what you think is "pushing them away." It's hard to answer your question without knowing more about you, how you act around others, and so on... Try to be friendly & kind to everyone, ask a lot of questions when you meet people who have similar interests as you. Having things in common can help a lot when you're trying to make new friends. This is really important -- always treat others in the same manner you'd like to be treated be them; always treat people the way you want them to treat you. That's a great "Life Rule"... it's a good way to live, generally speaking & if you can abide by that rule, it should help you to make plenty of friends... :)
You want to make and be a good friend and that is great. Proverbs 17:17 gives a wonderful definition of what a TRUE friend does, it says " a true companion is loving all the time and is a brother born for when there is distress". This is the type of friend you want to be by showing true love and consideration for everyone, and this will attract more friends of quality to you. Be yourself, listen with concern and be the type of friend you want to have.
Honey, your insecurities are hanging you up on this. You are shy because of the struggles you have had. You worry about doing things 'right' and then end up doing them' wrong' and chasing people off, then get frustrated at home because it is a place you can safely blow off steam. Is that correct? You say you don't know who you are. That you are difficult at home, but friendly at school. You have been going through a lot but it doesn't have to hinder you either. I advise you not expect to be an expert at friend making in two days. I sense an impatience in you because you are lonely. As I said in comments; an aura of need and sometimes desperation can cause others to feel pressured and back away. It is not always as good to have a lot of friends as it is to have a couple of good ones. You could perhaps try to form friendships in group settings, where you there is not so much pressure on them, but in a small group, so there is not too much pressure on you. You need to straighten out your home base situation so you can invite a couple of girls over for pizza and a movie.
you should be friendly ! ha you can find and have many friends every where ! school ,here! just talk to them! and think about them..i think about my friends a lot! never be shy..every body is just like you!