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Pregnant & father is gone cuz he supposedly doesn't believe it's his kid/begged me to abort. When I have my son should I give him a chance?

also I don't believe in child support as I can support my son and I independently. I just feel as if I need to give him one more chance to be apart of his life..

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Yes Iam sixty year old women and when I was 29 I got Pregnant with live in boyfriend he freaked out and wanted me not to have baby well I did we had DNA test and proved it was his wasn't great has a dad but I didn't make it easy well when our son was in late teens he became close with his dad but our son died at 23 years old flesh eating Bacteria now I am raising his 5 year old daughter and his father is in her life and they are close sorry about the long story but yes please give him a chance you never know what could happen good luck sweetie I will keep you in my prayers

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Thank you so much I love that you put heart into your answer instead of judgements I'm just confused because my family is not very fond of him of course but I don't feel he is a bad person.
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Also I'm very sorry for your loss hun
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@Joann, I am so sorry for your loss. It is amazing how tragedy can either break people up or bring them together. It is nice she has her grandma and her grandpa during her loss. I will keep you in my prayers also. :0)
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Yes, I think so. He isn't ready to be father, but once baby comes he may calm down. The important thing is to have him spend time with the child, which is very healthy for it, not to punish him for panicking.

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All get scared just some react in different ways. The way he reacted speaks volumes about his character. If he wants to be apart of your kids life, then let him. See how he reacts when he has had a little more time to realize he helped create a life. If you are young, which this sounds like the case, give it a few. If you are an adult, older, I would be careful of him...men don't run, we step up! Glad you are taking responsibility for your actions! That speaks volume of your character...good luck!

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Great answer. Couldn't have put it better myself =)
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Thank You :) I appreciate the honesty
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We wish you all the best! I know you'll be fine =)
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Thank you!
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You're welcome! =D
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The choice is ultimately up to you and him. Not us and not your family. I know you love your son. Do what is best for him. :0)

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Unless your boyfriend is very young (teenage), I would say no second chance. It is really sleazy to try and claim the baby isn't his, and to pressure you to abort when you don't want to.

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It's important to a child to know its parents. Have a paternity test by all means and keep in mind that if something happens to you where you cannot support your child the option is always available to you to take it to court.

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