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How to tell my mom that I have been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years? (im 19).

So, I'm 19 and I've been dating my boyfriend for over 4 years. My parents are super strict, they believe that at my age I should be focused on school (im in college) and dating should be done afterwards. It means a lot to my boyfriend that I tell them, and quite frankly, I am so tired of having to lie to them all the time. I am so scared to tell them, I was planning on telling my mom only though. She is such a negative person, how should I break it to her that I have a boyfriend? And should I tell her that I've been dating him all this time, or should I pretend that we just started dating? She knows that we've been "just friends." She knows who he is, she met him before.

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I am a Mom. It's way past Time to tell her. The sooner the better. come clean tell her everything. truth is Mom I have a boyfriend and we have been together for four years. she could even be glad to know you aren't gay and are with only one guy that long. nowadays its really scary to think of daughters dating? Even your boyfriend wants to stop lying. She will react cause she loves you. Be prepared for her to react. As a Mom it's really hard sometimes even impossible to not cry, yell and react. It would be a good idea to apologize for keeping it a secret for so long. She might already know. Give her time to think, often it's hard to accept the fact our babies are growing up and it hurts to let go. regardless of anything do really well in school! it truly is your future and possibly will help you take care of him and maybe even kids in years to come! All my best to everyone;)

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Glad to know your not gay are you kidding me do people still think that being gay is a bad thing shame on you are you say your a mother ? What message are you teaching your children that gay people are less than ? Shame shame shame on you
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No shame,being gay means no grand children. It's an instinctive want for reproduction.
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Its complicated because I want to urge you to just throw it in her face along with all the dirty details for oppressing you like this but I don't want you to lose any privileges for it. I want you to tell her you've been having sex for 4 years. Then tell her with who.

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Bottom line? Don't fool yourself. Either one or both of your parents already know. They were young once too. I'm willing to wager that if your grades are decent and you're not getting in any trouble they're choosing not to say anything. t

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Hey mom that's not the garbage man that's my boyfriend. How that? Good way. Hey he got job. Love ya.

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Your mom already knows trust me. You are an adult now. Just truthfully and calmly and tell her lovingly. Good luck. AND DON'T SCREW UP BY MESSING UP IN SCHOOL NOW. Continue to show her what a fine young woman you are.

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When you tell her that you are pregnant.

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Just don't start with " Mom- U have a three year old grandson" .

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Your considered an adult now if that helps. But it also means they can kick u out

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