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I would reccomend trusting the person fully in 2-3 years.. Kind of.. Observe them.. But not stalk them. Be very very cautious. Careful of the ones that say "baby" first time you meet.

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Strange...
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Freaky fresh.
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I just moved in with a man I met over a year ago online! You meet some frogs, but you could also meet the one. And, it was kind of fun! You need to be careful though. Don't ever give out personal info. And always meet at a crowded place.

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Sweet. :)
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Which dating site did u use?
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No, you have no idea what he/she is really like. Or even if they are cheating on you. I dont trust online dating unless i know absolutely for sure that he is the "real deal"

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Interesting concept, but you tend to know people better that you meet online than the people you meet in person. Simply because online they have nothing to hide.
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Wrong, Brendan ... you must miss all those stories about people who pretend they are someone else on dating and social sites ... especially the pedos looking for kids.
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Walt, be honest...how many kids are on Online Dating Sites, where you must be at least 18 to join? And, let's be honest, how are any of Gamergirl's not also valid in in-person dating? How do you know when you sit down to dinner on a first, second, third or beyond date with someone what they are REALLY like? All you see is the snapshot they give you during that date. How is an in-person date any less likely to be cheating on you?

As someone who has studied human interaction academically, I can tell you that extensive well-founded, peer-reviewed, published research has shown that online relationships (ie. dating) are just as viable as in-person ones. Look at Walther's Social Information Processing theory as the flagship research (started in 1992, over 20 years of research right there...) and go on from there. Sometimes that are even more strong because, rather than going off looks, you are going off personality!
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DrWho ... I was addressing the generality of people online, not dating sites in particular. Though I would be willing to bet there are more "kids" on those dating sites ... by using false birthdates ... than should be. (By "kids" I mean most of them are probably late teens, 16-17 ... just under the 18 limit). I know I've run in to a couple of them each on Match, eHarmony, and a couple other sites I've used. And since I tend to have few matches due to my filters, that small sample tells me there are likely hundreds of underage "kids" on those sites.
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Woah okay obviously we all have different ideas on the concept. I was just giving my opinion and we should just chill out and have fun answering questions :)
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meh-it's ok, nothing to dance about and celebrate over.

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Iv done a couple times , I didn't like it, it's fun for a minute then you feel like everyone's being a phony.

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I wouldn't recommend going to online dating sights, those are bologna. While you're online and you meet someone there, whether through a game, ask.com, or some other website, and you just talk, flirt, have fun, that is the most likely way to find someone online. With dating websites they just send you people in your age range, not knowing if they are jerks or not.

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Brendan, have you dated any women from "ask.com"?.
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Lol no I am innocent :P
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Just giving examples :P
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As long as you meet "local" women; yes, go for it. I mean: if you live in Michigan, for example, don't waste your time trading e-mails with ladies in Texas.

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Totally agree.
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Hey ... I'm willing to move ... and be a "house husband" ... for the right woman. LOL
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Walt: are you singing that Trace Adkins song, "Marry for Money"??
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LOL " dont be trading emails with ladies in texas" TRUE.
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That would make a great bluegrass or country song!
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no....

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From my experience don't do it

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It's no more "hassle" than looking for someone offline.
In fact, online match-making is a lot easier ... you just go to one location, and meet thousands of potential matches.

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No, but if you decide to do it, read the tips below these answers ~ very informative ~ I agree with BrendanBRM above..." With dating websites they just send you people in your age range, not knowing if they are jerks or not." - All I wanted was to find a nice guy who had horses so we could ride together, that's all ~ I never met one person interested in horses !!! ~ Good Luck ;)

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I know what you mean. I havent' "met" anybody and feel like when they say Free To Join, then you have to pay a monthly fee, I feel violated.
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Not if they don't do a back ground check it's not.
You could wake up some morning missing something.
Maybe your life. She is out there just waiting for you.
Just like your waiting for her. Remember when things happen to quick
it's usually not worth it or real. When they happen slow they last for ever.
This is the time that you get to know yourself. Be the best person that you can be.
She's coming closer. Love takes time, only because it's worth it.

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We know about taking things slow, but where the heck do you meet the guys if not online?
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You could wake up some morning missing something just as easy when you date someone in-person. How many one-night-stand scams start up in bars across the country as opposed to online? Nothing you posted is any more or less possible in a face-to-face date than online.
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no, too much drama and scamming, ladies especially be very careful. there can be some that will proclaim to love you and they are very good at this, watch out for red flags. they usually are according to 409 scamming and www. romance scams savvy criminals that work in groups mostly. they will promise you the moon and then ask for money after you have given them your heart, I know I was a 2yr. victim.

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One word: NO, you have no idea what they're really like. They could be lying! Don't try to start a bad marriage! You reaaaaally got to be careful. BUT not my problem if you do something wrong. HOPED IT HELPED :)

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How is a lie any more effective online or in person? Nothing you posted is any more or less possible through online dating than dating someone face-to-face.
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I agree with all of the answers but my mom she met her boyfriend and they both love each other very much. I can tell. But they met online. I would try a christian dating site if I were you if your christian.Thats how they met.AND they've been dating for a year.

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No.

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I used to believe online dating was a sham but I've since changed my mind after seeing many people who have met online an have had successful relationships. The multiple people I know met online and got married and have children and have been together for years. As with any dating situation, you need to truly take your time and get to know one another and not rush. Meeting someone online is just a meeting place just like anywhere else. It's no different than meeting at a party, a club or at work. You still have to get to fully know someone and take your time. I haven't personally tried online dating yet and trust me the people I have met in person are liars, cheaters and jerks. Therefore meeting someone "offline" doesn't guarantee anything either. A persons character will be shown over time no matter the manner used in how you initially meet. Take your time to get to know someone as you would in any other circumstance. Online dating is just a venue in which to meet people who are potential mates. It's up to you fully get to know who they really are. Good Luck and much success to you finding the mate of your dreams.

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Very true indeed, and sometimes meeting someone offline, they can show their "true colors" very quickly.
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No I don't think online dating is worth all work I mean no one really means what they say on their profile page

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How do you know that the person sitting across from you at your first in-person, face-to-face date really means what they say? How is that any different than online?
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still it is my opinion, i think that people should date someone they know...
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No...I'd Rather Meet Someone FOR REAL!

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I've done it and met one guy that was 'ok' but he ended up being a jerk I know it's hard these days to meet ppl in any situation. I'm seeing somone now who is a great person but his personal life is such a mess I wonder if it's worth it. Thing it I've been fighting larengeal cancer for almost 3 years and he's been there for me but to be honest if I wasn't sick and didn't need him I'd run. I met him thru mutual friends tho not online.But I say no looking online for a mate isn't your best bet. So that leaves the ? where do you meet ppl? IDK I guess if it's meant to be it'll come your way and if it's not it won't....do what I did and get a dog!

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That is a real hard question! It's not yes OR no.

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Not always but usually, it fails.

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As I said above, there is extensive well-founded, peer-reviewed, published research has shown that online relationships (ie. dating) are just as viable as in-person ones. Look at Walther's Social Information Processing theory as the flagship research (started in 1992, over 20 years of research right there...) and go on from there. Sometimes that are even more strong because, rather than going off looks, you are going off personality!
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What are you expecting for online dating? If you need some way to know your "the one", frankly speaking, it is not really so easy. If you just need some romantic feeling or just feel lonely, it is another issue.

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sometimes

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no... my aunt does it all the time its not worth it...

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I agree with 1meeshee. I've met some awesome women online, and also some who were serious freaks. I mean heroin addicts, drunk drivers, the worst. So be very careful, and talk with them on line a long time before meeting. trust your instincts. If that little voice in the back of your mind is sounding a warning, LISTEN!

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Just remember one thing----every person you see on TV concerning dating online commercials belongs to SAG ( screen actors guild). The're all actors. It's against the law to put unregistered people in TV ads. That's why you've gotta watch out for real online dating. You really don't know who you're talking to. There's some real sickys out there and there's no law that says that they CANT be there. What's happened to face to face. It's sad to watch the route that dating has gone to.

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No! The show "catfish" makes me realize that how crazy people be on online dating!

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No.
Nope.
Don't do it, man.
I tried, and it's just not worth it.

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Caution is in order as you cannot test out a persons genuine interest or who they genuinely are ( strengths and weakness ) if you are not around them. Psalms 26:4 talks about " those that hid who they are " and the computer can be a place where a person becomes like a chameleon changing into whatever they think you need to hear or see. Be careful about developing an emotional attachment without knowing what you are getting emotionally attached to. Just like if you were in person you want to get to know the real person because this is a major area of life so discernment is good for dating period on or offline. - Proverbs 22:3

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I met my husband online..and we've been together for 9 years now..

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about 56% of people on those sites only whant to steal your kidney

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no!!!!!!!!!!! i know someone who found a great guy on a dating website and they had a great first couple of dates but then he tried to hurt her because he had mental issues and belonged in the hospital... dont do it!!

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Sure it can be fun, but it largely depends on your honesty and expectations. Better than twiddling your thumbs. Can be also a nice way to give your travels a target...

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I've tried it once and it's a heartbreaking. It was fun at first but then, you started to doubt their true feelings and even their real status. Some already taken but they were joining the online dating too. Just be careful. Ask her out and try to learn more about her.

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no

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Don't do it , because when you break up he will staring saying stuff thats not true !!!!

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i think it depends on the person. a couple of my cousins met their bfs on the plenty of fish one and so far they are still together. in fact, two of my cousins are engaged to their guys and they met them on the plenty of fish one. i tried the plenty of fish one as well, but for me i stopped using it bc it wasnt working for me. i got a handful of dates out of it, but i just didnt feel that much of a connection with them so i deleted my account. i decided to do that after about a yr of having the account. i think if you want to try it, go for it. it works for some people, it just didnt work for me. i have heard the match maker and the harmony ones are great ones if you want to find someone for a serious or long term relationship and plenty of fish is more for people who want a hookup or something that isnt as serious, but like i said a couple of my cousins met their guys through plentyoffish and so far they are happy and their guys are really good. i hope this helps.

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no because you do not know if the person you are talking to is really telling the truth

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no because it wastes ur time go out there and meet the right one you never know who it actually can be!

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I think u can chat and know more about a person on a dating site first, then maybe u can meet her/him. One of my friends find her special one on a dating site.

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I could never see doing that period. I always had friends that would introduce me or I would meet people. What worked for me was praying about this and Jesus lead me to the husband he wanted me to have. Praise his Holy Holy name!

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I'd beg to differ but people keep doing it over and over because of those commercials. But if you feel as though you need someone and you wanna take time out of your day to online date then that's on you. It's all about what you want

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i don't think a responsible man will find his future wife on the internet, moreover, most of them will give a fake information on line, you can't justify what is real and false.

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