Was I wrong to bring this up to my fianc??
My fianc? and I have been together for a few years now. He has a child, he hasn't seen him the whole time we were together, his child is 3. His ex girlfriend took his son and flew 6000 miles away with a man she had cheated on him with. They recently moved back home because her and that man split up. He spends some weekends with him. The reason they separated, was because he found paperwork of her doing a paternity test on a different man, he found out she had multiple partners while they were together. Also, during her pregnancy, she was going around her work, saying "so and so" (the man she ran away with) was the father, I was told by a friend who also use to work for that company, but never mentioned that to him. So all along he was iffy if it was his child or not. Personally I feel so wrong meeting his son without knowing if he is actually the father. I also question it because she says she's going to take him to court, he says ill take you for a DNA test, and then all of a sudden she becomes civil & says they can work it out without involving the courts. I had mentioned something about it to him, he was understanding about me not wanting to meet the child until he gets a test. He's more concerned about how the child will feel, & I mean I told him, it's better to know now then when he is older. I even offered to pay half for him. He seems bothered by not knowing, but he's being somewhat in denial. Was it my place to mention it or was I being a little dramatic. I just need some reassurance, advice, what you think I should do, how to feel, really anything!