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Last edited at 1:08AM on 10/24/2013
There's a pull to be with your child. There's also a pull to be happy. You say he wants to be with you, but doesn't want to leave his family because of the child. Now read that again...and again...now read it one more time.
If he wanted to truly be with you full time, he'd work it out somehow. Something else is also keeping him there.
No. It's okay to separate from the mother. The child should be your main priority, but you are allowed to have some happiness in your life. If the mother of your child no longer makes you happy, move on. :)
Some probably would, but they'd probably be free to do their own things. It's best to just divorce if things don't work out.. you can't fix things that are already broken and can't work. The father could still interact with his child. Everyone deserves to be happy (:
Now I'm 18 and unmarried, so I won't be nearly as knowledgeable about the subject as someone who's of age or experienced this first hand... But personally, I believe that there's an exception to most things, and this would be one of them... I'd only assume staying in a relationship at least for the betterment of the child would be the right thing to do...
Yes; yes a man would do exactly that. It happens a million times a day, and a woman might do exactly the same thing. As far as "why" goes, well I expect that's up to the individual. But a lot of parents sacrifice their happiness in order to keep the home together
Yes he will...mainly because he is afraid he is not going to be able to see his kids until they grow up...at least not as much as he might want to...women win most of the custody battles just because they are women
many people think that staying together for the sake of the children is better for the children. However, children learn by what they see as much as what they're taught. If they are taught that a normal marriage is an unhappy, loveless situation, why would a child ever want to grow up and get married? Also, there are many times when a loveless marriage leads to one or the other parent becoming resentful of the situation. this tends to cause hurtful words to be said or actions to be done, sometimes around the children, which can damage the child's opinion of either the bitter parent or the other parent. either way, staying together or divorcing, can have negative effects on children. parents think they are hiding their feelings in front of the kids, but they really don't. in my humble opinion, it is better to divorce amicably, and teach our children that love and respect for each other and for our children is the primary goal as a parent. we as parents of a child, should always love the other parent in as much as they helped to produce the best thing that ever came into our lives-our children.
If he believes that the child would not be treated right or he feels that having to pay child support would be too much for him, then yes, he would stay with the mother and child even though he is miserable. My sister is pregnant right now and something happened the other day to where she responded that she would go to prison for her child.
I love children. I know if I had a child, I would love them with all my heart and want to be there not only in the bad times, but also in the good times. If I had a child, I would tell him/her how handsome/beautiful he/she is.