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How can I calm down when I'm mad?

Sometimes I get so mad, I feel like breaking something or hurting someone. It makes me feel like my heart is black. How can I curve that?! I know anger is something that just happens, but still...

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Anger is NOT something that just happens, you can dispose of that emotion all together. The more your brain uses something the more it needs it so the more often that thing happens. (your anger) The less often the brain uses something, the less it needs it, so it will eventually discard what it no longer needs. I did that when I was 11, and in all honesty, I haven't been mad since, I replaced anger with disappointment. Anger is something you choose to have.

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Hmm, I wish I could be like that. NO anger, that'd be awesome. Thanks. I'll try to keep myself calm
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Good luck! It takes practice and a lot of self control.
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Thanks! It'd be really helpful if I could keep myself calm. Probably save me from getting into tons of trouble at home! What do you think?
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Yeah, I used to get mad at my brother for hitting me constantly, then I hit him in the groin and cause some serious damage, I haven't gotten mad since, I guess I sort of freaked myself out. (I am the younger brother)
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Oh, I bet that wasn't fun. Where do you live?
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Mississippi
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Nebraska. That's not too far. How old are you?
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16 at the moment.
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17. When's your birthday? Sorry it took so long. Had to wait for 30 minutes!
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Haha no worries, April 25, 1997.
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February 23, 1996. Do you have any siblings?
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Well, as I've stated, an older brother (20) and I also have a sister (21)
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WOW. How's it feel to be the youngest? I have a 9 year old little sister.
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I have two younger sibilings, a brother and a sister, both of them get on my nerves.
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ha. Can't say that about mine. I haven't seen her for 5 years, until this summer, then it's almost every other weekend
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I have to deal with them everyday, thankfully, this previous summer, I did not have to see them at all, although I kept expecting to see them when I get up in the morning.
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i know the feeling. Cousins
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I have two female cousins in Maine.
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both younger.
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I'm the oldest of my cousins.
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Only one older cousin
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Wow. My youngest cousin is almost as old as my younger sister.
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My youngest cousin is 7
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My youngest cousin is 7 as well.
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He just turned 7 this month
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I have no idea when my cousin turned 7.
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Do you just have 2 cousins or do you have more?
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BTW, how old are you? Where do you live?
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I have so many cousins, I don't know them all. As for siblings, they don't bother me anymore, my sister saved my life.
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Huh?! What happened?
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I'm wondering the same thing. What happened?!?
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You have me interested and waiting! Tell us please!?
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What happened ti save my life? Got horribly sick one night, she stayed by my side.
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To*
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All night long, taking care of me, and eventually took me to the hospital.
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That was nice. That's the good thing about older siblings, huh?
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Yes it is.
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Sometimes they care. :)
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That's good.
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Aww I just read this conversation and it was so beautiful *sniff sniff* ;'(
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Haha sorry I just butted in without asking...
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Haha always glad to add a pretty face. :)
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Glad to know my obnoxiousness is welcomed rather than frowned upon :P
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Haha always :P
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The more the merrier. That's what I think :D
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Good morning arty :P
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Good morning! How was your weekend?
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Not too bad, yours?
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It was good.
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All my days blend together so they are all the same to me. :)
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My days seem to fall apart as soon as I wake up, but then my day lightens up.
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Mine was pretty interesting. An aunt that i havent seen for like 7 years came. She's moving to Nebraska and she's living with us for now. Cool, huh? Sorry it took so long. Had to wait for 30 minutes. Starting to get on my nerves!
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Why wait 30 min? And cool, all my family live in canada and I'm in mississippi :P
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I guess I posted too many comments in a too short amount of time. Does that frequently.
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I don't like that. It gets really irrating. Try to have a conversation and have to stop. Ug!!!
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Lol
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Yeah, I try to write and it says that I need to stop for 30 minutes. It's only when I'm commenting, thankfully. Quite agravating. Does it happen to you?
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Nope, I comment freely. :)
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WHAT?! Why do I have a certain amount of time?: ( Oh well. Maybe you've been with ask longer. Who knows?
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I don't think that is it :P
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Neither do I.
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Hmm. What could cause whatever's going on then?
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No clue.
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Well, it sucks. I want to talk to people, but if I comment too many times in a certian amount of time, I'm screwed for 30 minutes!!!! So fustrating
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Me wanting to talk to people is odd. I'm usually terrified of them. NOT kidding. I shiver when I sit with students or people I don't know. Count yourself lucky. lol
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You are a cool friend.
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Thanks. : ) You're cool too. Where do you live?
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Randolph AFB. You?
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Athena3
Nebraska. Sorry for the difficulties and everything. I'm still here. Are you? I'll explain later
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I had to wait for 3 HOURS, before I could comment again. Boy was I mad. That's why I have two accounts. I just will go to the other when I run out of time on this account. Just don't be fooled. Don't be scared of Athena. Athena and Artemis are the same people.
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Yeah, I know. :P
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Well, now that I won't be interrupted, I live in Nebraska. Let's hope I can get further. lol
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Going to my other account for a sec. Be right back.
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I'm back
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Welcome back.
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Thanks. I was just wondering if I could change my email adress on my other account. So, how are you?
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Meh, I've had better days, you?
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Oh, what's wrong? I'm doing fine, now that I have people to talk to.
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Sorry it took so long to get back. I was busy with other stuff.
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That's fine, just a bit under the weather today, that's all ^^
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Oh, Sorry. : ( I know how that feels
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Is there a way to change my email adress?
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Figured it out. Thanks. You still there?
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Yeah, sorry
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I had to charge my phone, I use the app.
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No problem. Just bored
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Oh. Understandable.
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I won't have much access to my phone much, goodbye :)
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Bye. (Sorry the "bye" is late. Just got the message) Hope to talk to you soon! : )
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I'm ready whenever you are! : )
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Hello
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HI! Sorry it took so long to get back. I was in class. Are you feeling better today?
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More so, yes, thank you :)
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How about yourself?
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I'm doing pretty good. I was in class taking a quiz. Sorry for being a little late replying. Unfortunatly you can't ignore quizes though, huh? Don't you wish you could? lol
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Lol I can, I dropped outta school :P
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Why? Sorry it took so long. I was in math class. What grade are you in, or supposed to be in?
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I'm supposed to be in 11th grade, I'm a 9th grade drop out. The last full year I did was 5th grade.
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Well, we are (supposed to be) in the same grade. I'm in 11th grade right now. Do you want to tell me why you dropped out? Don't have to if you don't want to. Just curious.
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In 6th grade I got really sick, and have been near death on and off since then. In my that paradigm, school just isn't important
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Really?
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Oh. Well I hope you're doing better. I'm sorry for being nosy. Hi curiouskid! How are you?
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Haha it's fine, it doesn't really matter. Hey curiouskid.
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I'm relieved. : ) How are things going for you? I keep losing track of what I ask to who! lol. Sorry if I repeat a question.
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Ya asked that, I'm fine, just going along through the day.
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Sorry.
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Haha ya do not need to apologize.
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Thanks. Sorry i've been awhile. I got busy in class and talking to someone else. I'm going everywhere. lol
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Lol i'll leave ya be, have fun :P
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Ok TTYl. And you don't have to leave. You're the only one left.
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I'm here. Again. Ready when you are.
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I am ready.
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Ok. Sorry, I was in class
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You still there or are you off? I get so lost. lol x )
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I am here now.
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Why don't we just narrow down the conversations to just one, hmm?
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Good idea. Which one should we stay on?
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Lets try this one.
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ok. How are you?
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It's been awhile
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I'll try to remember this one. We have so many... lol
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True, I will keep reminding you.
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THanks! That'd be really helpful. How are things going with you?
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good, you?
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Alright. You've been gone awhile.
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Sorry, got caught up with school.
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Understandable. If you look at my page, you'll know what I mean. Things have been different depending on the day. A couple days have been REALLY bad since you disappeared. One or two days were awfully depressing. Some days I was under the weather. My other days were fine or better than fine. Today is one of the depressing days. How have your days been since you left?
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They have been good. Sorry, though.
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Sorry? About what?
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Leaving you for a few days. Gotta log out. Bye!
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Bye. I may be on sometime next week. If things go according to plan, next Tuesday.
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Nice hearing from you again.
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Yes it is.
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Hi. How are you? yes, I changed my mind about staying away from ask, but i will soon. Maybe next week. I don't know
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It is nice to be back on Ask, again.
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Yes. It's nice to see you again. Why were you gone for so long again?
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School work. That and I was unable to log on October 9 through October 11.
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OH, Yesterday morning i couldn't get on. School is the reason I will be leaving for a couple of days. It should only be a week.
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Good. Hopefully, your time off of Ask will be shortened from 2-3 days.
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Yes, i hope so too. If I get my grade up then i'll be back on that day, but if a week ends first, then i'll just do the week. It may take me a couple of weeks to get that grade up. I don't want to be gone that long.
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All righty, then. You'll need good luck to get those grades up. Now, how are you? By the way, what I meant by unable to log on for two days was that I couldn't log on to the computer.
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I'm fine. How about you? I could get on the computer, but i couldnt get on the internet. Thanks
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Your welcome. I am just as fine as you are.
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That's good
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Same for you. I will have to log out at 2:55, okay? So I won't be on for much longer. Just to let you know.
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Ok. I log out at 3:25
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Ok. At least you have time. I am only in high school, and school here lets out at 3 P.M., so I have limited time.
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I will probably see you tomorrow, so goodbye, and you are a good friend. Thank you, and have an awesome week.
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I'm in High school too, but we get out at 3:48. THanks. Hope to talk tomorrow
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Your welcome. Gotta go though, see you after 3:00. Gotta stay after school.
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Hello there, Tif!
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Gotta go. Bye!
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Hi Alex. Got a question for you when you can answer.
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You still on?
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What is the question?
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Yes.
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OK, someone is following me. I want to follow them back, but the only option i have is "block". If I push block, would I be able to follow them back and get back on their page and everything, or would it cause a lot of damage?
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Every time I go to the page of someone who started following me, I have two choices, Follow and Block. It is quite possible that Ask changed this, either that or you have reached the limit that Ask has set up for everyone. If it is none of these, then I have no idea.
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They have a limit on how many people can follow you or you can follow? Ok thanks. Do you think I should test out my idea?
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I don't know. It is up to you, not me, to make decisions for you.
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I know. I just don't want to cause damage. This is going to drive me crazy! Ugh.
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Don't worry. What would you say if I told you that you have been the best friend that I have.
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Hello?
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Hi Artemis, it's me, Curiouskid2. I just created a new account.
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Hi! A new account? That's cool. : ) Now I'm not the only one : ) Yay lol
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Finally you answered. What kept you?
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Sorry, had to leave. And I answered, but I must have forgotten to submit. Sorry. I don't feel like retyping what I said to the one comment, so I'll just say thanks. I'm so flattered, I don't know what to say. It made my heart burst. I've never been anyones best friend or had one, so thanks: )
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Your welcome.
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I think the original was a bit longer. I was so flustered, I didn't know what to say. Still don't
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That's ok. Even though you are far away, we can still be friends.
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Hello?
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ran out of comment time. Sorry.
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I know what you mean about being friends even though there are like weeks between us.
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True. I understand about comment time, although I don't comment enough when i'm logged on.
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yes. sorry was in class this time
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Oh. It's ok. besides, I have a limited time frame, 7 minutes left till I have to log out.
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Bye.
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Ok. Bye. Talk to you tomorrow hopefully: )
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Hi, there Tif! How's it going?
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Tif?
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Yes I'm here. I was in class or eating lunch cant remember which. I'm doing good. How are you?
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Good. I have to finish something for my English 2 class, so don't expect an immediate reply.
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Alright? Hello???
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Sorry. You manage to get on when i'm in class. I am on at 8 am on weekdays. but i've got to go. Bye: (
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TTYL. bye.
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On until 8:20
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Hey, Tif! How is it going?
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NOt bad. How are you? : )
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Good. You?
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I'm doing pretty good.: ) This is like my longest convo ever! A one month conversation. Surprising for me, seen's how i'm not much of a talker
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I am not much of a talker myself. I barely want to talk. School portraits. Bye.
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Back again.
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Hello?!?
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Yes. I'm here: )
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Good, I thought I was alone.
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Five minutes till I log out, TTYL!!
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Oh, bye then.
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And you are never alone: )
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Good. Hopefully not.
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Sorry it took so long to reply, but I had to log out to go home.
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Sometimes it takes me days to get back to someone. Don't worry: )
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How are you doing?
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It's okay. But at least I had a reason.
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Good.
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A reason? For what? Leaving?
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Needing to go to next period.
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Oh. That tends to be my reason. And if it's not that, it's going home.
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That would be another reason, at least for Tuesdays and Thursdays.
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After school tutoring.
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Oh: ) My aunt that i told you about somewhere up above came back the other day: )
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Really, cool. TX weather is too hot for her to come down. My aunt is used to the Maine weather.
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Oh. You live in texas?
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Yes, near San Antonio.
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Oh. SO do you know a kid named Adam. He lives somewhere in Texas.
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No, Why?
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Just wondering. He's another friend on ask. You may know him by AngryTexan if you are following him.
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I am not. And he is not following me.
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Oh. I was just wondering. Ok. Do you know two boys by the names of Larry Stratton and David Stratton?
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No, not really. I probably don't know the other people who you are going to ask me if I do know them.
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Hello?!?
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Sorry. I'm here. For some reason, you don't get the things I post on my athena account: ( anyways, you still on. It sucks that you don't know those two boys: ( I'm super sorry. I ran out of comment time, and i did comment, but i guess you just can't see it. Neither can i though: (
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It's okay. I didn't receive the news until today.
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Hello?!?
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What news? Yes i'm here, but i have to leave for a little: (
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What you posted yesterday.
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Hello?!?
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I'm here. But I really need help.
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What is it?
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I'm lonely. Read my question. YOu'll find out just how lonely i am. But how are you?
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Good. You?
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Not too good. I am getting better though, because of all of you on ask. But, when I leave, I'm sure it'll be just as bad.
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Why are you always lonely?
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Because there's no one here, as in at school and home. I'm just in a lot of pain right now.
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I'm sorry. Its just that I care for you. I am a good friend.
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Thanks. I wish you were here. Then I'd at least have someone
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I need someone, as well. So don't think that you are alone.
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: ) What's going on with you?
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I have only three friends, sometimes we have fun, most of the time, we don't have time to hangout. So yeah, at least I have someone to talk to.
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The only friends I have are those on ask. I have a senior for a friend, but we don't ever see each other anymore: (
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Wow. I had some senior friends last year, but they all graduated. The only remnants of them that I have is on Twitter.
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Same here. Except i have fb.
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I have FB as well. I can even access Twitter at school! Isn't that cool? I'll give you the link. https://twitter.com/
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Ok, thanks: )
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Can't use it here at school though: (
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Weird, because I can use it at school, even when school has started, so that confuses me.
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Well, we live in different districts, so...
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True. But I think that is has something to do with our new Principle.
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Oh, well, i have to go. Talk to you MOnday
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Hello, sorry it took me so long to respond, but I couldn't get to ask.com.
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Computer problems.
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That's ok. How are you?
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Good, you?
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Hello???
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Hi. How are you? I'm doing good.
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Good, you?
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Why did it take you so long?
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Thanksgiving break. Sorry: ( I'm good. What's new with you?
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I stubbed my pinkie toe, and it still hurts. :(
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And I hit it really hard. hard enough that it was sprained, although I can still flex it, but not far.
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By the way, where is Athena3?
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Oh, I'm sorry. Hope it gets better.

Athena3 is deleted.
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Oh. And thank you.
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Your welcome.

How are you?
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good, you?
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Sorry it took so long to answer you, but I had no time to talk to you between classes since I first talked to you this morning.
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Pretty good: )

And it's fine: )

GTG: (
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hi
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Hi! Have a happy holidays.
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You too: )
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Alright.
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How've you been: )?
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Good, you?

By the way, what is your favorite Christmas song? Mine is Do they know its Christmas, by Bandaide and Carol of the bells, both of which I hear on radio channel 101.9.
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I've been good: ) My favorite song is I want a Hippopatamus for Christmas
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Nice, although I haven't heard that song since last year. No clue why.
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I have it on a cd.

Do you have any plans for Christmas?
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Stay home and do nothing.
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same with me
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The only thing I am going to do is help with cooking.
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well, that's about it for me: )
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how long are you on?
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Usually a period, sometimes a few minutes, now. Used to stay on for the time it took for me to log on and to start logging off for next period.
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yeah, i never log off.
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Really? I kinda have to log off all the time because I am using a school computer and not one I own.
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Same here, but it's like a personal computer at school. Once in awhile I will log off. Like I'm going to be gone for like two weeks, so I'll log off then
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Oh, Ok.
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I have to log out for the next period, though.
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ok. well hope to talk to you soon
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Ok, I still am going to be here. I am just telling you what I do in school.
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I know: ) Sorry it took so long. I'm sort of busy.
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Same here, but I need to log out in 14 minutes.
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Ok. Nice to hear from you: ) You're getting more and more recent: )
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Gotta go. See you tomorrow.
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Ok bye. Nice talkin' to ya: )
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Hello again.
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Hello?!?
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Are you back?
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I am now: )
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