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Why my mom does not care about my children?

my mom does not act as a normal grandma. she has never offered to babysit my kids. she never visits us, my sister told me once, she does not visit us because she should play with my kids or cook for us and this is what she does not like.

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Well, sounds like your sis told you why. How about doing something grandma likes and letting her take a load off? Not every woman enjoys cleaning up after children. She may like the fun things about kids, though.

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I tried this too, i invited her to a new year celebration week end,but she let us wait and when she was finaly there,she ate almost nothing, did not laugh and was bored. Not happy at all. We left her for a while, as we came back she was speaking and laughing with a woman sitting the tabe next to us. she does not enjoy our company
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there must be reason
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ok, thx
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i think she could be a narssitic mom, since she is the only person that interests her
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Maybe she's having a hard time in life; ask her. Or she just doesn't enjoy kids as much.

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she says she does not have time, she has time for her life and her duties
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She doesn't enjoy cooking. Cleaning or babysitting. That doesn't have to be all it's about. Do things together, go places she's interested in, cook her dinner, let her tell stories to your kids, not all grams are the same. Good luck!

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she does not like spending time with my kids. she does not like telling stories or listening to their stories. she avoids spending time with my kids. she never visits us, she sometimes calls and my kids don't take the phone when they see her number on display, saying she says always same sentences and they can't hear it anymore
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she is a diffrent lady may b she wants to stay young and never wanna get in such activities.....
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I'm sorry Rab, you could be right. Was she the same with you, growing up?
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she is just interested about her own activities
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Some people are self centered, having children doesn't change that, probably adds resentment. Be around people that enjoy being around you and your children. It's hard but try not to dwell on it. good luck !
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So, I'm not the only one. My son is 17 and I don't think my mother ever watched or kept him more than 5 times his whole life; although she did get custody of my older sister's 2 kids and my step sister's 4 kids when DFS took them away. I don't think I ever asked because I am a middle child who was neglected growing up so I don't feel that my child would get any more attention at my mother's than I ever go. I guess I consider my child lucky he didn't get to be ignored by his grandma, the way I did growing up, while being in her presence.

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she sometimes calls me just to hear my voice as she says and when I start explaining my worries or even something positive, she looses interest and stops the converstaion. I always feel empty and angry after having talked with her
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I'm sorry you have a mother like this. It sounds like she is calling just to make herself feel better and not to hear your worries/troubles, which is unfortunate on her part. I would distance myself from her (don't pick up the phone) just to aleviate your pain and anger, which doesn't make life any easier for you. If there are support groups like "my mom sucks" I'd join that and find someone who will actually LISTEN to you and FEEL your pain and OFFER advice and guidance that would be helpful to you. Don't let her make you feel that way, YOU deserve better.
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yes, i had support from my aunt. she listened to me for a time, but now she died and i feel emptier. recently my mom called me to ask for money for a small business she runs and is unprofitable. i told her that i have lots of expenses. sometimes when she calls i have the feeling she just wants money. i told her once and then she stopped and then we had a little improvment in our reationship. but then she called again for money, she did not insist. but i feel like how come she never gave a hand in any circumstance of my life even though when i needed her urgently and emotionally but she asks for money so direct ? it hurt me to the ground
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awww, that does sting. You've done well for yourself and I don't see why you should be there financially or otherwise when she treated you as she did and still does. I'm sorry for your situation. I recommend you don't give the money, take care of yourself and your children PRIORITY.
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Agreed.
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dude. your mom is not a very good grammaw

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Being a grandma myself, during the week my world revolves around my grandchildren. Take them to school, pick them up, dance class, and whatever else they may need because both parents work. This time with them is priceless and any grandparent who misses them growing up is truly missing out on what life is all about.

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dear kimpica, i have always asked myself how come my mom does not enjoy my children, i sometimes cry for minutes
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When my kids were growing up my mother was not a part of their lives and like you Sara it broke my heart. The kids are the ones who miss out, but if they have never had grandmas love they learn to live without. Keep the lines of communication open with your kids, love them, and when you have grandchildren break the chain and be the best grandma ever! Your kids will see how important you are and will love you more for it.
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i am constantly sad
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