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am I over obsessive and controlling?

I have very bad jealousy issues, and my boyfriend is a flirt. I try to keep it to myself but my boyfriend sees right through my act. he has a lot of female friends and I know he's a huge flirt. recently he saw how upset I would get over these female friends of his so he cut contact with all of the females. I feel very bad about this and feel over obsessive and controlling. no matter what I say he still won't talk to his old female friends. am I controlling? could this have been handled differently?

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Who wouldn't get jealous with their boyfriend/girlfriend talking to other guys/girls? But, maybe he saw the mistake he did. Taking to other girls and not talking to you all the time, he must have realized his mistake and began to pay more attention to you.

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What's wrong with speaking to someone of the other sex? It's half the population that you'd be forbidding your bf/gf from speaking to. Not very practical.
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Jealousy like that will run anyone away. Think about what is more important. Your relationship or your insecurities.....

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Sounds like it was his choice. I mean you didn't tell him to do anything. Maybe he went to far, that's on him though.

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There's a difference between being jealous and being controlling. If you're not commanding him to do these things, you're not being controlling.

Now, there's a difference between being a flirt and having lots of female friends. A guy can have female friends without being a flirt. Also remember that if he doesn't have the commitment to you emotionally, it won't matter WHO he talks to. But the fact that he's willing to put you first should give you confidence. You trust him, right? Then you'll have to learn to allow him to be trusted.

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Your boyfriend obviously does NOT take relationship seriously if he's flirting with other people.?(????)? how old are you? b/c if you/re like 14 then its not like you guys are gonna get married. (?_?)
Maybe you should talk to him. (°?°)?

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I am 24 and he is 25
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Tell him if he thinks he won't be cheating on you let him go ahead

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It was his choice, but yes, you were a part of it. Time heals all wounds, just go to couples counseling and get any jealousy issue worked out. :) Good luck!

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No you aren't its his decision for you you didn't tell him to do anything.

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Yes and yes but you know that already.

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You don't have to actually say, "Don't talk to other females" to be controlling. Your reactions to him talking to other females are enough to make him know what you want him to do. I personally think it's all mind games and childish. If you feel you can't trust him or be ok with him having female friends, break up with him. It's not right or fair for him to have to give up his friends simply to please you. Of course I'd say the same thing to him if he was asking all this.

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