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We were each other's first love years ago we moved on with their lives six months ago we reunited she got a divorce now we are together

my question is now that we live together how long should we both wait before I ask her to marry me and present a ring neither one of us have children I am 40 she is 36

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It depends on when you personally feel you are ready for a commitment. We can't tell you when you are ready. The general waiting period though is one year to three years.

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When you feel that you both are ready to commit. Some people take 3 months, some 15 years, before taking that step. It just depends on your relationship.

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I would say since u were each other's first love and you've rekindled, plus ur both older now that u could propose by the one year mark.. Especially if she just got divorced before u started up again. Just make it really romantic ;)

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Don't rush it until you find out what she has been doing all these years. What happened to the guy before her husband? Was she shacking-up with that guy when she met her future husband? Did she start seeing him before she broke-up with her boyfriend? You need to find out these things before to sure that she is of good character.
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Of course she is lovable so that is not the issue. What is her contribution to your household? What does she bring to the table that is tangible? Is she steadily employed or is she looking for a guy to do everything for her?
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It is very romantic and wonderful that you two cared for each other years earlier. If you are sure you will be together forever and ever, go for it. Life is short and getting shorter by the moment.
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If you are saying that she dumped her husband to be with you, it might be a good idea to wait and see if she does the same thing with you. Not that she would but often people repeat the same pattern over and over again.
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Hopefully this is true love and she and her ex were already in the process of a divorce before you entered the picture. If not ...
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Buyer Beware:
If someone waits until they have the next person lined-up before they let go of who they are currently with, that is a HUGE RED FLAG! Watch out.

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Hmm, you two are living together because she didnt had a place to stay (or couldnt find one) or because you two decided to live together? Because, sometimes, when people live together before marriage, they get comfortable in that zone and then dont wanna get married. But Idk, I guess just wait for the relationship to grow deeper.

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When you feel that you're both ready. Good luck.

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