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I am going to check out a high school and I'm scared because I'm not going with my 8th grade class, I'm going with my old class from when I was in second grade. I know this is going to sound stupid but I'm scared. Not so much of the girls because I know their nice but of the boys. I see almost all of them a few times every year. Some of the boys look at me but when I catch their eye and try to smile they look away. How do I not make it awkward going on the bus? After all I'm not from their school. Please help me. I don't want to be scared to go with them.

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It doesn't sound stupid to feel scared. It sounds normal. As you know, a lot has changed since the 2nd grade. Maybe the guys that are not having eye contact with you are attracted to you. Remember you are a good person and you have a lot to offer in any friendship or a rekindling of an old friendship. When you get on the bus, smile a little and look for an empty seat. If you see one, sit down and take a breath and know, first task accomplished. Always wear clothes that are clean and you feel good in. Wear your hair your favorite way, and brush your teeth. Also, stand tall and be proud of who you are. I think you can do it. The first at anything is the hardest sometimes. But afterward, you can reward yourself and say, "Hey, look at me! I did it!." It's a good feeling. Good Luck and try not to worry. You'll do just fine! :)

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You're welcome! Remember you are a good person. :)
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I have another question for you. I just talked to one of the girls that go there and she said all of the girls will likely be nice. I wasn't worried about them. I'm worried about the boys. A boy that I like and I'm almost positive that he likes me well, I saw him today. I really want to catch his attention but whenever our eyes meet he instantly looks away. What do I do?
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Hi girlygirl1771~ I like your name by the way.:) I have a good friend who carries that as her nickname too! I just wanted to let you know.:) Back to your question. Since you were able to get through the bus, I have a feeling you are going to have the strength to do this. #1. This is a secret that is hard for girls to believe. Guys at this age, (I've been there. It's scary) really do like the girls to show interest first. #2. The reason. They are just as uncomfortable, if not more, than you. They don't want to look goofy in front of their friends. The image of them liking "girlygirl," and you not liking him back is a blow to his ego. #3. Why is it not so much an "ego bust," for you? Because, you are more mature and go around it for a moment. If he doesn't get you he feels like he might fail in his status. Even if he is reading this, he won't admit it.. but, I know it's true. About the solution.
At any time of day, make Sure You Happen To Bump IN to his. This doesn't mean physical contact. It means in eye contact. You have to get close enough there aren't too many people between you. In line at lunch? Between classes, near his locker. Try to put yourself where you are forced to look. If he shy away, no biggie, you were just walking by. Don't let his friends or your friends intervene at this juncture. All you need is 5 seconds.. or maybe 3. Have him stop and look at you. You look right at him and smile. Say, "Hey Bob, I've seen you coming out of biology and was wondering how do you like it?" Something like that. It's been a long time for me. But, I do think, if you feel the vibe he likes you too, You are IN! He needs you to break the ice! This approach will. Let me know if you can. Take Care and Good Luck. :)
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I went on the field trip today and I saw the boy I like. I did try to make eye contact with him but he always looked away. He was fine when he wasn't around me but when I got anywhere near him he talked to other girls instead of me. I feel like he doesn't really like me. I'm not sure what to do. I wont see him again till summer or sometime over the weekend at church. I can't wait to go to high school because he'll be there. I really want him to like me. And it doesn't have to be in a relationship way but in a friend way. What do I do to catch his attention in high school? I want to be a girl that stands out to him in a good way. A girl that he wants to get to know not just because I'm cool or pretty or whatever guys say but because I'm fun and he wants to get to know me.
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Hi girlygirl1771~ O.k. this makes it even easier for you. You already have something else in common outside of school. Even though your goal is high school and recognition there, your church involvement gives you a common ground. The next time at church, this weekend, (it's only 2 days away,) walk up to him and say something about school. Greet him as a friend during church. Look great while you are at church. Stand out there if you can. Be super friendly so people look at you. Smile and be super friendly to everyone and make sure he notices how people like you. It is a great and safe place to be you. He also doesn't have as much distraction there as at school.
Now, at school, find out what his extra curricular activities are. What are his interests. Does he like tennis? football? swimming? chess? art? baseball? If so, pick up an interest in it too. Try out for swimming, chess, softball, etc. I don't think you can join football! haha! Find an activity he plays or watches and get involved. Try to hang with the same groups that he does. Be flirtatious in a laughing and fun way to other people around him. Not directly him. He will see how all his/your friends want to be with you... and then, he will catch a clue as to how cool and fun you are! I hope this helps. Always look your best ! You can do it! :) :)
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The problem is I only see him at church. I don't go to school with him. I used to but I don't. That's why I'm so excited for high school, ill be back in school with him. I'll try to catch his attention at church but he's a server (hopefully your catholic so you know what I mean. If your not then that's alright) when ever he passes me I get so excited that he's going to look at me and it only happened once. Its like when he's in front of people he cant know me because he just can't. When his friends weren't looking he smiled at me but that was it. I'm not lame or stupid because his friends like me. A lot of them call me hot and stair at me (which is awkward) so when I smile at him how can I get him to smile at me? P.S. I'm sorry I'm bugging you so much but you are like the only one who has helped me with this.
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You aren't bugging me at all girlygirl ! I'm happy to assist in any way I can. Now, I think we are on the same page about the high school before and the high school now. Along with the church. ! :) Thank you for being patient with me and explaining it again:) Do your parents know you have a crush on this guy? It sounds like you are attractive and he must be cute, so it wouldn't be weird if you two were to be friends at all. Is there any way, when he comes by, you can slip a note in the basket? People won't take it out, but make sure he looks at you at least for a moment. Can you sit on the outside of the aisle/pew (sorry) so he has to hand you the basket? Then, drop it by mistake so you both have to pick it up? :) I'm searching for you here! I'm thinking... :) Can you get to church early and literally try to meet him before church? Can you volunteer to read at Sunday School class? Can you tell one of his friends who think you are hot you want to talk to him? Can you get his number off the roster and call him at home? Are any of these helping or making some sense? I hope so. What do you think?
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I think those are all great ideas but I'm so scared. Hes kind of the class clown. He likes to make everyone laugh. But then when he comes to me he kind of ignores me. Here is a detail I left out. In second grade I dated him and a little in first. I know he liked me but I don't know if he still likes me because I left his school. I get so excited when I see him and everytime I want to make a good impression but he never looks at me. Another thing I'm afraid of is because he is such a class clown a lot of people know it, and not just poeple in his school but people from around different schools. They call him Jimmy Jokster. Here is an example. A kid thats mean that he didn't know before yesterday asked Jimmy if he dyes his hair, (Jimmy's hair is a dark red color), and Jimmy said "Yah I dye my hair this color." In kind of a snobby voice. I know that doesn't sound bad but hes done other things that would take forever to explain. I'm afraid of getting hurt. Should I wait till high school to get to know him more and become friends with him? Maybe then he will ask me out when he know more about who I am. I just want his attention to be focoused on me, (I know sounds snobby but I just really like him), how do I keep him thinking about me like I think about him. He's not to in with other girls, (which is a good thing for me) I know him well enough to know that he would never hurt me but I'm still scared. How do I keep his attention on me? And do you think I should wait till high school?
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u have to face it yourself, you'll get used to it

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it depends on what ur fear is

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Let God take over it. Pray about it. Let God lead the way
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