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I cannot read this girl. Could use a little help.

Ok this make take some time will try to type as much information as short as possible.

It started about 5 months ago. I met at girl who at the time I thought was cool started hanging out with her a couple of times a week and we were tagging each other ok social media and stuff. Now about a 2 months ago girl number 2 who's been my friend for quite some time when I would talk to her she would respond with " can you talk to me? Won't you girlfriend get mad?" Me and girl #1 never official dated just went out but now about 2 weeks agao I realized that I don't won't girl #1 but girl #2 so I called her one day out of blue and asked her if shed wanted to hang out, and of course she said "won't your girlfriend get mad?" Referring too girl #1 I said don't worry about her I want to spend the day with you, and we did spent literally all day together. Can it be saved what girl#2 and I have? Or can a small fire begin to burn between us. I have asked her out again and she said yes we are suppose to spend And also could us not texting and communicating on a daily be a bad thing?

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It went like this. You started hanging out with Girl #1. Girl #2, your friend, was like "Oh no! I took it slow with him [you] and now he's into another girl. Are they girlfriend and boyfriend and I'm just his friend? Will I be able to take to him or will his girlfriend hate me? I want to spend more time with him because I like him."

So I have a question. Is girl #1 catty or popular?

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Thanks I see and yes she quite popular. Would that make a difference?
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Oh yes, very much. You see when your in a relationship with a popular girl, it scares the other girls away because that girl can spread rumors about another girl if the other girl does something the popular girl doesn't like. That's why girl #2 said "can you talk to me? Won't you girlfriend get mad?" she was scared she was going to get blackmailed by the popular girl. Don't go out with the popular girls because they always r too dramatic and expand on the littlest things. Go out with girl #2 she seems very nice and gets you. That 's why she's taking it slow and being your friend.
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Again thank you! So could be being friends first be a good thing? Not necessarily Meaning I am friend zoned? Let me expand a little. Me and girl#2 spent almost all day together this last day literally all day and we even planned to hang out more! Could this be meaning something?
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Yeah! Did you and her laugh the have fun that day?
btw you're not friend zoned. The friend zone is, how I understand it, where girls put other boys who are nice because they have their eyes on another boy or waiting for the right boy to come along. When the another boy doesn't work out or she's been waiting too long, she picks a boy from the "friend zone".
This girl doesn't want to scare you off by taking it too fast. She wants to take it slow and steady to built a strong foundation for your relationship.
Girl #1, like most popular girls, is taking it fast so there's not much of a foundation. When there's not much of a foundation, the relationship can easily fall apart. She's doing this because, like all popular girls, she wants attention because of the break-up.
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It doesn't sound like you have a problem at all.

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Girl #2 seems to like ya, so be with her, you still are single until you put a label on your relationship.

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don't be an idiot and say, "don't worry about her." that makes it seem like your dating for sure, just tell the second girl that you aren't seeing the other girl. she'll understand.

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Thanks and yes I do feel kinda of dumb for saying don't worry about her. What do you recommend I do from here? And what are your thoughts as far as us not texting or communicating all the time.
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in my opinion I would just keep hanging out with the girl that you have more of a relationship with and stop text/social media-ing with the other girl and I'm time (maybe a month) thing will work out for the better.
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no on my opinion you are in the safe zone believe it or not the same thing happened with me and my best friend ( im a girl and hes a guy) every one was trying us to get us to go out so when i asked out another guy he said wont your boyfriend get mad

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what they said

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Go get girl #2 if that's what you want but you should still be friends with girl #1. It's good for a guy to have female friends as well as a girl to have male friends. I can't tell you how many times my male friends have helped me do something or other.

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