I have been in your shoes. I used to be so shy, when I was around people I didn't know well I felt so awful and self conscious and literally could not talk at all. I'm not sure how old you are, but as I got more comfortable and got older I completely grew out of my shyness. I still stutter a little sometimes but it isn't nearly as bad. I realized that as I was put in more situations where I was forced to be around/talk to new people, I got better at it. also, if you really don't think you'll be able to talk with someone comfortably, it helps so much to have a friend or someone you do feel comfortable with around so they can help you out and keep conversation going.
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Join Toastmasters. Look it up on the web and find a club near you. You can attend several times as a guest before deciding to join. It's a very effective way to get over your shyness. Plus read their tips on their web site.
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Just start talking. Be your self. That easy to become unshy. It doesn't matter how long you delay the talking or the moment, if she doesn't like you, she won't like you later when you say some magic words. and if she likes you, she'll like you still if you talk to her right away. Its not like you're at an interview when you start talking. However, # 1. if you find that you dont have anything to talk about, then the fact you have nothing to talk about, may be the real issue. # 2. if the only thing on your mind is pleasure from her, to the point nothing else comes to mind that you're so quite, since you can't help but to think of that around girls, then that may be the real issue it self. Yes, its possible to have both these things and not be shy at all.
just talk to them.The more people you talk to the easier it gets to talk. I used to be really shy but i had this one friend she just made me step out of my bubble now even when waiting in line i start to talk to people before i used to be afraid.
try explaining your self in front of a mirror that's the best way to overcome shyness and gain confidence .other than that just be your self because you are what you are and its better that way be the first one to start conversation and chat a lot with your friends don't care what other people will think or say about you. so put a smile on and approach people with confidence! you wont fail.:-)
i think the reason of being shy is not having confidence in your self try telling your self and more important believe in your self and all the rest just rolls out for you and for having confidence find good stuff about yourself that no one else does it would be a great help trust me!
Close your eyes breath and seek the truth listen to your favorite music and you will seek everything be alone and seek faith and that will help you and do this 5 times a day then it will help you trust me i was shy and i did this and it worked maybe you are just having a hard time and you need to relax just com down it helps
Develop conversational skills. Making conversation takes effort—especially if you’re shy. But you can do it. The key is to (1) listen, (2) ask questions, and (3) show genuine concern. “I try to be a listener rather than a talker. And when I talk, I try not to talk about myself or put others in a negative light.”—Serena, 18. “If a person wants to talk about something that I’m not familiar with, I’ll ask him to explain things, which will hopefully make him talk to me even more.”—Jared, 21. Perhaps you’re reserved by nature, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to turn into an extrovert! But if you feel that you don’t fit in with others, try out the suggestions in this article. You might come to feel the way Leah does. “I’m a shy person,” she says, “so I have to push myself to converse. But to make friends, you have to be friendly. So I’ve started talking.” More articles from the “Young People Ask” series can be found at the Web site www.watchtower.org/ype
count to twenty and in that twenty you do whatever the heck feels right now remember your the one counting so you can have that twenty last forever or just twenty seconds if you want and the only rule is you have to do it more than 5 times ex. find crush 1 go get wingman 2 remember not to be nervous and dont forget to breath 3.4.5. go to crush.6.7.8 remember what you were going to say 9. 10. 11. say what you were going to say. 184.108.40.206. get answer 16. 17. 18. accept answer 19. walk away before you explode in excite ment. (it's embarrasing if you do that in front of them trust me)
Believe in yourself and have confidence try the breathing technique, I'll give you some steps. 1: say good morning to a clasmate. 2: ask someone about there day at school 3: ask someone to be your friend. 4: repeat step 3 and if someone says no to be your friend then just say ok I understand but remember its mostly about selfconfidence
You may worry about how others will perceive what you say or do and retreat into yourself and just say nothing. Shyness can also cause you to feel that what you have to say is not as important or interesting as what others are saying so you don't share your personality with others. Remember that your own unique personality is one of the best things you can share with others. You don't have to turn into the most talkative person in the room but be COMFORTABLE enough with yourself to know that what you have to say is just as important as what others have to say. Listen to others and this will help you know what they like to talk about. Do not expect perfection out of yourself as no one is perfect. Be friendly,genuine, and honest and remember that everyone is special including YOU. Do not let the world miss out on what you can contribute to it by holding it all in. Moses was shy also ,yet he lead the Israelites out of slavery and stood up to a KING. You can do GREAT things with prayer, confidence, and love for yourself and others. Since you do not like feeling shy pray to Jehovah God about it as he wants you to be happy and have friends too.
Think more outward than inward. In other words, think more about the people around you and less about yourself. Then, start asking questions (not too personal, of course) to generate conversation (i.e., how their day is going; how was their weekend, what's their favorite restaurant; how their pet is doing, etc.) Something in their response will probably lead to something else you could discuss. Most people like to talk about themselves.
Well, it really depends on what you're shy about. Try to examine that because usually when you're shy, you're fearful of doing something wrong or just embarrassed about something. Another reason for being shy is that you really like someone. Try to figure out what's the cause and think critically or rationally about it so that you can overcome it.
Well first you should talk to male friends and ask them how do you act around them. If they say you are a really cool person and you don't seem shy towards them then look at other people that you do not know the same way
Well just start with the small talk. That small talk will then lead to a conversation. Just don't be shy to be yourself and go with your confidence in your conversations. I usually have the same problem too and the small talk really does work. Hopefully it does for you too :)
just put usually in your mind that no one is better ,, and try to invade some social activities ,, also try to look for more easy and more compatible friends ,, till you become more brave to deal with all of the different minds people ,,