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Am I the only person this happens to?

I dont know what is happening but I'm just having the worst luck. Pretty much this exact scenario has happened to me multiple times over the past few years. I will start talking to a girl, we will talk a lot and everything starts off great. We will go out on dates and everything goes well and I get all the expected feedback. Then after 3 weeks to a month or so, when Im really starting to like her, things ALWAYS take a turn for the worse. The girl just like gives up on me. Wont answer if i call/text and just like cuts it off. And one time, a girl that quit talking to me saw me a few days later and she came up and introduced me to her new boyfriend (theres a kick in the balls). It just really sucks when after awhile I do talk to them and ask why things went wrong and its always "youd be a perfect boyfriend but..." or "it wasnt you it was me" or "i just didnt feel anything between us". I dont know if I'm waiting too long to ask them to be my girlfriend or what? Its just really crushing my confidence when it seems like the same thing keeps happening over and over. I just want to know why in seemingly one day things keep going from great, to terrible at the drop of a hat?

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This has happened to all of us, it's not you--it's part of life. A number of times the guy has found someone they like better...not your fault, it would have happened anyway. Or they just don't feel the chemistry. Just not meant to be. Patience, she'll be worth the wait! Meantime, you're learning how to be the perfect boyfriend!

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Atleast theres something good to pull out of it - ha. The only bad thing is you cant be a perfect boyfriend if you arent a boyfriend haha
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Actually, that's happening to me right now.

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good grief! sorry to hear that!! life just sucks sometimes, doesn't it?!!! I hope your luck changes for the better!!! I just figured I was ugly or even dumber than I imagined. I certainly doubt this is true with you! stay safe and celebrate life...;-)
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Yeah, life does suck in many ways than one. It's not all that bad, as I'm now in a relationship with someone I didn't realize had a crush on me for a good year now... pity that I didn't notice her earlier.
Every cloud has a silver lining.
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good for you! that's terrific news! I hope good things continue to happen in your life! life is nutty but it ain't ever boring!!! ha...;-)
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I think you just need to give more compliments, hang out more, and be fun to be around, and don't wait to long to ask them out then they will give up.

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Let's go out...

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ha... nice
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She didn't try to kill you! Imagine what it's like to be me, and they had other guys gang up on me several times! You just need to treat them better...

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The same thing has happened to my sister twice. Its good that you talk to them. The best relationships start with being friends. Its nice that you take her on a date. You said you would wait three weeks to a month . . . Are you still talking to her in that time or not because if your not she probably thinks she did something wrong. I would wait and you will soon find the perfect girl. Maybe you like the idea of a relationship and the things that come with it but not the commitment.

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How old r u
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have a positive attidude

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Just wait I am being shut down right now too you just have to keep going in fact tell her how you feel about her. Here is what I did to the girl that I like, I went up to her and said listen I love you and I hope that we can date eventually (she doesn't want to date till high school) and now she is being really nice to me!

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