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Would a man stay in a relationship just to raise his kid with the mother even though he's unhappy and miserable? and why

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There's a pull to be with your child. There's also a pull to be happy. You say he wants to be with you, but doesn't want to leave his family because of the child. Now read that again...and again...now read it one more time.

If he wanted to truly be with you full time, he'd work it out somehow.
Something else is also keeping him there.

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Don't do this to yourself. His heart is at home.
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you are right
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Thank you Kven-I wasn't sure about this one so thank you for tue encouragement.
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the not tue***
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You read it wrong altogether I was asking if my man would stay in the relationship because he is unhappy and wants us to raise our child together
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No. It's okay to separate from the mother. The child should be your main priority, but you are allowed to have some happiness in your life. If the mother of your child no longer makes you happy, move on. :)

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yes for the sake of the child. But not if it's a verbal or violent relationship!

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Yes, what BobbyBouchae said! My Dad said, he never left my Mom because, that step-dads don't treat the step-kids the same! My Dad grew up with a couple of step-fathers. I didn't grow up seeing my parents fighting or arguing; they never did! And they didn't have sex with each other for over 20 years then, my Dad passed. But, stayed together and fool the family. Everyone thought my family was the perfect example.
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Some probably would, but they'd probably be free to do their own things. It's best to just divorce if things don't work out.. you can't fix things that are already broken and can't work. The father could still interact with his child. Everyone deserves to be happy (:

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Free to do there own things?
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I've actually met people that don't have a formal divorce but go on about their lives either way. They still live in the same home, though.
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Now I'm 18 and unmarried, so I won't be nearly as knowledgeable about the subject as someone who's of age or experienced this first hand... But personally, I believe that there's an exception to most things, and this would be one of them... I'd only assume staying in a relationship at least for the betterment of the child would be the right thing to do...

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Thanks for the answer even though you are 18 you're on the right track with your answer
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Thank you...
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Yes; yes a man would do exactly that. It happens a million times a day, and a woman might do exactly the same thing. As far as "why" goes, well I expect that's up to the individual. But a lot of parents sacrifice their happiness in order to keep the home together

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True but would the man seek attention from someone else if he's not happy
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I guess that's true mostly. No upside to this situation/question, huh? if it's you adrien then I wish you the best in dealing with it.
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I know seems like I am always dealing with something and he just seems very dishonest to me lately
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Yes he will...mainly because he is afraid he is not going to be able to see his kids until they grow up...at least not as much as he might want to...women win most of the custody battles just because they are women

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That's the only reason
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80% of time in those cases. When he leaves its clean proof that he wasn't responsible for sex...

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So you're saying that if he leaves he wasn't responsive for sex
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Yeah. And my personal opinion is if he left her baby or not he isn't responsible enough for a relationship. But that's my opinion. The other one wasn't just mine. I mean why buy a car if you aren't legal to drive it? It's stupid how young people have sex these days... I would rather them not have any at all or weight till they're 50 than see them being such predictable mortals...
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Yeah. Hell probably stay to make his kids happy & doesnt want them to have a broken family

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thats true
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I would :/ :(

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And why would you do that for the rest of your life if you are unhappy and miserable
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To give the kid a chance
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A chance to what have both parents
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No and yes to at least give him or her a chance to have one stable parent...
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many people think that staying together for the sake of the children is better for the children. However, children learn by what they see as much as what they're taught. If they are taught that a normal marriage is an unhappy, loveless situation, why would a child ever want to grow up and get married? Also, there are many times when a loveless marriage leads to one or the other parent becoming resentful of the situation. this tends to cause hurtful words to be said or actions to be done, sometimes around the children, which can damage the child's opinion of either the bitter parent or the other parent. either way, staying together or divorcing, can have negative effects on children. parents think they are hiding their feelings in front of the kids, but they really don't. in my humble opinion, it is better to divorce amicably, and teach our children that love and respect for each other and for our children is the primary goal as a parent. we as parents of a child, should always love the other parent in as much as they helped to produce the best thing that ever came into our lives-our children.

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Yes, he would.

If he believes that the child would not be treated right or he feels that having to pay child support would be too much for him, then yes, he would stay with the mother and child even though he is miserable. My sister is pregnant right now and something happened the other day to where she responded that she would go to prison for her child.

I love children. I know if I had a child, I would love them with all my heart and want to be there not only in the bad times, but also in the good times. If I had a child, I would tell him/her how handsome/beautiful he/she is.

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He'll no your kids are your's you can still be a dad! If you're unhappy move on how can you love someone if you can't love your self! Move on!

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