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2 of my friends started smoking weed, getting drunk & giving guys "bjs" they used to be good kids. I don't know what happened. it was like a sudden thing. what can I do. I'm worried about them. I'm thinking about just breaking ties off with them because I don't want to be influenced with that stuff or get a bad rep. can I make them stop? please help me! btw, were 13

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Wow! That's terrible. I think that you should tell them how you feel about this and try to get them to stop. And if not, stop being around them because you may slip and try some. This happened with 2 of my friends. One's in rehab (and doing drugs there) and 1 I got to quit. Good luck!

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Stay away from skanks. They'll only drag you down and you can rarely get through to them. I suggest just breaking off ties. Sorry but it's just something you have to do in life. Leave the dead weight behind. Sorry I can't help.

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You need to just leave them. Cut all ties. There isn't anything you can do for them. You are you and never change for anyone.

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omg! if I was u I would just talk to them about it and tell them what u think about it and give them an option it's u or the bad ways ;) hope I helped atleast a little ;)

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U could just break off ties but if u really care about them u wont give up and you will keep trying to get threw to them, ive had this happen, try hanging out with them a lot and if they r about to go smoke or drink ask them to go to the mall or something

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If you don't cut off all ties with them you will get a bad reputation, it's inevitable

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Report them to the police to get them in rehab. When they're out, try being their friend again. If they don't accept you, ignore but if they do, accept them.

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That's to far. Tell parents. No reason to get them in trouble with the police.
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No, there parents are "cool parents" & they are aware of it.
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Oh yes then tell the cops. Those are bad parents.
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No cops. The criminal justice system will only make matters worse.
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If someone else reports it and you knew about it then you'll go to jail too.
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... on the other hand, would the police really care about two or three users? There are more dangerous crimes for law enforcement to attend to, and they can't follow every single "lead" about potential drug users! Also, I'm pretty sure that unless she was physically there when they were using the marijuana, the girl in the original post is not going to get arrested. Just some food for thought <3
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If you care about them try to talk to them tell them it's hurting you and if they don't listen then break it off sorry Hun but you don't want to be drug into all that it's bad ! Good luck

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Talking girls out of their actions is hard. I faced the same dilemma with my best friend as a teen.

It's best to just go your separate way. Don't let them drag you down, and reputation does spread fast amongst the teen population. Find better friends - they are out there.

In the end, staying friends with those girls would cause too much friction and drama.

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Considering you're 13... That's semi-normal. (I'm 13 too) Stay away from them whenever you have the chance and don't communicate with them in any way.

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b a leader not follower. easier said than done. don't let others intimidate you. this was unfortunately their issue prob.

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Being a leader is easy. I'm a natural born leader lol
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good for you. i figured so or you wouldn't have posted this question. keep your chin up a little longer if possible to concentrate on your grades. take winter break to clear your head. let your heart lead you :)
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=( In this case you can only help yourself by dissociating yourself from them. I agree with qwerty1467 about how you might "slip and try some". If you tell your friends you aren't comfortable with their activites chances are they will blow up in your face. It's better to just kind of quietly ease yourself away. Hopefully they will come to their senses before it's too late! You should also tell their parents, hopefully they can put a stop to it.

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Tell your mom and let her take care of it

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Good kids sometimes make some bad choices. Those activities are not so bad necessarily when you're older (for example, at my age, a girl who gives a blow job is not considered a slut)... but when you're still young and are not fully a responsible adult, these actions can have serious repercussions. Tell these friends that you're worried about them, and want them to see how these choices are affecting their lives. Calmly them that you want to be their friend, but can't just let them hurt their bodies like they have. You can suggest that they do other things instead... but there's a good chance they won't listen. If they don't, find friends who enjoy the same things that you do. It can hurt when friends change, especially when it happens suddenly, but you have an opportunity to meet some fantastic new people that have similar life views to yours. Good luck, sweetie <3

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