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I need some guidance and I need some help. I am 26 about my parents.

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My name is Todd and I am 26 years old, every since I can remember my brothers and I have been verbally abused and brainwashed by my parents. I did not see it when I was younger my brothers got out of the mess the older brother went off to the military, and the middle brother moved out and finished college and now both brothers are married, and I am still at home at the age of 26. I am still getting told do this do that and once I do those things I get criticized and told what I do wrong, my mom always picks fights with me and then blames them on me all the time. There will be a cycle of where ill be told nice things, but then It will be back to being mean again, I will say I have been brainwashed and mentally abused and about a few weeks ago I was told I have shingles and I am 26 years old and the doctor asked me is everything okay at home, and I had lied and said guess its going okay and he was like really is everything okay? and I said no it has never been okay. I come to my parents house, but I get told horrible things, what I m doing wrong and not what Im doing right

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Move out. That's my best answer for you. I'm 18 and my step Dad is verbally abusive. I moved out. Now I don't have to worry anymore.

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Seems like it's not you it your parents who doing something wrong parents should love and care about their kids and praise them when they do something good. That's not right what your parents are doing I think you all should go to therapy have to break that cycle.

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I know, its not right at all, I have gone to therapy when I was 18 and they told me I need to move out bc it will get worse as I get older, and when my parents come home they don't say anything to me at all, honestly some times it makes me cry and so I just cry to sleep, and I am already in college im using financial aid to pay for my school, and last night my mother sent me a message last night saying well since I am not home that im gonna fail and not be a successful person and just be a loser for the rest of my life and I needed to pick a diff future bc I wasn't gonna make it.
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I am having to recreate myself, and my parents fight every day, and when I joke they tell me to shut up!
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That's terrible I feel really bad you shouldn't be treated that way no one should matter of fact don't believe her you can do whatever stay in college,so when you're done you can get a well paying job and leave.
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that is the thing and my gf she hates seeing me this way, yes I think ive been brain washed and abused for so long Idk how to do anything right. bc they have said if I don't like it here then I can leave but they only give me little bag of clothes and make it really hard for me..
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While they're sleeping pack your stuff take all your clothes and stuff and leave don't leave a note or anything but I'm sorry about this situation you're in. Has your GF tried helping?
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She asked me she said well It sounds like your parents think your doing bad because your in a relationship?? and I said no its not you or the relationship its my parents and regardless if its with you or anyone else they would pull the same stuff and they always have done that my whole life when it comes to relationships. and then after I end it they blame me for it.
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I stay with my gf on weekends
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Wow,try to stay strong soon you'll get help and go be happy just ignore your parents they don't know any better.
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yes I try to ignore my parents as much as I can.. I try to just ignore them as much as I can... but some times I need them for like gas and stuff. So I got to talk to them.
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That's acceptable. You can always wear headphones and play music loud that helps to ignore em.
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They tell me that if I take anything from them that they will report me to the cops for saying I stole it.
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Get out of that place, no one should be around abuse like that, or ANY abuse at all mental or physically. Move in with a friend or find your own apartment or house or something. But get away from that.

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I know, its not right at all, I have gone to therapy when I was 18 and they told me I need to move out bc it will get worse as I get older, and when my parents come home they don't say anything to me at all, honestly some times it makes me cry and so I just cry to sleep, and I am already in college im using financial aid to pay for my school, and last night my mother sent me a message last night saying well since I am not home that im gonna fail and not be a successful person and just be a loser for the rest of my life and I needed to pick a diff future bc I wasn't gonna make it.
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Honey don't let people bring you down. KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH! Some people have no heart. MAybe your parents have had a meserable life and their trying to make yours and your brothers miserable to. Which is wrong..... You will make it. Your already 26 in college your gonna make it. I HAVE FAITH IN YOU
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I keep telling myself that, but im finding out that the more I stick around here in this house the worse it will be for me I already have had shingles a couple weeks ago and my parents blamed it on school.
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If you can stay with your girl, or stay with some friends. Being in that house is NOT healthy. Find a place to go for a while. Some family or friends. Even a shelter, jus being in that house with your parents its not SAFE or HEALTY. Who knows you could crack and hurt them or yourself, or they could crack. Theres no telling, my advice is get outta there
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I know that is true very true!!
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So where do I begin???
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I know that is true I can or they can do something badly but my grades are showing my emotions and that something is not right..
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They tell me that if I take anything from them that they will report me to the cops for saying I stole it.
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If you have a girl and she lives by herself, ask her if you can stay with her to get on her feet, get a job and tell her you will help with rent or bills or something. Ask some friends or if your grandparents are still alive, ask them if you can stay with them untill you get on your feet. I'm sure theres somebody out there that will help you.
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And if they keep messing with you and you cant find a place to go, and if this emotional pain is bothering your grades. To get outta that place put your self into a mental place. They have threapy and activities that will clear this out and help ou forget. If your out before your on your feet your best bet is to tell your parents that you are done and that you are tired of their bull-crap and you can't take it anymore. I'm sorry you're going through what you're going through. But just WALK OUT on them, DO NOT STAY IN THAT HOUSE WITH THEM ANY LONGER! If you don't have anyone out there to help you go to a shelter. It's better then dealing with the all the pain and misery that your parents put on you.
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Take what only is yours and what you baught. If they baught something for you throw in their face and say you don't want it. Just take what you need and that is yours and get out
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It's not your fault your parents are like this.You're not doing anything wrong.The way I see it there are 2 ways to answer this.1:Go to therapy and bring your parents.Hopefully they can help you.2:Move out.If 1 doesn't work out than this is the best way to go.There's no shame in moving out if you're 26.I recommend asking your brother(s) if you can move in with him and try to get a job to get money for college(if you haven't gone to college yet) good luck and please try to fix this problem.

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I know, its not right at all, I have gone to therapy when I was 18 and they told me I need to move out bc it will get worse as I get older, and when my parents come home they don't say anything to me at all, honestly some times it makes me cry and so I just cry to sleep, and I am already in college im using financial aid to pay for my school, and last night my mother sent me a message last night saying well since I am not home that im gonna fail and not be a successful person and just be a loser for the rest of my life and I needed to pick a diff future bc I wasn't gonna make it.
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So I have gone to therapy before..
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Texas...that is abuse, you are right!! That's terrible. Do you have a way to be able to move out and live with someone until you finish school?
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LOLOves- I know it is, and it has been going on for many years like my whole life, and I haven't had good relationship because of it and now my gf I have been with for 4 months now that I met at school, she is saying well I don't like how they treat you and etc its wrong and I need to move out, but my parents said if u don't like it here then u can leave, and dk how your gonna pay your bills bc itll all get taken from you and youll end up in jail bc you cant pay your student loans n etc.
I got a option to move to California to live with my family.
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Since you are 26 yr old and you know better, I'd take a stand!! Tell them, you will not accept abusve talk to you anymore. Tell them, if they have anything to say to you, it should be words of encouragement, not words to belittlement or put downs. tell them, although, you respect them as your parents, you won't put up with it anymore because it's not okay!!!
When, I was college age, if my mom tried yelling at me for something really little. I'd say, "I'm not listening until you can come talk with me as an adult." And...I lived at home until I got married. (just before my 26th bday) After that, I realized I had much more peace in my life and I had no desire to live with my parents again. You may experience this after you can finally move out.

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Well I hope so but I need to get out of here before something REALLY bad happens..
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I just don't know where to begin I mean I just got a text saying hey are you going to school today or are you going to just give up on education???
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I say those things I do those thing and I get told if you don't like it here then move out here ill pack your bags... they only give me a handful of clothes to live off of..
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They tell me that if I take anything from them that they will report me to the cops for saying I stole it.
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Well, do your brothers live close by? Can u live with them ? Do u have any source of income at all or just school? U can also find just a "room" to rent if u have a small income.
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You definitely need some words of encouragement right now. Can u talk with the college counselor?
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They do but they have familys of there own and right now I do not once I get my phlebotomy license next week I will get a job w that while I'm still in school and just work n go school. I dont know what a college counselor can do for me that I have not already tried doing myself.
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Just go. Why would you still be there? Abandon them and make yourself happy.

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You got a point but I'm trying to leave but the thing is if i just leave w no money no were to go ill have proven to them nothing
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Move

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I can't just move at this givin moment
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Yes you can, you just don't want too, because its hard.
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