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What should i do? I'm so scared.

I was watching tv with my older brother(he's 26, i'm 16) and i told him my back hurt, since i do dance and its been sore, so he massaged my back(which he normally does) when he accidentally touched my breast. He said sorry and i though no big deal. Then after we watched a little more of our show he stuck both hands in my shirt and started rubbing my breasts. I didn't say anything i wasn't sure if i liked it or what. He said sorry again and again and all i said was "it's fine" I got up and he followed me to my room and told me not to tell anyone or he'd go to jail. Now i've been sitting in the corner shaking and crying. No one has ever touched me like that and im scared. Im so afraid of looking at him or him coming in my room. He's never done this before and i didn't stop him. Is it my fault? He said he couldn't help it, i just had nice breasts and now i don't know how i can ever face him again.

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Sounds to me like your brother did something stupid, he knows it and apologized. If he's truly sorry, he won't ever do anything like this to you again and you can let it go. It's up to you if you tell someone about it. If he ever does touch you inappropriately again, even a little, you'll have to tell someone so he doesn't keep doing so.
I think the first brush really was just an accident. I don't know what made him think to put your hands in your shirt, but that's way far out of line. I can understand why you're upset, but it's NOT your fault. Your brother is old enough to know better and it sounds like he really does, but just acted like a complete idiot for a few minutes.
You might feel better if you can go talk to him; explain that this was really scary for you, especially because no one has ever behaved like that with you AND he's supposed to be protective of you, not take advantage of you.
I think in the future you'd both be wise to be more careful with physical contact. Hormones can make people act crazy and do things they normally wouldn't. When you're both older, maybe back rubs will be ok again, but not for just now.

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This is what i'm thinking but i don't think i want to talk to him about it. We've always been close but i was never excepting this, i mean i jab about my boyfriend all the time and..i just dont know. And your right. no more touching. I don't think we'll be hanging for a while.
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If you and your brother have been close (I mean relationally, not physical contact), I think you'll both regret letting this wreck what has been a good relationship up until now. Maybe let it rest for a day or so, and then go out for a coffee and talk to him about it. Being in a public place will help both of you keep it less emotional, less confrontational, but still get it out in the open. This is the kind of thing that can fester and grow into a huge, gross wound if it's swept under the rug. But it doesn't have to if both of you can be mature about it. You tell him how scared this made you feel; he tells you that he can't believe he did this and he's so sorry; you forgive him (if you're ready). Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, but I hope you'll be able to move forward and put this sad occurrence behind you. I've found that sometimes an unexpected and unpleasant event can be useful, in an odd sort of way, for teaching me things about myself and how to act in the future. Maybe you'll be able, one day, to see something good come out of this event, strange as that might seem right now.
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If it were me I wouldn't have the guts to tell anyone. I would avoid him whenever possible, but if it starts again order him to stop. I'm no professional, but it's what I would consider doing.

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Wow, great advice....not. Why'd you even answer.
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I understand i am so scared to tell anyone. I guess i could talk to my school councilor tomorrow.
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That's a pretty good idea. Professional help would do some good.
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Thank you!
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U need to tell a trusted adult and it's not fine.what if he rapes u and ur just gonna say it fine?!?! Hell no! I know ur scared but you need to tell someone that u trust cause it's just gonna get worse and him saying sorry doesn't fix everything

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Thank you I just need the courage. Im avoiding him for the time being.
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Did u tell a trusted adult
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that's sick, it's not your fault at all. what he did was sexual assault and I really think you should tell your parents. don't feel bad if he does to jail, NO ONE should ever do that to anyone without consent

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You need to tell someone before it gets worse. If you have the courage to put it up on the internet, then you can tell your mom or dad or whoever it is that takes care of you. Keeping it inside of you can make things worse.

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Im just so scared but ill try
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Don't be scared. Just tell someone you trust, I promise that it will all be ok. I just don't want things to escalate and get worse, its for your own protection to tell someone you trust as soon as possible.
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I dont think itll ever happen again, i think his hormones got over excited and mine did enough not to stop him.
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but your right im going to tell an adult
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OK. And that's fine, but you should still tell someone
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And tell an adult not one of your teenage friends
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Ok good
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I think i'll tell my school Counselor tomorrow morning, i just have to wait until then, which im sure i can get through.
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Ok that's good. Just as long as you get help
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Call the cops, tell them what happened. Then tell your parents. This is called illegal in all of the 50 states. Problem solved.

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No it's not your fault. You should really tell someone what he did, a guy is not supposed to do that to his own sister

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Tell the police like right now.

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Tell an adult even if it is a parent. He is old to enough to know better. He knows the consequences of his actions. You should not have to suffer because he doesn't know his boundaries. Every child should feel safe in their own home. You are no different. Put a stop to it right away. You deserve better.

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Thank you. I'm going to talk to a school counselor tomorrow morning. The only hard part will be avoiding him until then.
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Good. Stay in your room and lock the door when you go to bed.
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that's nasty that's your brother tell someone now

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He did it once and if you let it go it will probably happen again! Tell your parents.

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Once was accident, twice wasn't. He WILL try it again because you didn't resist. Doing that was impulsive on his part. He probably liked it a lot and I'm betting he won't be able to control himself again. I hope he doesn't live with you. You can't be alone with him ever again.

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He does live with us, until the end of the month. I'll be avoiding him as much as possible
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Its not your fault and he CAN help it. Please tell someone before he does worse. He will. Not that he has gotten away with it he will try again and it will get worse and worse. Im really sorry this has happened to you but he has a serioys oroblem and you will keep being the victim until you do something. Tell your oarents and if they dont believe you call the poluce. Youre brother is a sexual predator or is becoming one. Its possible that at some point in his life he was abused sexually. Now hes going to keep doing it to you and he may do it to someone else, too. He may already be doing it to others. Do you have younger sisters or female cousins? I know its scary and painful but do something before he serioysly hurts someone. Before he really hurts you. As in rape.

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It's his and your fault. He shouldn't have done that and you could've stopped him

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First time he did it you can call it a mistake,then second time he does then its called a habit..and its NOT good habit..does your brother have girlfriends??inform parents NOW

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Oh my. I have no response to this. Well if he does it again tell ur parents and they will know what to do

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i have the same advise
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Forgive than forget

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