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My fianc and I are currently 1,300 miles apart. Tonight she told me that she is going out to dinner with another man she met at Wal-Mart.

I think its not loyal at all! she knows I am against the date! what do u think?

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"to dinner" ?, ...
"with a man she met at Walmart" ?
Think of the dialogue and effort she would have to go through to make her date think it was even an option. Spending casual time with opposite gender friends and coworkers is one thing, but a dinner date with someone met at the store seems out of bounds for a fiancee.

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I agree with you.
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Yeah break up with her.

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If you trust her, there's nothing to worry about. I have male friends and my husband trusts me to meet them for a meal if he's busy or gone. Having said that, however, I probably wouldn't be thrilled if my husband went out to dinner with another woman when I was gone, maybe lunch...How long have you been gone, how much longer are you going to be gone, how old are you both...these are things to think about.

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been away for 3 months but I go see her 1-2xs a month for 3days at a time. plan on being gone for another 2 months. I'm 28 she's 21. but when we were living together she was never unfaithful.
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Since she told you about the dinner "date," she has no intention of cheating on you. Leave the cage door open so the bird can return home...to me that means, trust her and she'll never have any reason to fly away, instead she'll know she's free to fly and return, because you trust her. I want to be clear, this doesn't mean she is free to cheat on you and return, only that you trust that even when she's not within eyesight, you believe that she's really yours and won't cheat just because you can't see her. Sounds like you have no reason to mistrust her and every reason to trust her. She's an independent woman, no doubt one of the reasons you love her, don't clip her wings, she might stay in the cage, but she'd be miserable. Trust her as you would want her to trust you! My husband trusts me so totally that he had no objection to my going to a nature class with an ex-boyfriend (my husband wasn't available), we stayed in the same cabin. I gave my husband no reason to regret his trust, and neither will your fiancee.
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Excellent, Koichan. I've learned to stay away from jealous people; their insecurities are toxic.
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So very true! Some people confuse jealousy with love...big mistake. Jealousy is really mistrust and possiveness, not love.
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Bingo!
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I completely agree with, "leaving the cage door open" , and trust, and that the insecurities of the jeolous are toxic.
And I would add; telling her, "No, you can't." isn't an option. But this situation isn't comparable to going to a nature class with an ex. A dinner date with someone she just met at the store with no other reason to be there. Even I'm not that naive. Of course there will be a second, then third date, etc. Let her go, fly away little bird.
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Forget it -
A few days from now -
Tell her you met someone -
And your taking her to dinner as well-
See how she reacts before you call it off-

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I know for a fact she would be pissed. Not a doubt in my mind she would be!
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Ok
Try it -
Then after she believes you have gone through with this -
Let her know -
This is how you felt -
Reverse child phycology -
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No. Thats a wrong thing to do! and it could make things worse! If she didn't love you and if she liked the guy she wouldn't have told you about the dinner she would've just went behind your back. But the fact that she told you clearly shows that she cares about you.
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I know she cares and loves me. But I do not feel at all comfortable with it. I think that right there is enough for her to say OK babe I will not go. I would do the same for her
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I know but you should trust her enough to know that she wont love any other man than you. In fact, she could have gone out with any guy but she chose YOU out of all the men in this world. She chose YOU to say yes to and she loves you. And don't let a little thing like that break you people apart. It might annoy you but why don't you just talk to her about it? Nicely though females can be very sensitive about this subject.
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Andr..., sheldons's idea would backfire only if she's a self-centered hypocrite.
A pair of shoes fit both feet,
or it isn't a pair.
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Mabye its a work mate or just a friend if you trust her let it flow and try to relax

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she met him at Walmart.
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Was she working or shopping?
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maybe ask a friend to go and talk to the guy, if you have a friend where she is at

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no I do not. I'm headed down there on the 8th. I'll ask to meet him. see what she says
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otherwise go there beat the sh*I out of him then dump her and make her think of what she did wrong for the next couple months. just saying
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And spend time in jail for assault
Great advise -
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oh also go to the gym right after, you be getting a good pump bro
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Agreed!
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please let the men with testosterone talk here buddy
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I can't go to jail...I'm in the process of becoming a cop
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otherwise I'd love to hit him in the mouth
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By testosterone -
You mean non thinkers -
Remember 1 thing -
I'm sure this guy didn't force her-
So how is it his fault ?
He's being a man -
The women who has a man is the one
Who's not thinking also -
Or - maybe she's looking for another-
If a women cheats - it's not the mans fault -
It's the women's -
Same in reverse -
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sorry man but I just see it differently if someone tries to even talk to my girl I would gladly kick his arse so idk if you just let your girlfriends go just like that I feel bad for you fella
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yep...I'm moving 1,300 miles away from my family to be with her. my son and I
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well also this will create a memory she will never forget. and if worried about jail time make him hit you first after that you know what your rights are
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Heh
I know the asker is young-
The other must be still growing pubes
If I'm in a relationship -
And my gf cheats -
It's her fault -
Not the guys fault-
I could have cheated lots-
But choose to respect my gf-
That comes with age -
Grow up -
Assaulting another will land you in jail
And I will guarantee -
There - you will be assaulted as well-
Nothing to gain -
Lots to loose -
And in the end -
Your girl is pounding the guy you hit
While your in jail with no women -
Only buba-
And hope you have some smokes
Or commissary or ????????
So he won't shank you while you sleep-
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well hey good luck with your proccess of becoming a cop.
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Yeah -
That process ends -
When he assaults another-
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sir I see I upset you but do you even lift.
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Lol
No -
Your comments and answer-
Are of those of a high schooler
- under 18 -
Fight all you want-
18 and up -
You go to jail-
Where you will have to fight -
For your food -
Not ego -
Good luck -
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Wait you have a son?!

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your comments and questions are those of a virgin
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I totally agree with the whole 'you'll end up in jail thing' like seriously whats up with this whole fighting thing? Can't anything be spoken these days? Why does it always have to end with someone beating someone's crap up? Why can't guys just talk it through? And honestly even if she does leave you for that guy (I highly doubt that) she's stupid for doing that because YOU are her fiance and she said yes to YOU and he is just a guy she met at walmart.
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hey he doesnt have to fight him just put alot of fear in him
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I know but if he does that then he might lose his girl
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Girls tend to over dramatize things
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My point here is -
It's not the guys fault for going
To dinner with a female -
Taken , single , married ,
No one held a gun to her head -
She said yes -
She could had said no -
Ps -
I was getting laid while you were
Wiping crap on your face from your diaper -
Your comment only proves how young
You are -
Some day - you may end up in jail-
Where I can assure you -
You will be s___ing
D__k for your food-
It's all fun ?
Till you must face reality -
Then you will cry like a baby -
Follow your own advise -
Cause I'm sure -
When or if you obtain a girlfriend
She will cheat -
Because your tiny little manhood
Will not fill her love hole-
Slug the guy that does fill -
And you will end up -
Being filled by many -
Lol-
But - ... You will prob enjoy-
You seem like the type -
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Exactly -
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yes I have a son...almost 2 yrs old.
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My comment was to Walt "
Btw -
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I'm going to see if she does go to make my final decision
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Honestly I don't agree with most of the comments you people said I mean 'tell her you met someone and your taking her to dinner too' seriously?! no. I think that you should be loyal to her because lets be honest here it might be someone from work or maybe the person was just being polite. either way the whole getting back at her thing is just gonna make things worse and for starters if she didn't love you she wouldn't have told you about the dinner in the first place.

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I think you need to find another gf and get on with the nasty

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Tell her to have fun. she is trying to get attention.

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That's a cheap date

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So.... She doesn't take fiancship as a commitment. She's open to men asking her out. And when you're married? When someone asks her out then? Look. I'm not saying crucify her. But by no means should you let this go by without consequences. She's soooo wrong here. Have another serious talk. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she won't see the wrong after another talk you better call off the engagement for now. She would then obviously need more time fishing the sea.

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Tell her to order the most expensive meal on the menu and a big dessert! She's probably just looking for a way to push your button !

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Smart. ;)
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If shes your fiance she shouldnt be going out with any many she doesnt know, let alone some guy she just met. This would be a great time to thoroughly reevaluate your relationship because youre getting a real good sampling of what life with her will be like. Clearly you and loyalty to you is not high on her list of priorities. If i were you id get out while you still can do it without alimony and losing half of what you own because its doubtful such behavior will change. She shouldnt even WANT to date others let alone actually do it.

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Does you fiance usually hang out at Walmart, looking for a date? At least she told you and isn't being sneaky about it.

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Have you been giving out out your pick-up tips, Hippy? I think it is your responsibility to warn the public of the resulting pain that can occur from that particular strategy.
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Now you've got wcnorton doing it! I feel a spooning coming on.
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I wrote an e-book about the Walmart babes and how to pick them up.
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You're in BIG trouble, Mister ! :[
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I knew that would get your attention.
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Well you were right! Just "watch it!" Hmmm...
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If she's supposed to be engaged to you and going out on a date with another man, well guess what? Sorry to break it to you but I don't think she considers herself engaged to you. You need to drop her and move on. On the other hand, I'm glad to hear that Hipster and I aren't the only ones stalking our next date at Wal-Mart. (By the way Hip, check out the floozie in aisle five holding the Duck Dynasty mug. The one in undersized yoga pants and fuzzy bedroom slippers? Yeah, that's her)!

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Hahaha! Lol! It's a well kept secret that Walmart shoppers are hot babes!
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I was checking her out WC, I love the hot, overweight, toothless babes in yoga pants so tight that you can see the dimples of fat.
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You Were At Walmart?????????????
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Uh oh, busted again.
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That's why you don't try long distance

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She's not your fianc?e.
In fact, she's not your GF either.

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what are you talking about?
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He means you're delusional. Not trying to be mean. It's just that if you can't see what's going on, you're not being truthful with yourself. Neither a girlfriend nor a fiancé would do what you're describing.
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Exactly. The conversation for her to make the date wouldn't happen if she was a girlfriend.
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I was dating a guy for four years, when he moved to a city 3 hours away. After a few months of long distance dating, he informed me that he called a few women that he found in the "want ad" section of the local Observer newspaper. He went to dinner with each of them, then called and confessed this to me because, as he put it " They were each too fat or too ugly so I didn't have sex with any of them. I guess I'll stick with you". Well gosh golly gee, I guess that makes it OK then. NOT. Please, Run. run like the wind, away from this relationship, there are many more trustworthy fish in the sea.

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I'm going to wait to see if she does go to dinner to make my final decision
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I think waiting is a good response. After all, everyone makes mistakes at times. And she's been honest and you've talked. But if she goes you should leave.
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thats a deal breaker now you know so if you accept this then don't bring it up anymore .... But honestly thats messed up shes not serious about you.....

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