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I am so confused...

I dont understand why this girl acted like she did. Things between us started out friendly but then started to go a little farther. We would call and text each other all day, from the time we got up until one of us went to bed. This went on for a couple weeks and then i asked her to go out to dinner and a hockey game with me, and we did that and we had fun (singing in the car together, talking the whole time, laughing a lot etc...). When i dropped her back off at her house i gave her a hug good night. I feel like she might have wanted a little more but i wanted to just take it slow. After that the calling/texting continued for about 5-6 days and then just completely stopped. Then a couple days later i get on Facebook and she changed her picture to her and another guy, and said that shes had a blast with him the last couple days and that they were now in a relationship. I dont even know how to describe how bad i feel about this. I just dont understand it at all. I even told her kind of early on i have trust issues from past relationships and i know its not fair to other women but i just do. Why would somebody do something like that???

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I was basically in your shoes over the summer only with a guy who started dating one of my friends! Although I can't really help you with explaining why people are jerks like that, I can tell you that if she led you on only to date someone else, and you genuinely liked her, and she knew it, then she doesn't deserve you. It'll take a little bit before you stop feeling like crap, but try to keep in mind that this is a learning experience (learning what exactly, I'm not too sure, but you'll figure it out). And unfortunately, some people are looking more for a fling than a relationship, and nice people who want an actual relationship get screwed over. Just keep your head up, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is a lot better than her!! :)

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I honestly think she didnt want to wait. You might of been too slow in her eyes so she moved on.

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Not just girls but everyone in general are not sure what they want. I would assume you are on the younger side.. so this is normal. She was playing the field. She was most likely talking to both of you, and he kinda grabbed her from you. I wouldn't take it personal, I know it sucks and it hurts, but you don't want someone like that anyways. Find another interest man!

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I think you should talk to her. Many girls they post pictures with guys, to make their crush jealous. Maybe because you were slow, she thought you were not that interested. TALK TO HER, AND DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS.

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She told me straight up shes dating the other guy now, so im not jumping to anything.
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She told you that face to face?
I would still suggest, as mad and hurt you can be now, still try to understand what went wrong.
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Not face to face, but i saw it on facebook, so texted her because she was working and i let her know i was cancelling plans we had for next month if she does have a boyfriend now because she cant have her cake and eat it too. And she said she understood why i was cancelling. I honestly do want to figure out what went wrong but i tried a few times from the point where communication stopped to talk to her and she is very short and almost sort of rude.
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I had many friends in the same positions, and I was in the same position. I was really into this guy, sweet and everything, but he moved so slow, and for a moment thought he thought I was "O.K". So I over thought the situation and ..... Exact same story as you. Maybe it's a jealousy thing, you won't resolve this issue with strangers, only with her. Maybe you're angry, but that will go away, and then you can talk to her.
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Im not so much angry as i am just feeling like crap. This all honestly just happened today - As soon as she quit talking to me i assumed the worst (because of past experiences) and thats what it is, so im not overly surprised, but it still hurts. I think i might try to just figure out why it happened, maybe ask if i did something she didnt like or if i was just reading the whole situation wrong and she didnt even like me like that. Im not so much upset with the fact that shes dating someone else, i just want to know why she dropped me like a hat and left me so confused
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I wouldn't put all the blame on yourself. What you did wrong? Don't blame yourself. A relationship is a two way street, maybe you did do something wrong, but she's as much guilty as you are, because she didn't even have the character to be straight up with you. She could have approached the whole situation differently. But before finding that special one, you got to go through rough relationships or experiences.
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I agree completely, she actually just texted me so i asked her that i wanna know what happened and that i thought there was something between us. I asked if i just misread the situation or if it was me going to slow... i dont expect an answer but we'll see. Thank you for being so helpful
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No problem, i hope she's honest this time. Good luck :)
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She said i would be a perfect boyfriend and never to change she just wasnt feeling anything... haha makes no sense - i just told her ok and thanks for being honest (even though that doesnt sound honest)
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Lol, yeah she was ready for the other guy but not you?
I'm a very straight forward gal, so I would tell her that.
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i dont care anymore - her saying that makes me feel so much better about it. That dudes probably gonna treat her like crap and she'll come back and i wont be feeling anything, like her
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Bro i had the same situation..its bullshit...i got over it...how old are you

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im 22 haha
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Oh i was 14..bigg different...u just didnt do anything right..
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She's probably not very smart. Dumb chicks don't understand you are interested in them if you don't make a move. You should of kissed her impulsively, not giving any speeches.

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Brush it off... was not meant to b.. just live your life she was a fast one.. so just let it go.

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