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Anybody know how to stop loving somebody?

Me and my boyfriend of a year and 4 months broke up a week ago. I am head over heels in love with that boy and have done all i can to save our relationship.. obviously didn't work out too well so now i am stuck here thinking about him all day long and would really like to know if anybody has any ideas how to just forget about him? thanks (:

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I just broke up with a man that I was with for six years. I'm not gonna lie and I wanna tell u, it is the hardest thing that I've ever done in my life... It's hard to move on but keep busy with family and friends and try to avoid where he usually goes and if u have a Facebook, cancel it for now stay away as much as possible and you'll wake up one day feeling better and thinking less and less about him. It's kinda working for me. I'm sorry for how u feel I totally know the feeling. Hope this helps

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Thank you.. and sorry to hear /:
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Ur Welcome :)
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Some of my lady friends have said that the best way to get over a man, is to get under one, but I can't say how well that really works, lol. My advice would be to just get out and socialize, you will attract people and eventually find another fella who will hopefully be better for ya, good luck!

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To stop loving him you have to tell him that it's over. You should also keep away from all the things that remind you of him. You should also stop mentioning his name. http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Loving-Someone has more ideas.

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i already told him its over.. and when somebody was your whole life for well over a year, anything reminds you of that person.. as for saying his name.. he has the most common name in America. lol soo that wont work either.. thanks though.
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Shake it off.

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Yeah i'll get right on that...
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Shake it off... Have you ever been in love before? This isn't a sprained ankle or a little burn. Missing that thumbs down button now.
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Go have a girls night out. Go do something that takes your mind of of things. Meet someone else. I'm sorry, i have not been in a true relationship that has lasted long because everyone has their problems. Wether its a lot of little ones or a few big ones. I have decided to wait and graduate, and get a job that i will be with. Basicly settle down b4 i get a date... But the best way to cope is hang out with your friends more than alone b/c alone time you think about other things and you end up thinking about him. Hope this helps

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Thanks(: and i am with friends every second of the day.. aha but at night when i am alone it's terrible...
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Yes the dreaded night time. Well, there is one way you might be able to fix that. Make sure you have a T.V. in your bedroom and watch it untill you pass-out. It might not be good but it might get your thoughts off him. Try it once and see how it works out.
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yeah.. that's why i am on the computer tonight.. when i sleep, i dream of him.. aha sooo whether i am awake or sleeping, can't seem to shake him. lol
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I believe that when you dream about somebody, it is b/c they fall asleep thinking about you. I am not one to decide for you but i think there might be a connection still between you. But what i believe is not proven scientifically, it is Spiritual. (But i am Christian i dont mean the certain religions that believe in this spirit and that spirit i mean like our souls)
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no its cool. i know what ya mean (: but honestly.. i can't be with him anymore.. he got real abusive and even if he was on his knees begging.. i couldn't.. he treats me bad /:
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I really dont want to get all personal, but when you said abusive, something struck me. Could you (and i find it ok and normal if you dont want to) explain it? (no i am not a cop) And do you believe in the Dream thing i said?
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lol i dont care if you were a cop. i already told my parents.. they didn't care.. just verbally abusive and dont really want to go into detail about anything else... but i dont believe in it actually.. cuz sometimes i have random dreams about people from school and i know that i am the last thing on their mind. lol
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K well i hope you can find someone and i said im not a cop b/c sometimes when people ask a question like that people think they need to shut up b/c they are a cop. And i did go to your profile and i hope one of those questions didnt mean you. Id hate for that to happen to someone. But i hope the best and hopefully you can find a good person to be with and get the other off your mind. I will be online for a while longer. So if you still want to have this convo (which has gone pretty long than usual i will be on for a little while
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well thank you for the concern.. just pray for me please..
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I will
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It's not going to be easy. But when it happened to me, I was a long haul truck driver, a couple thousand miles away from home, stuck in a blizzard. That was a little over a year ago. But with time, it does gets a little easier. I had to pull myself together on my own; for the sake of the motoring public. I had to just lose her number, stop reminding myself of those good times by removing those key items that triggered those memories. And avoided visiting the special places that we went to. Most importantly, I gathered up strength and guidance from my older friends. Heartbreak is nothing new to me. But how do you deal when it happens so far from home? It has really helped me grow up and taught me to be more resilient. But time and your best friends are going to be your greatest assets for the long and lonely nights ahead of you. Yes, I still think about her every now and then. But I always try to look to a brighter future with an even better woman in it. Best thing is that an even better man does come along. But when you're good and ready. I think I'm finally ready to move on myself. And I feel hopeful. Finally. Lol

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It must have been horrible being so far away. You sound like you're doing a lot better--and being hopeful is the most important part of all.
I wish you all the best - someone as nice as you will have no problem finding the right person to love!
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Thank you. I appreciate that. But somehow, it is. The women around here at something else. Which is still fine because they help me narrow down my search.
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Quick update. Shortly after posting that message a couple days ago, a very nice girl send me a message at the online dating site that I'm in. I've got a real good feeling about this one! Thank you for your kind words!
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Date around and enjoy your new freedom. Don't jump into any new relationship or you'll just get hurt again. Rebounds don't work. Just date. I can't stress that enough, just go on DATES. No BF/GF stuff, no sex, just go on a date with this guy and a date with that guy, stay single and have fun. This is how you find the right guy. We have 50% divorce rate because people just grab onto the first person that comes along without checking out their other options. Our grandparents' generation didn't have such a high divorce rate because they used to date around until they found a good match. We need to bring back that system and stop latching onto the first person we meet. When I was single I had so much fun dating around but that's how I found the Beautiful Mrs. 737! :-)

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it is one of the hardest things someone can go through because you are fighting against what you feel. But honestly there will be feelings there until YOU male a change. Dont go and check his social sites, or where you might run into him. Go out, enjoy yourself, distract yourself too, and it wont be long until the feelings go away

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dont think about

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I'm so sorry, I've had a few heartbreaks and the best advice I can give is to walk through the pain. Don't try to mask it or be " positive" which usually means stuffing feelings. Cry when you need to, laugh when you can and above all avoid the pitfall of being friends. You can do that when there are no more leftover feelings. It's part of life, it will make you stronger in the end.

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Thanks.. helps alot.. (:
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Very comforting answer, bellydncer!
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lil miss-sunshine, is this new guy anew one? Or is he your same Filipino BF before?
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he is my same filipino bf from before..
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