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if there is someone you love and known for a long time but they've told you many times they see you just as a friend

should you let them go and move on to someone else?

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If this person is "the one" then no, you should fight for it. If you know for sure that this person is someone that you could possibly see yourself happy with say ten years down the road, then you deserve to try. If this person doesn't want you now then you can wait. Tell them that your offer still stands and that you will wait patiently for them. If this person is in a relationship then you should not mention the attraction, assuming that the one they are with is in love with them (when you make this judgment be sure you know the person and try not to be biased due to your feelings). If your friend REALLY doesn't EVER want a relationship with you, after you tell them and wait for a while, then yes, you should try to date others. The main thing to consider here is, do you really think you could love this person? Would you live your life out with them? If there are any "deal breakers" then you should move on because the "perfect one" hasn't met you yet.

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Love the response and I can't thank you any better
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yes

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Yes but you should always know that you can't stop loving them in your heart,there's always a place for the past.

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They've told you many times that they see you as a friend. If you honestly think that you're incapable of seducing them and that it is impossible to make them see you in a romantic light, move on. There's no reason to stay with them! There's never going to be a love, and someone else in the world at this very moment is perfect for you and a great love for you. "Love is only wasted when it is not returned." :) If you think it can happen, stop being timid and make it happen. Be forward. Ask her/him out, tell them blunt that you want them, and you want to be more than friends. Seduce 'em! Good luck. Remember, everything in life takes work. Even love.

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Thank you for your response, I've already confessed my feelings to her but apparently she took it the wrong way she said she only saw me as a friend a good friend and she felt weirded out about me and that when someone tells you they see you only as a friend to stick with it and move on she told me to go out and date other girls she blocked me from her Facebook
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Yes, you should. That person sees you as an option--something/someone to "do" for right now--not a priority. The best thing to do for your own sanity and well-being is to let go of them and find something else to do. They are not being a good friend and are certainly not worth your energy as a lover or potential mate.

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I confessed my feelings to her I told her I felt more than a friend to her and she got weirded out about me and told me to date other girls and when someone sees you as a friend to stick with it she blocked me from her Facebook I eventually deleted her # and 3 months later she texted me to see how I'm doing and I responded "who is this?" She told me her name so I didn't respond back after that later on day I saw her at the mall and I wasn't going to approach her but I did anyways she said how come I didn't respond back and I told her why she deleted me from her Facebook? She said because someone hacked into her profile (lie) because she only has access to it then I told me some of the things she's been doing and eventually told me she had to go like she didn't really want to talk with me so I let her go since then I haven't spoken to her but I have a feeling she is dating another guy and she's just hiding it from me :/
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yes .then I give up .be a friend with him its better.because you will never lose him

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There is someone like that but she never said we are just friends. Her problem is that she started seeing a loser and got into drugs. I just never told her how I felt about her. We were cool before she met this loser I am worried that if things don't end I will end up not hearing good news about her life. I regret never telling her I feel . I am scared that she will be a casualty because of what she is doing

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That is so sad. I'm so sorry. Can you still please tell her? You may be the only person she has left to go to when her life is hanging by a thread. It can only help if she at least knows...
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Wish I could tell her. She won't even talk to me on Facebook. Her former boss brought her up to me last night. We talked about how she is throwing her life away with this loser. I think he is in jail right now. She says she misses this loser. I wish she could see she is much better without him.
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I think you have answered your own question. You are wise to know that couples never fall in love at exactly the same moment. One person falls in love first and then has to be be patient and wait to see if the other person responds similarly. Your use of the term, "a long time," suggests that you are tired of being patient and that you consider it unlikely that your friendship will develop into ronance at any point in the future.
Be thankful for that persons "long" friendship, but if you are looking for romance, I suggest that you try to find someone else who has similar qualities.
"A wise bee knows when there is no polen and moves to another flower."

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She knows how you feel. She may act like it doesn't matter to her, but it does. There are so many factors involved in making the same feelings happen at the exact same time for it to work between two people. Don't play along with such silliness as blocking from Facebook, even if she does it first. That is a "type" of contact, though it's non-verbal . I DO however agree with taking phone numbers and addresses out of your contacts. It just makes it easier. If they contact you later, you'll just get a number that shows up which has a lot less emotional impact than seeing her name again. My point,...you need to do your part in moving on. I hope she is fair and let's you do this. Make one last notice of your feelings and tell her it will be the last time and stick with it. Keep a special place for her tucked away in your heart . You never know what life will bring . She may contact you 5 years from now and everything will happen perfectly. Your job right now is to continue with life and learn from other relationships. And remember, be fair to your new relationships . They could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

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Take note though that just because you are moving on with your life that doesn't mean you wont go through loss, grief, and sadness. This can't control your future though or you'll have no future.
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Thank you for your advice very helpful to me
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You're very welcome.
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I would tell that person the same thing they said to you i see you as a friend to im so glad were friends you telling him that now he knows how you felt when he said that to you hurt but all you can do is remain mature about it and walk away and find better maybe distance yourself away from him for a while he might end up missing you and realizing he made a mistake and that your the only girl who really loved him the right way as a friend and more caring then other girls in his life

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Can't agree any better thank you
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