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Okay, so im 15 years old and im pregnant...

My partner don't want to be with me so he's moving back to his home town, because he don't want to be a father he's only 16.. I'm thinking about abortion.... Should I or shouldn't I..? Please help..

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Visit a Planned Parenthood office and discuss your options.

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No, you shouldn't. And the father shouldn't leave either. You should both be responsible adults and take the consequences of your actions.

Sure, you both are still children and should enjoy the rest of your childhood. But you both made a decision to have s3x. You have to realize that even if you get an abortion, it doesn't mean you didn't get pregnant, or you didn't have a child.

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No confusion on this one! Lol not a laughing matter, but funny cause of our last question together.
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Are you ready to have a child? No one else can make a decision this important to you.

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But abortion is not the answer
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An abortion is the girl's choice; Not mine, not yours. Not even the father decides, especially a father as immature as this one appears to be.
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Have you ever had an abortion? Would you have an abortion? Do you know what life is like after an abortion? Its a miscarriage that is not intentional and the person feels horrible. How much more an abortion? Why waste money on something you will regret?
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I would not choose to have an abortion if I knew I could give a child a good home, but sometimes abortion is the only reasonable option for the mother. Do you understand how traumatizing, both physically and emotionally, giving birth would be for girl of this age, especially if the baby isn't even wanted? And how do you know that the person would feel that way after an abortion? As I mentioned before, you can only speak for yourself.
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Do you know how traumatizing it is for a girl to have an abortion? I know cause I pay attention. I ve known of people who ve had abortions. They all say they were told the same. One moment and life will be same as always... but its not true. And they suffer when they see children, and every time they think about it. Besides, many techniques used for abortion are dangerous. And like I said before, the guilt always accompanies.
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You shouldn't, you made a mistake, and although that child has no consciousness at this point, it deserves a chance to live. Now you will always get people from different sides of the spectrum arguing you. Think of it this way, although the child isn't conscious of what happens at this point, does it deserve to die because YOU can't say no to a guy? You weren't ready to have "relations" yet, but that doesn't mean your unborn child has to suffer.

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No you shouldn't kill your baby. There are a lot of people that can't have kids and would love to adopt. If you don't think you can take care of it then put it up for adoption

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No. No abortion. Tell his little coward ass to take responsibility! File child support! If he was "man enough" to get you pregnant, he should be man enough to take responsibility for his actions!

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How is your family life? Do u have a good support system? If not I would abort or consider putting up for adoption if u think u can handle that!

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Abortion is not the answer.
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You shouldn't abort,Not trying to be mean but it was you and your partners fault you didn't protect yourself so you have to take the consequences for that mistake, do your parents know that your pregnant,I just don't believe in taking a little life like that, it was your mistake so you really should come to terms with the consequences for doing what you did,Your child doesn't deserve to die over YOUR mistake,Good luck

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I'm all for prochoice but If you think that neither you nor the father are ready to be parents. Then you need to have the child and put him/her up for adoption. Getting an abortion is just going to keep a child from having a wonderful life with a loving family. I think you should go through with this pregnancy and definitely consider adoption.

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If I were you, 15 and pregnant. I would definitely consider an abortion. Talk it over with your parents. No matter what, this 16 year old kid isn't going to be around to be a father so just forget about him at this point. He's useless. Don't even factor him in your decision. It's your family and you that will be taking care of this baby if you do have it. It's your decision, but consider all options.

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my mother is the one that put adoption in my head I want to have the baby....
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if you want to have this baby then do so.
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At 15, regardless of what we say, this HAS to involve your parents. Talk to them and make a decision with them.

If you decide to keep the baby, regardless of whether the father wants to *be* a father, he has an equal share of the responsibility in the raising of that child. He can contribute by participating, or he can contribute when you file for child support. No one gets to run out on the baby they helped make. If you guys were old enough to have sex, you must be old enough to raise a child.

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LOL ;) it's a good thing to agree on.
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I want to have it, my mother is the one that wants me to have a adoption im against it...
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Your mother doesn't have that right. She just knows that most of the responsibility would be on her cause you cannot support yourself.
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Actually, depending on state laws the mother does have the right to make that decision. But she could argue against the mom, in court. Usually once a kid is 16 they have the right to make that choice.

Hon, do you know what is going to happen if you decide to keep this child and raise it on your own? I'm not encouraging or discouraging you, but I'm checking that you actually understand the rough road you're in for.
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I got a girl pregnant at 15, had my first daughter when I was 16. Been working every since. Currently back in school at 34 years old. Still with woman and have 3 kids now all together. It's a rough road young lady. Like I told you before, giving up would be the most selfless act you probably do in your life time. I can't imagine having a life inside of me, or as a father, then giving it up. I just think that these are your two options. If you keep the baby, you have to finish school and right after highschool go to college. It's not impossible, just really hard. What plan do you have? Support system? I'm sorry quester if i'm stepping on toe.
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Giving the baby for adoption would be the most selfless thing you would most likely do in your life.
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Nah you're fine BD :)
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Baby that is totally YOUR decision -dont be ashamed of yourself -do what you think is right for you- just make sure to prevent this from happening again-DO meet with planned parenthood to get help- I think that they will help you with birth control for the future without parental consent if you can't talk to your parents. I got pregnant at 16

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Why kill a baby because YOU decided not to use protection? If you feel like you can't give the baby a good life give it to a couple/person who wants a baby but can't conceive one. You can even do an open adoption so you can still see the baby.

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I am on birth control and he wore a condom.? the condom broke. but thanks.
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Well then I say this baby is meant to be. If you don't want a baby don't have sex! It's really not that hard to stay away from it.
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I was adopted and have had a wonderful life. I couldn't have had a better Dad if I choose him myself The good thing is he choose me. I am so glad I wasn't adopted and will adopt your baby I don't care what race it is or sex.

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Easy for you to say you would adopt the baby on ask however I think you might change your mind if the occasion actually arose!
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Talk with your parents first and your doctor to decide what's best for you and your situation. In my opinion, if you feel you can't give this baby the life he or she deserves, then consider adoption. There are people out there who would love to have a family, yet can't have children. You can be the one to help them and your baby in the long run.

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If you think murder is okay, then yes. You know there are lots of people who want to adopt.Give the kid a chance, I know people who adopt. Would be the most selfless act you can do. Also, should have thought about this before you started relations. It's called responsibility, being grown. Talk to women who have had abortions. They regret it, most of them anyways. It is not a form of birth control. Life is in you right now, you hold a babies life or death in your hands. Do the right thing, not for you, but for the baby. Can I ask, if it's a boy or girl have you thought of names?

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Have your parents call an adoption agency.

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I know, right? 15! Sheesh!
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That is a very personal decision and one that only you can make; do research on abortion and adoption and speak to your parents or a counselor to help you with this matter.

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I'm pretty supportive of the choice to abortion if it has a legitimate reason such as rape. From the sounds of this description, you were both consenting. Did your protection used for intercourse fail, or did either of you not provide any before engaging in sex? Abortion is a decision that may impact you for a lifetime. Please consider your options carefully.

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I was on birth control and I missed one day, and he wore protection but it broke.
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Sure in this world murder is OK as long as its called a fetus......
But remember that this precious little gift has a heart, soul, and already has a bond with his/her mommy.....
Who cares about the loser who impregnated you. He will regret it someday......
If home life is horrible or you have no support group then there are many families who wold give anything for the precious gift you have been given.......
Please don't murder your child.....

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Here's a tip:
Don't listen to anyone about abortion. That is YOUR choice .
You have to think of your own opinion about it and just because other people don't like it doesn't mean that should influence your opinion...
The others are getting their personal feelings get in the way. You need to think about how it affects your life and what you want.

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Aborting the baby should never be an option. It's legalized murder. A person is a person, even he/she isn't born yet. They're living things. Things that are made to be loved and grow up to be successful. At least give the baby to an orphanage. Or you and your parents can help take care of him/her. Listen here: don't have sex until you're married. 1): It's dangerous to your health. 2): You risk the possibility of losing your boyfriend (if that's who he was) because he's too careless to want to take care of the baby. 3): It's against God's law to have sex before marriage. You don't have to go with the third reason if you don't want to, but the other two are obvious and should be acknowledged.

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I'm a pro, but for the right reasons. I would look at your options, because your baby shouldn't pay for your mistakes.

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You need to take responsibility on your actions. Abortion would be killing the baby. As in murdering innocent life. If you don't want to keep it put it up for adoption!

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go to a clinic like planned parenthood and talk to them. good luck

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Talk to an adult that you trust about your options and/or go to a clinic.

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Think you should have your baby they are a blessing in Disguise.
If for Financial reasons find some one else to take care of the baby.

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NOBODY can answer this for you. Everybody here has an opinion but they don't know anything about you. Talk to your parents if you can, a counselor, Planned Parenthood clinic and do what is right for YOU. Labels and lectures from people on a computer screen should have no influence on your decision.

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The life of the baby inside of you began for a reason

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I'm completely pro choice. Don't listen to anyone. It's your choice to make. Do you want to bring a baby into this world that would just have a miserable life in foster care or one with a not ready mother?

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No you shouldn't, it's not the baby's fault and at least think about other options. I agree the father should take responsibility. You could also think about adoption. You could have an open or unopen adoption. It would better than making the baby suffer.

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This is your decision to weigh the rest of your life on. No matter what people say to you morally speaking, they do not walk in your shoes and will not be there to help you either way. You and only you are old enough to understand the magnitude of the behavior and consequences of your actions and it's up to you to now make decisions in your best interest and that of the baby. Millions of people cannot have children and would love to be parents, you could opt to do something wonderful for a deserving person and give your baby a better life if you agree it would be, through adoption vs what you can provide. they have open adoption where you could follow your child's progress. You could opt to have abortion, it would make one problem go away but it could also haunt you for the rest of your life and change who you are. Decide carefully and with education. Be sure there are no regrets and support yourself in whatever decision you make 100%. I was the mother of a 14 year old in your situation. It was not easy. The results of her decision are still very much in her mind almost 30 years later. it changed her life

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Adopt the baby you are definitly NOT ready to have a baby. No offense but your not ready. And what the heck were you thinking!! Have you not had THE TALK!?! Just kids these days. When you have this baby, your childhood is cut short. Some even have to drop out of school.They lose their friends. They watch others grow up, go on to college, be wild, and have a happy childhood. Remeber if you keep this baby you will be giving up EVERYTHING. This baby needs a good home and right now you can't give it that! Adopt it to a stable family who will give this baby the life it deserves. Find a family now so it can be there with you watching the baby grow and what not but good luck!

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You should raise the baby, it's a sin to abort and technically you're responsible of the baby now

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Let me ask you something. Are you ready to have a baby by yourself? A friend of mine had a baby when she was 14 and although she loves jack she wasn't ready. Don't listen to the religious stuff. This is your choice but i'd have an abortion

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Having an abortion is the worst thing you could ever do it isn't that baby's fault that you kids went out and had sex you and that boy should step up and be parents trust me I had to have a medical abortion because I found out my third child which was a girl had a birth defect and didn't have a brain or skull and it was better to abort her because I have other kids and I wouldn't be able to handle losing her because she was going to die no matter what... Don't listen to stupid people that are telling you to have an abortion it's wrong in so many ways unless there is a medical reason... Like life or death situation I had a big chance of also passing away which is another reason I did what I did and I feel bad every day and I think about my daughter every day what a beautiful angel she is... DO NOT GET AN ABORTION. Step up and be a mom or give the baby up for adoption there's people out there that want a baby and can't have one

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Talk to a trusted friend about it, a good mature friend can help you to think clearly ( Proverbs 17:17) . Make sure whoever you talk to is mature and shows that they can think clearly and think about the long lasting effects of your decision. Have you talked to your parents?Ultimately you will have to make and live with which decision you make( Galatians 6:5). You do not want to do anything that will leave you with a bad conscience or that will have a negative effect on your relationship with God . This is a very serious situation and I would pray deeply and frequently.

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If you feel you can't support the child put it for an abortion but please think about how you can help keep the child

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have an abortion to be safe :) don't know why you let him inside you and made you pregnant not trying to be rude

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Just by the way you asked the question, tells me you do not want an abortion. Then it becomes a matter of emotional support while you are pregnant and having help with the baby after it is born.

You are not alone and if your family and the father of the child are not being supportive, there are other options. I like "Birth Mothers" because when you call them, they will assign you a birth mother who will talk to you and help you decide what you want to do.

Your Birth Mother will be with you every step of the way, through the pregnancy and beyond. To get the support you need, call 1-800-848-LOVE (5683). They care and they can help. Take care and god bless you and your baby.
Sincerely, Mamatembo

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i am not sure hun,that is a very young age.Just wait...

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whoops forgot to complete the message! Just wait about how you feel about being a parent.I am sure YOUR parents would help ya out :)
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abortion will not help you. the guilt and so called "karma" will carry as you grow old. it's a SIN because you will kill a life.

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God stated that a person would be called to account for injuring an unborn child. (Exodus 21:22,23) give your heart to your parents. True, they will be hurt and angry at first. In the long run, though, they will likely moved to help out. Most women experience extreme guilt, sadness and regret. A woman who had an abortion 16 years ago, states "the older I get, the more often this memory haunts me....later when it finally hits your heart and conscience, you won't have to be facing the fact that you murdered your own child. You may not feel the guilt now; but you will someday. And it never goes away!"

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it`s your decision but you will be stopping a beating heart

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No one can make these decisions for you. I wouldn't consider putting these kind of things on this wed sit only because your never going to get your answer.. Everyone's a critic, and these people do not know you and how the situation could actually be on your end. This is about you and what you want for your life. You will not be a bad person, or a murderer, or go to hell if you decide you are just not ready to go through with it. And just be sure you know exactly what your plan is if you decide to keep it. a baby is expencive and a lot of work. Don't regret anything you've done or will do because this is about what you want, not the people above me.

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Talk about it with your parents. My mom would probably throw me down the stairs, beat me and then bring to the abortion place to make sure.... but honestly, if I were to have the choice, i'd opt for adoption because there are so many people who want a kid but can't have one, you wouldn't be killing the child, and you'd be able to see the child grow if you had an open adoption. I'm the same age as you and I honestly wouldn't be able to raise a kid now. You need to be honest with your parents though and do what you think is right. Screw your boyfriend, he played apart in this too and he should help clean up the mess too. I'm sorry you're in this situation. Hope this helps :)

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if I was in that situation I would only abort if I felt I could not look after the babies basic needs but on the other hand there is always adoption. theres countless couples that would love the opportunity to raise a child because but they are unable to fall pregnant themselves.

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ok. Um,,,,do not abort the baby, You are killing a precious thing...life. and if you do, you will have to live with the guilt of killing something that never did anything to you. If you are scared of having the baby, well, there are thing they can do for pain, but give the baby up for adoption. give the baby a chance to have a life. and that guy that got you pregnant, well, forget him, if he cant be with you and support you in a time like this, than he isnt a loyal enough person to be with...

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DO NOT DO ABORTION! Your killing a new life i mean i know that your only 15 and its hard but trust me DONT DO IT! it will actually be a good experience for you to have a baby and learn how to take care of it, You can find a babysister or even your parents to help you why'll doing school and other things..... but please do not do abortion !

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no because you are killing gods child

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Why did you do it if you didn't know how he'd respond to the situation?

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You should do what ever you think is right, but make sure you won't regret it after. Do the right thing for you, only you should decide, not people on the internet. Good luck!

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ok, so personally, I wouldn't be asking ask.com for answers to such a big decision. Probably don't have an abortion because a baby is a special thing and you may regret an abortion all your life.

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If you were my daughter, I would say do not. I would give you most reasonable support and keep reminding you not to make the same mistake until you are mature enough to know it isn't a mistake.

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Its up to you are u ready for a child or not that is your decision

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I am in a similar situation besides the fact im 14 and my boyfriend doesn't know. I'm not sure if I'm actually pregnant or not.

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honestly, whether you planned to get pregnant or not, the life of that child inside of you is an important thing. its life is not yours to decide whether or not it lives to see it first day or not. if you dont think you are ready or financially stable enough to keep the baby, adoption.

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Dont abort. It has a deep emotional damage. You will always remember what you did, and you will always carry that guilt. Even if right now you think you wont. Every time you see other kids, you will remember... dont do it... in any case, put up for adoption.

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no, you did the deed, live with the consequences :( know that sounds harsh but so many poor women out there don't even get to succeed in getting pregnant and you murdering a baby would prove how nasty the system has gotten. adoption or being a parent is the choice you have to make... abortion will ruin you at this age... and think of that amazing miracle growing inside you! it is that! a miracle!!

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and p.s, y are all these kids getting pregnant or even having sex! your still a child! and having a child! babys making babies is wrong! rant over!!
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and p.s, y are all these kids getting pregnant or even having s3x! your still a child! and having a child! babys making babies is wrong! rant over!!
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Don't kill the poor baby because you can't handle it.. Please... I have a 4 month old, & looking at her, makes my heart break for children who were killed by their parents, when all they have to do, it give them up for adoption. Have the baby, at least give it a chance at life, & let someone else have it. My sister n law, can't have babies, and people like her would love to take in your baby as their own. That baby deserves life. You don't have to make it your responsibility, just give it away.

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It's your body and your life, do what you think is best.
Discuss your options with planned parenthood.

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