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How to be the girlfriend he wouldn't want to leave?

okay so, I feel like after being with my boyfriend for 5 months that I am being a little obsessive and insecure about the relationship. I'm good to him and do nothing wrong and respect him and his feelings and he doesn't do the same for me in some situations and I feel like that's what makes me seem "crazy" with him. I call and text him a lot and want to see him all the time and he does not do those things for me and it seems like he's not very interested in me and I don't know if I'm pushing him away but I would like some advice on what I can do to be better?

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Gee.... you need to give him some space..... you're probably already pushing him away...and it is evident by the what you said.... he doesn't need to be with you 24/7. nor do you need to text him 24/7. If he left you... I wouldn't blame him a bit.

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lay down and just hug him, on a cold day, warmth, dont let go... evermore

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If you don't feel like its working out then you should break up!....obviously your not happy....but you can try and tell him how you feel!he probably has no idea how you feel hon! ^.^

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i would take a step back for a bit.. wait for him to text you first, or call you first.. i know its hard to step back like that if you really like someone but i think if you guys are truly for eachother he will try and reach you and like contact you and not let you slip out of his hands

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Text him a long paragraph on how you feel. You seem very detailed on your feelings so text your heart out to him. If he says "K" or "Alright" or some sort of crap like that. Hes not worth your time. Your giving him the love and affection so its not fair hes not doing that to you. Your not pushing him away...thats just how he is.

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It sounds paradoxical but you need to have your own life and that will make you more interesting. Acting crazy doesn't do anything but chase him away.

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I think you should give him some space because you're constantly texting him and stuff so it gets a little annoying.

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what he likes you should like that should kick him in the butt and he will fall for you

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Aww sweetheart, you need to let back just a tad bit and give him some space. You don't want to over crowd him and push him too far. I know you really like or love him but you need to let him have his alone time and respect his space too.

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Why is everyone criticizing you for being clingy? Lol I would love that. Maybe he needs some space.

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exactly my point
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Jus give him a little space not too much but enough were you can still let him know you love him and respect his personal space, honestly i dont understand why what your doing bother him if I find a girl like you Im keeping her!

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Hun the more freedom you give him the more he will miss you you need space and so does he you need to focus on you and your career and getting to a better place if your planning or wanting a future with him and he needs space to miss you more and you should let him hang with friends and family hes has a life beyond you and so do you enjoy your relationship allow space to both grow as individuals but work together into growing into more of a healthier relationship and a sucessful one at that =)

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Look, maybe you should just give him a little space. Maybe he's getting annoyed by you for constantly wanting to be with him so he's probably just trying to ease it down. Dont think he's had enough of you or dont think negative. You might want to tell him how you feel about this and talk it out with him. He might be having issues with his family or with someone so he might feel down and won't have time to spend with you. If he isn't spending much time with you, (if you're really desperare) you can sit down with him and create a timetable of when to meet, call, text or vid cam. You can meet up with him once a week or twice a week making sure you aren't stopping him from the things he wants to do just to meet up with you. You can make him happy he has you by buying him a little present (not expencive) and giving it to him when you next meet, you can tell him how much he means to you and that you always smile when he comes to you mind. Overall, don't sress too much about it because i doubt he'll just lose interest in you out of nowhere, maybe he's just sad about maybe losing someone. Good luck, I hope everything turn out well.

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You should stop texting him or calling him, and wait until he texts you. And if he don't then maybe he just wants some space...

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listen i get where your coming from fr wanting to be with him constantly and i know how it is im a guy i wanted to spend as much time with my gf as possible but you just need to be brave and ask the question do you still want to be with me as much as the day we got together and if you get a bad answer im sorry

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Well some guys don't like to be clung to, it's the same with girls. Maybe you could talk to him and work it out so you're not as clingy and he's not a distant from you. Compromise.

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You and he have different ideas of what a relationship should be like. You think the two people should pay each other a lot of attention and be together as much as possible. HE, on the other hand, thinks a relationship is looser, only pay attention to each other some of the time, only being together some of the time. I'm not saying which of you is right; there actually is no right or wrong. But neither of you is going to change and I fear your relationship isn't going to work, not well enough to make both of you happy. YOU will always feel neglected, and HE will always feel crowded. Once you realize this, it will be easier to let go of this relationship and find a boy who wants the same kind of relationship YOU want.

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Do your own thing. Join a gym, go back to school, cooking classes, read a book, figure out how to improve yourself, instead of making him a GOD. Do you own thing...it is a must!

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