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What did you say when you left your parents house? Or what would you say if you haven't left yet?

My situation : Planning to leave friday bright and early...I'm of age but moms been keeping me home and treating me like I'm not even her kid bc she has me taking care of her 3 other kids by cleaning after them,cooking for them and watching them whenever she decides to make plans with her friends. I've been on lock down my whole life for no reason at all except to do everything for the family and I never got to do anything for myself.
I'm sick of being treated like I don't deserve better. I have a place set for me and they said I don't have to worry about anything and they can get me a job. It is at my boyfriend of three years place and yes we plan to be engaged soon but I don't want to until I get out of my house bc my mom will just try to control me the rest of my life.
I never even got to have a real job bc of her.
How do I tell her I'm leaving without her keeping me away from my other family? She tried to do that last time I left at 17.

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Just tell her you're an adult and you make your own decisions. Tell her you love her but you have to do what makes YOU happy. Good luck

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If she is as evil as you try to portray her, why say anything at all, just leave. Good luck with your teen marriage and your future, soon you will be cooking and cleaning for three kids of your own...and you still won't have a life.

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I'm not a teen anymore but thanks
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and she's not that evil anymore she just makes Me do all that work except for buy stuff bc she knows I don't have a job and the economy sucks and on top of that she won't let me get a library card to spend hours in the library to apply for any jobs so it's pointless sticking around.
I'm not trying to make her sound evil bc she does have her good days..That's just what she makes me do and I don't wanna end anything family relationship wise. & Im not having any kids anytime soon.He knows that and I won't let it happen
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You have a hard situation on your hands I wouldn't know I'm only 13 but I'll give you my best.Ask her if she is happy then ask her if she thinks your happy. Say that your not a baby nor is she and she need to let go or she will her daughter unhappy and she doesn't want that!

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I would suggest getting a job first because you don't want to end up back at your mother's house if your boyfriend can't or stops supporting you. And...I don't think you should make any decisions about leaving until you've given your mother enough time to make plans for your siblings that u seem to spend a lot of time with.

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She is your mother and though it may not seem so now, you will actually miss these days in years ahead when you look back. Be firm but loving and let her know what a great job she has done by raising you but it's time for you to start living your own adult life. Remember, she is your mother so be respectful and kind and hopefully all will go well.

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Thank You! That sounds right:)
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Good luck and please keep us posted on how it went.
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will do!:)
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Tell her you're tired of being her slave and if she tries to turn the family against you, tell them the truth.

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When she's around other family she puts on a happy mood and acts like everything is okay when theyre not around.
I use to get hit all the time when I was in high school for the stupidest things lime not taking out the trash when I cleaned the kitchen after dinner. I stool feel those bruises even though their no longer there. No other family member is going to believe my mom was abusing me except for my exstepdad ..he knows bc one day when I was in the 5th grade..he came home from work and I wore a sleeveless dress an he saw the gigantic bruise my mom left on my arm. She hit me with a belt using the metal part. I don't recall what it was
for bc I am a good person.
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still not stool
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I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. All I can say is RUN. Get as far away as you can. If the family doesn't believe you, then you don't need to be around them anyway. I know that's easier said than done, but you need to save yourself right now and worry about the others later. Good luck to you!
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Thank you! I wish people I knew would be more understanding like you all on here.
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