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Can I celebrate Christmas if a family member had passed away earlier?

Started from Christmas 2012 to now. No one knows what I had to go through to reach here just for a destroyed Christmas... :'(



On June 13th this year, My Grandfather had passed away, Halfway on the year. And now, Christmas has approached us. Everyone says that I can still celebrate Christmas, as long as a family member had died RECENTLY.

Then, I had asked my mom, "When are we going to put our Christmas tree up mom?"
She replied that we aren't going to celebrate Christmas this year. Or do anything. She told me to go up to my grandmother and ask her. My nan had told me she doesn't know and ask my aunt.

She said. "Trees are allowed but lights aren't for you. But we can't put anything at all for this year". I told my mom that she said this. But she went entirely negative on Christmas and it's true meaning... I had started quietly crying and here I am.

I'm Christian Orthodox.
Assyrian, 13 years old
Australia.

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I personally think its ok , although a loved one passed ,life still goes on. I'm sure ur grandpa knew sum one who passed, n I bet he still celebrated it. I don't kno him but I would think that he would want u to move on and be happy and celebrate life. now if he just recently passed, I can understand, people need time to mourn but its months now, it will probably b a sad one but u mom should hav Xmas and honor his memory this Xmas they should tell happy & funny stories about him and show pictures n keep his traditions & memory alive. tell ur mom that. its not fair to the children, they lost grandpa they shouldnt lose xmas too. did u ask ur mom why is Xmas story so negative now but before grandpa passed it was ok to celebrate? and did u ask ur aunt? did they say anything about it & u being an orthodox?

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To be honest. i tried asking my mum before this question was posted here. She started screaming at me and I ran into my room (quietly) crying that no one heard.

In 2010, my grandfather's sister. (great aunty) had died and still went on.

Not being rude to her but I think she forgot the meaning of Christmas.

And. YOU MUST KNOW WHAT I HAD TO GO THROUGH TO REACH HERE.
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well if I was u I'd probably collect cans for money or do favors or pack supermarket bags for change n make up your own Xmas in your room n wen Xmas eve comes, suprise her with a tiny gift ( cheap its thought dat counts ) maybe u can get her back into the spirit. rite now ur mom is hurt , but she's being selfish, if u do that for her, that gift may make her feel guilty for not doing it for u. then again she may be thinking rite now that u r being selfish cus all u want is gifts. u need to sum how let her know or think that u feel its not bout gift. its about hot cocoa , stories, memories, pictures, happiness to hav the family around, celebrate the lives that aren't lost yet. I think u should write her a letter, TRUST ME THEY ALWAYS WORK. make her feel bad ask her did u do something wrong tell her sorry, wat ever . I can help u write it if u want, or we can go at this another way. ps I'm so sorry she screamed at u. n sorry u cried. I know how it feels my mom used to scream for everything n hit me for nothing.
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Shes lost her father, her father. "Its been 6 months she should be over it by now?" Crikey. It isnt her Grandpa that her mothers lost its her Father.
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Actually five months
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well, I don't see nary a thing wrong with it but different families have their different beliefs. guess your family has their's.

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if one year or 7 month have passed , you can , if not , it Will be better not to .

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I have never heard of such a practice bring a Christian we would celebrate Christmas no matter what. Christmas may put a smile on your families faces. It's a good time to hang on to memories with the family you have left. What if someone dies each year would you never celebrate the birth of Christ.

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Its her father, she has lost a parent, not just anyone.
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My mom passed in nov we still celebrated Christ because with him I know I will see her again
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Would you want to celebrate Christmas if you lost your mother or father?
Because that's how your mum feels. Go easy on her. Is celebrating Christmas more important than empathy for your mother? She may come round a little but it wont be the same. Despite the emphasis put on Christmas, a parental grief is stronger, thats what makes us human. Your mum is in grief. For you its Christmas, for your mum its the first Christmas without her dad, in fact everyday day is like that. Everything will be without him, how can she feel like celebrating anything when she feels like that. What she needs is time and support.

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I do understand that but I will celebrate because i'm honouring Jesus Christ's birth. And a tree sometimes is to remember someone...
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A tree is not a Christian tradition. Jesus was actually thought to be born in January but Christians bought it forward to hijack the pagan festival of celebrating the days becoming lighter.
However, I do understand from a childs mind that you want to celebrate Christmas. Ask if its ok for you to put the tree up. See its a very delicate situation for you its your grandpa for your mum its her father. Im not sure how she is going to feel about people celebrating around her when all she feels is the loss of her father. You only lose your parents once, it wont be like this every year but its early days for her.
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Never heard of not celebrating Christmas just because someone died. Sounds like really old fashioned Victorian rules. I dont know anything about Christian Orthodox beliefs but i and my family are Christians. One year we lost two great uncles and a cousin in one year and still celebrated Christmas. My granny died one summer and we still celebrated Christmas. Lost two other cousins in different years, one in the autumn. Still had Christmas those years. Never heard of a death in the family being cause not to have holidays since like the 1800's. Im sorry the adults in youre life are being so wierd about this. It might be that they feel too sad about this. Maybe you can buy a miniature fake tree to put in your bedroom.

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The choice is yours.

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Celebrate Christmas in ways that will help you feel happy. You need to care for your own well being as time passes. Wishing you well.

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Maybe go over a friend's house, GRANDPARENT's house and say Merry Christmas there. Go for a holiday. many things...
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Please take good care of yourself.
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Yes going to someones house may be an idea. But give you mum a hug too.
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take care ;-)
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Yes, your grandfather would want you to.

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I would :)
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I keep telling her this but she says No. It's respect.
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***** I would want my family to be happy and celebrate as normal. Mourning in that way is unhealthy for everyone. If you're celebrating the birth of Christ, did that stop because someone died? What ever the case, you need to listen to your parents. *****

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I think it would be more reason to celebrate Christ because with him you will see them again

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Of course you can celebrate Christmas! Don't let a death of a family member hold you back. You need to be happy because Christmas is a time to celebrate the birth of Jesus.

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Sure, it's a great way to remember good times with the family member. If you're up to it, do it!

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in 10 years you'll both have regrets... you for trying to get her to have Christmas, her for taking it away.

I'd just drop it... give her time to grieve, and think. She may change her mind before Christmas anyways. It's not until January, right?

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