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What do i say to my friend?

My friend called me again, and i am at a loss for words as to how i can help her, its family issues, and i really dont know what to say people dont change unless they really want to, and there isnt much i can do about her family, but when she calls i feel i should be helping more than i am. Some people in her family stole from her, and are rude, and i just dont know what i can say or do to help all i can do is just listen when she talks?

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Let your friend know that she can count on you to be there to talk to. It's a difficult lesson but she can see how she should not behave towards other people.... sometimes being exposed to bad behavior is a way to help oneself grow and mature...you are right...she can't change her family but she CAN change the behavior pattern shes being taught is acceptable...she knows it isn't and hopefully will understand that she has the power to be a bigger and better person! She's in but one chapter of her "book of life"...tell her to smile!

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Try saying "I really want to help you but I don't know how, I'm sorry about your family issues." Dont worry she will respect your honesty

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Listening is sometimes all someone needs for you to do for them.

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So true. ;)
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It's helped me. :/
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Exactly. A good friend is one that takes time to be a good listener. If nothing else it helps her vent.

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Yep just listen cause you are her friend and her shoulder and when you need her to do the same for you she'll be there for you. Cause that is what friends do.

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Be honest but tell her that you are always here for you and that just because you cant really help doesn't mean you cant listen to her

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