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I want to ask my GF to marry me. But, there is NO way I can even afford to get a ring now or even in the near future. Any ideas what to do?

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Tell her that our love by itself is a magnificent symbol of our love. And that you want her to marry you as is and this is your new beginning. Once our family is started. You won't regret the choice you make..
Then if she says yes and hugs you
Don't worry about it for now
When the convo comes up
Say your saving for a ring and you couldn't wait to ask her.

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Well you shouldn't be thinking about marriage if you can't even afford a ring. You marry someone when you can afford the ring, a wedding, and home to live together in. It sounds like you're too young for marriage, or just not in a good position for it yet!

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I agree that he can't afford to marry if he can't afford a ring. Just tell her you love her and hope she will wait to get married when you are in better shape financially. That leaves the door open for her to offer to help or not.
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I know it's hard to tell how old someone is just by text. But, I'm 41. My GF and I have 5 kids together. We have owned a home for 8 years. We make decent money. We are just very stretched and have too many bills. She has been wanting to get married for a long time. She has been really talking about it for the last year or so. I should have asked her a long time ago. We both have just been ok with being together and not being married. She doesn't want any kind of big wedding at all. She just wants to be married. With us literally having no extra money. I feel completely stuck and feel horrible because we are in the position of living pay check to pay check. I want to marry her, but I have to have a ring. I just don't know what to do.
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You already have kids? Doing things in reverse, huh? To each their own! Lol I know that a marriage license only costs around $30... so buy her a Walmart ring and go get hitched at the courthouse ^_^ Make a promise o buy her a better ring when you have the money. My dad gave my mom his mother's old ring until he could afford a better one since he was leaving for the Army, so that's always something to consider too. Good luck!
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Yeah, definitely doing things in reverse. The whole courthouse thing is pretty much out as an idea. She is very against that concept. Thanks for the idea and input. :)
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No problem ^_^
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What about kids? They cost more than a ring. I'm not saying don't do it ,just have a plan.

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We actually have 5 kids together. Ages 6-17, we have a house. We just have many many bills, we have decent jobs. We unfortunately live pay check to pay check. I don't know how I'm going to be able to get a ring I feel screwed because my GF has been wanting to get married for at least a year now. I've been putting off asking her because of the finances.
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I thought you were 18 or something .Ha ha. Here's what I would do. Go ahead and propose. Use a placeholder ring until you can afford one you both like. The important thing is the commitment to each other.
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Thanks for the idea!
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You're welcome. Congrats!
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Your not ready yet.

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Get her a promise ring ! That will calm her down and you got her stamped.

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DON'T rush. If u 2 really love each other, u can wait. Marriage changes everything. U guys r going to go thru major adjustments and money is the biggest one. Save as much as u can now, then think about it ,

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If your kids will benefit in any legal sense, then do it. That's all I've got. Good luck!

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Some people would have you believe that an engagement ring should cost XX much, or XX times your weekly salary. Nonsense! Ask your girlfriend about rings and what her feelings are about that. Maybe there is something more meaningful to both of you that is not so costly. You can get a quality ring that looks good for well under $200, especially if you go for something unusual. But you must search outside of the mall's jewelry stores. Etsy has some beautiful handmade items and vintage jewelry. You can look elsewhere on the internet too, or in antique shops. Or maybe there is a family piece that can be re-purposed?

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Thank you for the info! That actually sounds like a great idea! And I think she would be happy to hear those ideas! You have been very helpful!
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200$ lol ... Ur a dead man. There must be some sort or size of a REAL diamond on it.
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mingia, The ring is a symbol of commitment, not a bride price or a deposit. Its materials and makeup are only of concern to the couple getting married. Its mere presence on the finger is all that's needed to communicate that commitment to others.
People get married without diamonds all over the world. They've been doing so for thousands of years. Spending a lot of money on a ring is a choice based personal values.
And phoenix_river, don't fall for the "it's a once in a lifetime purchase" line. Ask any couple married over 40 years if they're still wearing their original bands. Finger sizes change. Accidents happen. Tastes change. Working hands are not the safest place to keep a small, very sharp, non-liquidatable asset.
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How old are you?

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Well you won't be able to afford. Wedding either.

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Lulz. $25 license, $60 court fees. You may now produce non-bastards.
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**Not that there's anything wrong with that. Love is the most important thing.
The courthouse was good enough for me and my sweetie a few decades ago.
Made an announcement and gave the finger to horrible in-laws on both sides.
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