Think about how many times she tells you what to do in a day. If it seems to be an absurd number, she is controlling. If you are newly weds you could just be adjusting and so could she. Give it some time.
you need to seat her down and tell her we need to talk. and say your married is 50/50 not 80 /20and let know the man is head of the home.but you have talk things out and try to compromise with her and befair but she has to do the same.tell her nicely that you don't like feeling she is to controlling.you don't like it.good luck.