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I have a crush on my cousin? Is this normal?


I recently saw my second cousin who I havent seen in months. He is 26 and i'm 17. When I was younger like around 5 and 6 I had a crush on him. The crush stopped when was around 10-12 years old and now I am starting to have a crush on him again. Why is that?

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Having a crush on an older relative is fine. Nothing to be concerned about. He is about 10 years older and living a much "cooler" life. Don't listen to anyone telling you it is wrong. Acting on it would be irresponsible though.

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you like something about him that you didn't like when you were 12?

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no

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just dont date him
there are others out there and if you did date him it would only cause family problems

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Not normal, plus the age difference is another not normal. Admire him from afar, but that's it. Besides, he'd probably be grossed out at the idea.

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When did this site get so many emoticons or whatever there called

:D

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Thats not normal at all. And illegal in *most* states.

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I'm just curious, where is it legal? If you know..
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West Virginia I believe. Not 100% sure.
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lol jdoll
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somebody's been watching the wrong turn franchise again lol
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lol
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That's creepy...
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lol
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because he is cute and you can't resist that he is ....... don't hurt his girl friend in the future and not normal !!

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probably just because he's an older guy its okay to fantasize but it's definitely not healthy or morally or socially correct to act upon it

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Not normal at all.

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Yes. It's ok. Don't listen to the zeros telling you not normal.

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lol
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That's definitely weird if you want to be with him in anyway. If you just think he's hot, that's not as weird.

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That's a nine year diffrence. So you telling me when u were 6 and crushing on him he was 15. That's kinda scary you shoulda been a kid watchin your cartoons not thinking bout boys,crushes....lol what is this world coming into

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hey girl
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Hi do I know you??
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Destiney I had to change my profile bcause i forgot my password srry i dint tell you
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Ohh hi how u been(:
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gud
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hey
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Does he feel the same way? Pray and ask for God's will in your love life. It's okay for 2nd cousins to get married. Hope it all works out for the best for you and him too.

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Not really

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what did he does at the time, or at that moment that triggered the feeling you had on him? is it what he does again so that it's digging up the feeling? Normal? what happened in childhood does effect people along their lives consciously or unconsciously.

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It's not weird to have a crush on your cousin, but there may be very good reasons to not act on it. Don't feel bad about your internal feelings. In some cultures it is viewed as ideal for cousins to marry each other, so it's not completely unnatural, just in our culture it is very icky.

Odd fact: The natural feelings that prevent incest work for the people with whom you were raised from infancy and with people who interacted with you as a baby. When this process is disrupted, estranged relatives can feel a strong physical attraction to each other upon being re-united, which can cause major problems for bio-siblings or parent-child pairs in such a situation.

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it's fine as long as you don't act on it, otherwise it's illegal. As humans, it's impossible for us not to notice other attractive humans whether they're our relatives or not.

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It's fine just don't act on it and everything will be alright.

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yea its perfectly normal to have a crush on your cousin most of my friends do. just don't take actually date him

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It's normal: I have had crushes on many of my relatives; however, a relative can only be so close before it's illegal to marry him (or date?).

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this is completely normal if you only keep it as a he look good kind of crush but when you start going past that its not ok.

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