Have you asked her straight up if she's having an affair? Or if she's no longer attracted to you? I've never been married but when with my daughter father for 6/years I stopped being intimate because I was no longer attracted to him, I didn't tell him unfortunately and eventually our relationship when down hill.
You have to impress on her that you're not dead yet and you need intimacy. I don't know how else to say it. Get into couples therapy. That can make it easier to get a dialogue going. If she still won't you're not left with many options.
Tell her you need intimacy in your relationship it maybe bc of her age or other things bothering her that she's not saying..take her out some place special and make her feel important then put the major moves on her if she gives in then tell her you want it like this again more often surprising her May help out her mood just saying!!(:
As you can see from the variety of answers you received there can be many causes for this. In addition to menopause, there can be other physical ailments that can have an effect on intimacy. A good general check-up is probably in order. Then move on to other causes. Good luck.
she's likely in menopause . Im nearly 61. I began my lovely journey into menopause about 8 1/2 years ago. Believe it or not, while it may take some time, her desire is likely to return. Sadly in case, my 57 year old husband hadn't had any ability to preform for the last several years. I'm suggesting you take my lead and find ways to satisfy yourself, by yourself.
Sounds like it could be hormones. I know it's embarrassing but she should go talk to her dr. Do you two still go out on dates? Do you surprise her with flowers or romantic jesters? What ever her love language is do something for her. Make sure you keep the spark.
I knew someone whose husband didn't touch her for four years even though she tried numerous times and also tried talking to him and tried being playful, etc. Nothing worked then one day she hacked in to his email and found out he had been cheating on her since the beginning of their marriage. She left him while he was at work and never spoke to him again. There is a reason for your wife's lack of affection so demand answers whether health, hormones, or she found someone else do NOT just accept it. She needs to explain
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Given her age, chances are she's experiencing side effects or even after effects of menopause, which can last up to a decade. A low or even non existent libido is VERY common. She can talk to her doctor and perhaps even be put on hormone therapy which may improve things .. but hormone therapy also can offer 'side effects' .. and offer higher risks of cancer.
Menopausal or health issue or not .. you as a couple should be talking about this .. and finding some sense of compromise. Don't blame her for feeling like this .. because she really can't control her hormones .. but she can control what she chooses to do about it...or at least try to do about it.