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How can I be less shy? I hate it!

I hate being shy, I don't talk a lot, I have my weird days where i'm really happy but, it lasts only 1st period. I want friends! I'm tired of not having very many! :( Help me please and thank you!

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A lot of us are shy to a certain extent. Best advice I can give you is to be more confident in yourself and take it one day at a time. Each day, try to meet a new person and get to know them and the shyness will wear off as you get to be friends. My lady is very shy and I've been working hard with her to help her out. You just have to have that confidence that you can do this ! Think positive and try to talk to a few new people as you can. You'll probably be surprised at how many of them are shy too. You'll learn to be a little more outgoing as time goes on. Be determined that you can do this. I know you can ! Be happy and enjoy life.

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Thank you! :)
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Anytime, Lizz . Any help we can be, don't be afraid to ask.
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I try to.
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You know you have friends here always willing to help ! :)
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Y'all are more help than you think you are!
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Glad to hear that ! Now, smile and have a great day !
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Haha, I'm very happy! :)
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Excellent ! :)
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Yes it is! Its all my baby's fault too. :p
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Hi, you two!
Glad you're happy, Lizz.
Nice answer, Bob.
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Thanks Craigsmom! :)
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My lovely lady!
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Awh <3
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Yw, Lizz. :)

My awesome man!! <3
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I'll go
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You'll go, Lizz?
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Yes, I didn't want to bother you
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Lizz ! You don't ever bother us !
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Y'all were being lovey so, I didn't want to bother
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We do that all the time. You sure weren't bothering us . :)
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Haha good
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You can be who you imagine you are. You can "put on" a personality that isn't "you" and play at it... and if you are playing, it can't really hurt you. However, if you play the role well, one day you will wake up and discover a new you that is more comfortable being assertive. You can be as shy as you want internally, but you can also pretend on the outside to be as outgoing as you want. Think of this as a "life movie" where you define the role you want to play, and do so.

I know this sounds crazy, but it works. Look around you and you will see a lot of the kids are trying on different skins to see how they like them.

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Every time you go through a checkout line, or buy anything, ask the person behind the counter how their day is going. It's a small act but a powerful one. Also, each time you go to a restaurant, challenge yourself to use your wait persons name at least once, "Thank you Josh." It gets easier each time you practice.

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im 16 i was shy to i didnt have a gf and i had no friends just because i was shy so my dad made me join a sport so as it came out i was really good at football i played WR and DN i made friends on the team because we had to talk about the plays and i wasnt as shy anymore now i have a gf an lots of friends my advice to you is to try a sport you will make lots of friends

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It also gets better the older you get, usually. I was a super shy kid all the way through college. So much that people often would think I was a B$@&? but I really wasnt I was just really really shy. Just try making eye contact with people as you pass them in the hall and smile at them. You will be surprised at how far a simple smile can get you. It will get better. :)

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